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People living in the countryside moaning about rural life

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SuePreemly · 27/05/2024 16:00

I live in a village. New housing estates have gone in recently. Since then we've had complaints on the local FB page about:

Horse poo on roads
Crow scarers in the field being loud
Slurry smells
Dust during combine season

What on earth do people who move into a rural village surrounded by fields expect?

They're always on about having "consideration for others" on their posts, whilst showing none to the place and people whose work involves it 🥴

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brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 28/05/2024 08:32

SuePreemly · 28/05/2024 08:04

Oh @brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr do you really think that's all that goes on in villages?

Ours is full of life, groups, social events in the pub, we have a community centre that's booked up. A scarecrow trail every autumn with social.

Lots of the incomers are never seen at anything. Granted, some do get stuck in and they're absolutely welcomed with open arms. Equally there's plenty of London commuters here who drive to the nearby station too fast through the village go to work, drive back in the evening like someone put a rocket up their arse and complain about the mud/poo on roads, smells etc whilst never joining in with anything in the village.

No surprises incomers don’t show up, they’re treated with suspicion. I look forward to there being new houses in my village so there are a more diverse set of people around.

There was a meeting about it here, I was the only one who supported the new houses. So many locals compained that it wouldn’t be “in keeping” with the village. Somehow they are blind to the fact this village has housing developments from every decade since the 1930s in all the different styles and shapes as you would expect.

countrygirl99 · 28/05/2024 08:29

Willmafrockfit · 28/05/2024 08:20

i heard someone moan about the horse poo, how they should clear it up

some person complained about the dark, on facebook, but he was soon put right.
i complained on facebook about the bird scarers shooting which makes my dog too scared to walk in the nearby woods, but i had a load of unnecessary flak

Sorry @Willmafrockfit but bird scarers are standard in arable areas so I'm not surprised you got totally reasonable flak.

Mostlycarbon · 28/05/2024 08:22

SuePreemly · 28/05/2024 08:04

Oh @brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr do you really think that's all that goes on in villages?

Ours is full of life, groups, social events in the pub, we have a community centre that's booked up. A scarecrow trail every autumn with social.

Lots of the incomers are never seen at anything. Granted, some do get stuck in and they're absolutely welcomed with open arms. Equally there's plenty of London commuters here who drive to the nearby station too fast through the village go to work, drive back in the evening like someone put a rocket up their arse and complain about the mud/poo on roads, smells etc whilst never joining in with anything in the village.

I'm not surprised they're never seen at anything when you have such a snobby attitude to the new housing development! Once conversation is all it takes to know you're not welcome. People have no qualms about letting you know you're not really part of the village.

Willmafrockfit · 28/05/2024 08:20

i heard someone moan about the horse poo, how they should clear it up

some person complained about the dark, on facebook, but he was soon put right.
i complained on facebook about the bird scarers shooting which makes my dog too scared to walk in the nearby woods, but i had a load of unnecessary flak

KnitnNatterAuntie · 28/05/2024 08:19

midgetastic · 28/05/2024 08:04

round our way you can support the communist in many ways such as

Community litter picks or Joining/ volunteering in the local festivals

The house price one is interesting as many rich folk moving to the villages would be descended from poor families who needed to move away to the cities over the last 100 years to be able to feed themselves

I LOVE your deliberate error . . .

round our way you can support the communist in many ways such as

or is this something to do with the forthcoming election?😂

Daftasabroom · 28/05/2024 08:18

SuePreemly · 28/05/2024 08:04

Oh @brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr do you really think that's all that goes on in villages?

Ours is full of life, groups, social events in the pub, we have a community centre that's booked up. A scarecrow trail every autumn with social.

Lots of the incomers are never seen at anything. Granted, some do get stuck in and they're absolutely welcomed with open arms. Equally there's plenty of London commuters here who drive to the nearby station too fast through the village go to work, drive back in the evening like someone put a rocket up their arse and complain about the mud/poo on roads, smells etc whilst never joining in with anything in the village.

Yep, I've some villages where this predominates referred to as dormitory villages.

midgetastic · 28/05/2024 08:04

round our way you can support the communist in many ways such as

Community litter picks or Joining/ volunteering in the local festivals

The house price one is interesting as many rich folk moving to the villages would be descended from poor families who needed to move away to the cities over the last 100 years to be able to feed themselves

SuePreemly · 28/05/2024 08:04

Oh @brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr do you really think that's all that goes on in villages?

Ours is full of life, groups, social events in the pub, we have a community centre that's booked up. A scarecrow trail every autumn with social.

Lots of the incomers are never seen at anything. Granted, some do get stuck in and they're absolutely welcomed with open arms. Equally there's plenty of London commuters here who drive to the nearby station too fast through the village go to work, drive back in the evening like someone put a rocket up their arse and complain about the mud/poo on roads, smells etc whilst never joining in with anything in the village.

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Lollygaggle · 28/05/2024 08:02

PuttingDownRoots · 28/05/2024 07:39

Mo one is happy about another plot of land in our village potentially being developed... simply because the schools are full, the GP is over run and the roads need repair. Its an old mining and farming village, its not attractive. New housing will probably be nicer than the old RAF and mining hoses. But its the practicalities.

Its a particularly horrible piece of land as well... old quarry land.

A relative bought a new house at the bottom of an old quarry , despite us warning them, and to no one’s surprise it flooded and there were landslides. It’s basically a big stone basin to collect water in.

In our area they are building on water meadows and flood plains despite local protests . The locals have warned and warned and , again ,to no one’s surprise the building sites are flooding and they are trying to sink pilings to no avail because there is no solid base to sink them onto. The houses that have been built have had to have remedial work for damp and flooding in gardens.

The worst of it is these are “affordable” houses part owned by housing association and the youngsters who buy are stuck with unsellable houses .

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 28/05/2024 07:48

unsync · 28/05/2024 06:40

@oakleaffy I think you've missed the point there. 🙄 I'll explain it more clearly for you. The incomer moaning about the affordable housing being built for villagers, people who have grown up, gone to school in the village and are now priced out by the people who haved moved to the village and are complaining about their house being devalued.

Most of the people in our village accept that there has to be development, but are concerned about infrastructure and community cohesion. A lot of incomers make no attempt to join in village life or support the community.

What village life, and how do you “support the community”. Is it buying other people’s junk at a jumble sale ?

PuttingDownRoots · 28/05/2024 07:39

Mo one is happy about another plot of land in our village potentially being developed... simply because the schools are full, the GP is over run and the roads need repair. Its an old mining and farming village, its not attractive. New housing will probably be nicer than the old RAF and mining hoses. But its the practicalities.

Its a particularly horrible piece of land as well... old quarry land.

BlackEyesLikeADollsEyes · 28/05/2024 07:17

People like complaining. Look at us here, enjoying a good old complain about the people doing the complaining Grin

CammoMammo · 28/05/2024 06:52

unsync · 27/05/2024 21:57

We had a woman in the new builds complaining that when the affordable housing gets built, it will devalue her property and she "didn't move to a village to live next to a council estate". The affordable housing is for people with links to the village who can't now afford to live here because incomers are pushing prices up. 🙄

Everyone in my old village (the 1970s estate part of the village) said the new estate would devalue their houses but it actually put the prices up. Once people become more aware of a place, they see exactly what’s on offer. The older houses all have garages, massive gardens and driveways for multiple cars.

unsync · 28/05/2024 06:40

@oakleaffy I think you've missed the point there. 🙄 I'll explain it more clearly for you. The incomer moaning about the affordable housing being built for villagers, people who have grown up, gone to school in the village and are now priced out by the people who haved moved to the village and are complaining about their house being devalued.

Most of the people in our village accept that there has to be development, but are concerned about infrastructure and community cohesion. A lot of incomers make no attempt to join in village life or support the community.

waitingfortheholiday · 28/05/2024 04:16

marie3e · 28/05/2024 00:06

The "slurry" complaint is valid, absolutely disgusting it is used

So do you actually think they shouldn't be using it?

EdithStourton · 28/05/2024 04:02

marie3e · 28/05/2024 00:06

The "slurry" complaint is valid, absolutely disgusting it is used

It's free fertiliser. What else do you suggest is done with it?

DrCoconut · 28/05/2024 00:14

@GOTBrienne this is why I would never move to a village. I don't mind for a holiday but no paths, miles to drive to get to facilities and things for the kids etc just doesn't appeal to me at all. I don't get why people who don't want that sort of life move to a rural location.

CharlotteBog · 28/05/2024 00:10

On our village FB
"Dear farmers, can you stop planting rape seed, it really aggravates my asthma"

Sure love.

YourPinkDog · 28/05/2024 00:07

Elephantsareace · 27/05/2024 22:56

There was a thread on here a while back where a woman had spotted a farmer with a shotgun in the field behind her garden and was downright hysterical about it, she just couldn't understand why despite loads of posters telling her it was normal.

It's an entitled thing rather than a townie thing, on the whole. Well-off people with good jobs who are used to being in charge.

I agree with this.

marie3e · 28/05/2024 00:06

The "slurry" complaint is valid, absolutely disgusting it is used

wellington77 · 28/05/2024 00:03

Upallnight2 · 27/05/2024 23:54

Walking through Manchester and my 5 year old asks me "why does everything look broken" 😬

I love your toddler, this is brilliant!

Upallnight2 · 27/05/2024 23:54

IMBCRound2 · 27/05/2024 20:39

On the flip side - my toddler went to London for the first time and after two days looked deeply concerned and asked where the cows where…

Walking through Manchester and my 5 year old asks me "why does everything look broken" 😬

OutOfTheHouse · 27/05/2024 23:19

My folks live in a village that used to be quiet, but there was an abattoir built about a mile away ten years ago. The village is the shortest route between the abattoir and the town where most of the workers live. They all come tearing through the village when the shifts change. Quiet most of the time and then really busy at 6am and 6pm. (Or something.)
The residents have tried all kind of traffic calming but nothing has worked.
A couple from London bought the house opposite and were shocked at the traffic. They complained and said that they were London lawyers and would get it stopped. They did not get it stopped. They moved back to London after Covid.

BoudiccaOfSuburbia · 27/05/2024 23:16

I am embarrassed to admit that when DEFRA ( or which ever body was in charge at the time) demanded that farmers let hedges grow a friend of mine was so outraged at the loss of a view that she chopped a view-shaped rectangular hole in the hedge across the road from her kitchen window.

The 4am harvesting nearly caused her to combust.

JudgeJ · 27/05/2024 23:09

plominoagain · 27/05/2024 20:48

I live in an area that had a massive influx of people moving into the countryside around pandemic time , because it's comparatively cheap for a decent size house with a bit of land . So far , they've complained about no street lighting , no pavement , no buses , no takeaway deliveries, not many taxis , mud on the roads , the occasional loose animal , the neighbour ponies eating their hedge. and tractors working at all hours .

There's a reason why houses are cheaper here - you moved into the largest area of concentrated farming in the country . It puts nearly 70% of all foot crops on your plate . It has the highest percentage of grade 1 ( most fertile) soil in the UK. You're living in the middle of a food factory for gods sake ,

Lincolnshire?