DD spending a while totally alone

I'm not a parent and would have loved two months living alone at 18.

But also, if it doesn't work out, it's not like she can't change her plans or go home.

I mean, it sounds proper boring to me. Couldn’t haven’t imagined it at 18. But she’s an adult OP just let her get on with it @Abeelikenoother

I think a lot of the enthusiasm on this thread is because the demographic is mums who lets face it are usually utterly desperate for some time alone and no one bothering them...I know I am 😂

But for a teenager I feel like they would get bored and lonely really quite quickly.

I would have loved to have her confidence at that age, sounds great, what experiences she's going to have.

I would have loved that at 18. Also I think it's a great thing to learn to be alone. So many people I know have been in shit relationships one after another because they can't face being on their own

She's unlikely to be accepted by many hosts as a lone teenager unless she already has good reviews from other hosts, and even then some may instantly reject. There are some that auto accept, but unlikely for a rural cottage.

A rural cottage in a UK winter will be miserable, it'll be grey and freezing. I'd go for one abroad.

@pinkspeakers

if you'd read the OP's posts, you'd lnow

She didn't want to. She wants to rent a cottage to do the things she wants to do!

@Abeelikenoother it sounds fantastic, let her be, just because you wouldn't like it.

if she gets lonely she can invite a friend to come for a bit.

she's old enough to know her own mind.

I agree with you op and think it's a terrible idea. I really don't see the appeal of doing this when you're 18. Yes this might seem appealing when you're middle aged and have spent decades bringing up a family, working and doing endless shit for others ..but why would you do this when you're young?

This sounds lovely!! Is it her mental health and isolation you're worrying about - or your own?

Is there something she particularly wants to do in solitude? Maybe paint, read all the books, write her own, find herself?

She'll learn, experience and grow so much.

She may not enjoy it as much as she thinks. Or she may love it. No harm in giving it a try! She can always leave if it doesn't work out.

(intrigued to know how an 18 yr old is paying for all this!)

Sounds blissful. I bet she can find a nearby pub that serves food if she wants and there will be shopping to do if she wants to eat, fresh eggs from a nearby farm too if she's lucky. It's not as if she will be boarded up in a tower. Please don't spoil it for her by pestering her with too many phone calls, maybe agree a reasonable amount of contact with her before she goes. Lend her your favourite cook book and treat her to a craft kit to take

Wow she's very lucky. That's the best gap year I've ever heard of.

Tell you what, OP, I'd your DD hates the cottage after a week or two, let me know and I'll pay for the rest of the booking and take it over

It sounds fabulous.

It the time alone really doesn't suit her she can either leave or invite someone to join her.

What’s the worst that could happen? She isn’t enjoying it and comes home? Only one way to find out. Sounds like she’s got a lot of personal growth planned. If I came into money at that age I’d have done a ski season and partied hard. Your daughter sounds much more sensible, she’s doing the kinda thing I’d save for middle age.

God that sounds like bliss. If she’s in the UK there’s only so rural you can be, unless she gets snowed in or something, if she’s got a car she can always get home in a day at the most.

Dd1 did something very similar.
She took a gap year , travelled and worked.
She lived alone in a remote village in Spain for six weeks in a small flat .Dh is Spanish so she can speak the language
She also travelled to Tanzania and Ghana and lived and work as a Public Health volunteer for two months.
She spent some time on the East / West Coast of America and then went to Mexico..
She is one of the most confident , self sufficient people you would ever meet.
Obviously, I was concerned as her mother, but I am extremely proud of her.
I would have loved to do something similar when I was her age, but my mother didn’t want me to.
I always said that when I had dcs, I wouldn’t stop them from evolving as people.
Also, we have mobile phones, and the internet so I wouldn’t worry.
Your daughter sounds wonderful

If she has the trust fund money, then if she goes somewhere and hates it, she can easily just leave. She won't be a prisoner there and can book a flight/train or drive home.

She might love it. She might hate it. But she is a financially independent adult so will be able to take steps to leave if she does hate it.

I think everyone should learn how to be alone and learn to enjoy their own company...and just be comfortable with themselves. I lived on my own at 18, nowhere near friends or family, no TV or phone - I loved it!

What a mature young lady.

It's great to be able to recognise at such a tender age that however sociable you are its important to be able to spend time alone and also to be happy in your own company.

She may choose an airb&b big enough that if she wishes a friend or friends to stay a night or more she can.

having a car means she can pop out any time she wishes, she could even leave the property for a days or a few days if she wants to visit friends etc.
the owner will not care if she sleeps there every night, as long as she leaves it secure.

Exactly. Sounds perfect. It's important to learn to enjoy your own company. Good for her.

There is literally nothing wrong with being alone

Sounds fabulous

Bit different to temping in a shoe factory in Rawtenstall to pay for uni, let's face it