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Original poster

AIBU to keep my DD in all summer

37 replies

fiskalulu · 27/05/2024 19:44

I live on a big gated housing development with a central green space that all the kids play out on.

One of the kids (the oldest aged 9) has started excluding and bullying my DD.

I've spoken to her parents and they are sympathetic and have tried to intervene but don't supervise and therefore don't stop it. I go out with dd and call out any obvious unfairness but to be honest it doesn't help and could be making things worse.

DD is really, really upset.

What do I do? On the rare occasions this kid isn't around the others all play with DD and it's great - like in the past.

Do I just let her out if this kid isn't there?

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PaminaMozart · 28/05/2024 10:33

Is your daughter the only child this boy bullies?

What does the bullying consist of?

How do the other children react when she is being bullied?

daysonmybicycle · 28/05/2024 10:32

I don’t think a seven year old should be playing unsupervised to be honest (I mean in places like the street or open areas - garden or whatever is clearly fine.) It is precisely for this reason: that children can’t navigate these sorts of social situations themselves.

LoveSkaMusic · 28/05/2024 10:28

Take the other friends to the park with you and organise the other friends to come round to yours and do stuff. Take them all swimming, or to the beach or something?

It doesn't have to be to the point where the other child is completely left out, but it probably would be good to foster closer relationships with the nice friends!

Original poster
fiskalulu · 28/05/2024 10:21

I do take her to the park but she really wants to play with her usual friends.

I hope it will blow over. It's been really upsetting.

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redskydarknight · 28/05/2024 10:07

If you're going out with DD anyway and none of the other children are playing with her, then why not just take her somewhere else to play?

It will probably blow over in a few weeks anyway.

Original poster
fiskalulu · 28/05/2024 10:03

She's 7

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Beautifulbythebay · 28/05/2024 09:30

Just invite specific dc into your garden. My ds 9 won't be out alone unsupervised.. He won't be deprived.

CucumberBagel · 28/05/2024 09:28

I'd take a water spray bottle out there and spray the kid each time 😂

fieldsofbutterflies · 28/05/2024 09:28

How old is your DD?

TheSnowyOwl · 28/05/2024 09:26

Each and every time there is an incident, go to the parents’ house and talk to them about it. Hopefully, eventually, they will be fed up enough of this that they will do something.

Original poster
fiskalulu · 28/05/2024 09:24

I'll talk to the parents again. I do go out with her and have had a stern word on a couple of occasions but I think it makes the bullying child more hostile.

I feel so anxious and upset -
Especially as we have the whole summer ahead of us with this.

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Noseybookworm · 27/05/2024 22:32

Go out with her and give the kid a stern warning that they'd better not be nasty to your DD. I'd sit out with a book and keep an eye on them. Your DD shouldn't be kept in because of one nasty kid. You need to be persistent and tell his/her parents that they have to step in and stop it!