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The reaction to National Service on here

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MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:01

Many European countries (including Scandinavian countries) have NS. Are they ‘ridiculous’? Or are their much-coveted-by-Mumsnet-users communities better because of their sense of individual responsibility and contribution?

If 24 days (that’s how long it would be in total) of delivering prescriptions or volunteering as a hospital guide has you talking about human rights violations and Nazi Germany, then it’s very clear that you’re so pampered a bit of NS would do you good.

Everyone on here expects the world in terms of a ’village’, generous benefits, a caring society, but wants to do fuck all to contribute to it and think the notion of them having to do ANYTHING for anyone else is insane.

It’s nuts!

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shearwater2 · 27/05/2024 19:50

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:47

I agree but we should be moulding this country into the kind of place we want it to be. Saying ‘oh who gives a fuck then, just in it for myself’ won’t improve anything will it?

Saying ‘oh who gives a fuck then, just in it for myself’ won’t improve anything will it?

That's the attitude our politicians have shown for the last 14 years. And now they want young people to sort the mess out for them, for free.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:50

ColdToezzz · 27/05/2024 19:48

Well that’s what the Tories do soooo….

Let’s be like them, great idea!

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YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:50

ColdToezzz · 27/05/2024 19:48

Well that’s what the Tories do soooo….

Which is why it’s a good job that 4th July is coming round soon

HippyShopper · 27/05/2024 19:49

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:46

I’m a very compassionate person but we can’t escape impending economic problems with compassion.

You’re not a compassionate person at all, in fact you are the very antitheses of it !! HTH

Marjoriefrobisher · 27/05/2024 19:49

HippyShopper · 27/05/2024 19:46

Thank you !! The lack of understanding and empathy about ASD on here is shocking isn’t it. Solidarity from one ASD parent to another, the possibility of National Service is absolutely terrifying !

Done in the right way I think I’d be quite happy for my DS to participate, and it could be helpful to him. But that won’t be the case for all, I do see that.

Themisthefacts · 27/05/2024 19:49

Will they compensate the ones who work every weekend already . I doubt it . I couldn’t have survived without my weekend job wages while I was at college. At the very least they will have pay the travel expenses of those doing this free work . Can’t expect students to be out of a weekends wages and then out of pocket for travel . Especially for those who live rural and places with no public transport on a Sunday . Maybe they will organise coaches to get them to these placements but it will cost a small fortune .

ColdToezzz · 27/05/2024 19:48

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:47

I agree but we should be moulding this country into the kind of place we want it to be. Saying ‘oh who gives a fuck then, just in it for myself’ won’t improve anything will it?

Well that’s what the Tories do soooo….

Zwicky · 27/05/2024 19:48

I had less issue with the military bit which was a choice for a smallish number, might have some pay and was long enough to learn something useful and some sort of scheme encouraging people into the TA with a starting course isnt terrible for those that want to.

My ds actually does want to join the military and his response is “so they are training them for intelligence and only making them sign up for a year so if I can’t get on that then I’m never going to get intelligence”
Then I made a hilarious joke and he did not laugh. Not impressed and thinks all the cushy one year good training stuff will go to posh boys. I would say “we shall see” but this stupid scheme will never be mentioned again after July 5th.

takemeawayagain · 27/05/2024 19:48

HippyShopper · 27/05/2024 19:32

What do you expect my DC who has ASD, severe anxiety disorder, OCD, dyslexia and dyspraxia to do ?

Be exempt on those grounds. Mine has ASD and dyspraxia and is starting a degree apprenticeship, he'll need the weekends to decompress. He definitely won't be doing it.

I'll be amazed if it ever gets off the ground though, it'll be one of those head line grabbers that gets quietly shelved if they manage to get back in. Or it'll end up being voluntary or watered down majorly in one way or another.

Marjoriefrobisher · 27/05/2024 19:47

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:46

I’m a very compassionate person but we can’t escape impending economic problems with compassion.

If you can explain to me how attacking this poster who is clearly trying to deal with a very tricky situation helps our economic problems, mate, I’m all ears.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:47

ColdToezzz · 27/05/2024 19:46

Why should they?

The Tories have taken away their rights to live and work in Europe, a functioning NHS, the chance to ever buy a home( or even rent), having a dentist, MH support, SEN provision……and they partied whilst youngsters followed the rules during Covid.

Young people don’t own this country anything.

I agree but we should be moulding this country into the kind of place we want it to be. Saying ‘oh who gives a fuck then, just in it for myself’ won’t improve anything will it?

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Chocolateorange22 · 27/05/2024 19:47

@audweb
You can do both through uni

I worked three jobs to support myself (x2 term time 1x holidays), volunteered on several projects throughout the year (Guides and activities for the elderly predominantly) whilst working hard on my degree and still did very well in the end. I just chose not to sit on my backside watching daytime TV, partying my loans away or indulging in illicit drugs like a lot of my course mates did.

I'll add I'm not entirely sold on the NS idea but the thought that "I'm a student I can't possibly be expected to do anything but study and work ten hours a week" erks me somewhat.

ColdToezzz · 27/05/2024 19:47

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:43

He’ll have to do something at some point. I’m not being harsh but we are facing a societal crisis with young people opting out of society yet still need supporting due to MH reasons. It feels like in 20 years only half of people will be up to working due to various problems.

Maybe we need a government that will think about need instead of their donors and who will actually provide some MH provision. There is none.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:46

Marjoriefrobisher · 27/05/2024 19:44

She knows that. But with our children it can be very hard to see what their future will be. Please try and be more compassionate. It’s not easy lying awake at 2am wondering what will happen to them when you’re gone.

I’m a very compassionate person but we can’t escape impending economic problems with compassion.

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Welshphoenix · 27/05/2024 19:46

As someone who employs teenagers at weekends I want to know if they are going to compensate me for the weekends they can no longer work. Just 1 weekend a month may not be considered much to some of you but to me that would mean at least one member of staff down at my busiest time

HippyShopper · 27/05/2024 19:46

Marjoriefrobisher · 27/05/2024 19:42

I imagine she’s very worried about precisely that, being the parent of a child with ASD myself. A little empathy wouldn’t go amiss here.

Thank you !! The lack of understanding and empathy about ASD on here is shocking isn’t it. Solidarity from one ASD parent to another, the possibility of National Service is absolutely terrifying !

ColdToezzz · 27/05/2024 19:46

Why should they?

The Tories have taken away their rights to live and work in Europe, a functioning NHS, the chance to ever buy a home( or even rent), having a dentist, MH support, SEN provision……and they partied whilst youngsters followed the rules during Covid.

Young people don’t own this country anything.

Coughsweet · 27/05/2024 19:46

coldhouse · 27/05/2024 19:37

It's picking on the young I have a problem with. They will face a far more difficult life than those aged 40+ have so far.

Yes, and life is only going to get more difficult - for most people in the world, not just the UK. This is a perfect time to think up ways to build young people's resilience and help them find a sense of community and purpose.

I'm in the same generation as this proposed national service cohort, but had already graduated by the time the lockdowns hit. My specific age group is messed up enough - we have poor mental health, we're much more inward-looking than previous generations, many of us struggle in the workplace. And yes, I am absolutely a product of this too because my mental health isn't great, I struggle against neuroticism and phone addiction, and I'm nowhere near as mature as a 25-year-old living a century ago.

How much worse is it going to be for the Gen Zers whose schooling and opportunities were limited by covid?

All the 17/18 year olds I know have jobs.

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:46

IClaudine · 27/05/2024 19:44

It is unreasonable though, because it is a last gasp attempt at winning back a few loons from Reform UK PLC. It is not a serious policy. If you think it is, you are being really gullible. Check out very recent Parliamentary Questions on the issue.

Which is also why the reactions are over reactions because it isn’t gonna happen.

Marjoriefrobisher · 27/05/2024 19:44

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:43

He’ll have to do something at some point. I’m not being harsh but we are facing a societal crisis with young people opting out of society yet still need supporting due to MH reasons. It feels like in 20 years only half of people will be up to working due to various problems.

She knows that. But with our children it can be very hard to see what their future will be. Please try and be more compassionate. It’s not easy lying awake at 2am wondering what will happen to them when you’re gone.

IClaudine · 27/05/2024 19:44

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:40

YANBU

Some people can’t even bear to have their adult child make their own cereal, and I think there’s a serious over reaction to this not unreasonable idea

It is unreasonable though, because it is a last gasp attempt at winning back a few loons from Reform UK PLC. It is not a serious policy. If you think it is, you are being really gullible. Check out very recent Parliamentary Questions on the issue.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:43

HippyShopper · 27/05/2024 19:41

We don’t think about the next year let alone next 5-10 years. We work on one day at a time hoping today isn’t the day he’s mental health gets to the point he can’t cope anymore!!

He’ll have to do something at some point. I’m not being harsh but we are facing a societal crisis with young people opting out of society yet still need supporting due to MH reasons. It feels like in 20 years only half of people will be up to working due to various problems.

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AnneTwacky · 27/05/2024 19:43

I honestly think if you're championing this and are not volunteering yourself, you're a hypocrite. What do young people owe society, that older people don't.

Fwiw, I also think it's a stupid idea, not costed properly and is just a knee jerk reaction to losing votes to Reform UK. I reckon, if introduced it would just be another complete fiasco, like everything else the Tories seem to touch.

takemeawayagain · 27/05/2024 19:42

There are just so many better ways this money could be spent in engaging kids, especially those who are going off the rails - which happens way before 18.

24 days of 'mandatory but not really mandatory because we'll just fine your parents if you don't do it' service is not going to help anyone who is already disengaged or gone off the rails or involved in county lines.

It's just a lot of silly nonsense if you ask me and I'd be amazed if it gets of the ground - there is no way NHS staff want to be supervising 18 year olds doing jobs they don't really want to do and aren't getting paid for. I heard that the army was desperate for people in cyber security though so I suspect that's what this is actually all about.

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 19:42

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 27/05/2024 19:40

How offensive. Do you have any idea how that sounds?

As a Jewish person I think @ArseInTheCoOpWindow Dd made a very funny joke 🤷‍♀️

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