Would your husband…

If I had a valid reason not to be able to do it, then I would have asked him to, and he would have done it.

But unless I had a reason other than 'it's late and dark' then I wouldn't have asked. I would have just done it.

My husband would definitely go and get it himself if I asked or even mentioned it. He's old school.
However I would NoT have asked . It's my mistake? I would especially not have asked because I know he would go and feel it's unfair to take advantage of that as it's my own fault.
The fact that you make a post about it feels like you think he SHOULD go, which sounds very entitled. You made a mistake and instead of being grateful or even feeling slightly guilty that another human being was put out because of you, you feel like they're in the wrong for not wanting to fix your mistake!

Mine would get it for me as he knows how much of an anxious panicked I am.

So you expect your dh to do something you don’t want to, which was your mistake ?
can you imagine if this was the other way around

Oh no.

Another single post and the poster disappears.

Why do people start these threads as a kind of 'poll' then don't engage?

Happens so much now.

I’m now 100% imagining Mumsnet posters living in Downton Abbey where the driveway is 2 miles long and dodgy commoners abound.
I couldn’t live somewhere where I couldn’t go to the end of my own drive. How do you get home from going out, be that in taxis or on public transport? How do/will your 16 year olds do so?
To answer the q, my DH would if I asked but he’d think it strange and I wouldn’t ask in the first place.

If I were up two flights of stairs in the bedroom and he was still downstairs, I'd ask him to do it and he would (although with a 70% chance of Not Seeing It, based on recent forays into the shed for something from the chest freezer...)

If I were still downstairs I'd get it myself.

I'm wondering where the hell StarTrek is living that a trip outside to the bins is scary. In a flats complex with sex offenders living on the first floor? War zone? Country lane with a 10 minute hike to the bins down unlit roads with traffic? I accept not everyone is in a safe built up area, but so scared of the dark as to not leave your own house seems excessive.

My DH would definitely go and get it

DH would get it. I wouldn't even need to ask. We have rats in our area (thanks to next door for putting food out for local foxes) and I'm terrified of them so don't tend to go out at night when they're more likely to be awake.
Even if we didn't he'd still be more than likely to go and get it.

Oh yeah that but as well!

But he had told us all off and told us how to behave, so there must be a valid reason he wrote that nonsense as well!

Well, if I were the one who had made the error then I wouldn't be asking him - obviously! We are each responsible for ourselves.
And I don't buy this "little woman" stuff that says we're not capable of going out in the dark. Women are just as capable as men in this regard.

I wouldn’t even ask DH. I’d get it myself.

Mine would get it but I wouldn't ask him to

DH would be fast asleep. I’d get it myself.

Frogpole "Why are you lot sicking your Chihuahuas on people"

Doing what? 😕

Have a look at what the films about.

Huh? I have no idea what that means. I did Google but it just comes up with a film.

@Frogpole

What's this nonsense?

the battle of Hastings so you should delete your post!!!ONE!1!ELeVEN!!1".

I think you've got to carried away in your rage

Amusing though.

All MNs 's a MAN has spoken, he says were uncontrollably raging, despise each other.

Can we all take notice of what he says and how he would go to the bin, because he is a man and he must be listened too and agreed with.

By the way @Frogpole it's 2024 and as women are not dressed in petticoats and long frocks, so getting something out of the bin is not a concern to us.

Chivalry is dead, because it was used as an excuse to keep women quiet,

I wouldn't ask him to. I'd do it myself.

It would depend on the situation.
If I was in my night things and he wasn't, which would be quite likely at that time. he'd do it. If he had put his slippers on and I was fully dressed, then I'd do it.
He'd probably do it if I asked him to.

However I'm about to scrobble him as he hasn't done the hoovering that he promised to do yesterday and the guests arrive in half an hour.
For some reason he never does the hoovering without a fight.
Except the time he thought it was a good idea to hoover up some water he'd spilt. Bye bye hoover.
And him a scientist!
(he has cooked lunch though)

What I'm saying is just because he didn't react in one way that you (or MN) think he should, that doesn't mean he's a waste of space. It's if he does nothing and complains then it's a problem.

I would just go and get it myself, no discussion.

If I was undressed and in bed and the bins were being emptied the next day, I might ask.

Dh would grumble but he'd do it for me if I asked him to.

What about equality? If your DH put something in the bin by mistake, would he expect you to go and get it?

Chill out!

Uncontrollable rage