Would your husband…

OP come back!! We need to know what you put in the bin?? And has your dh made it back from
the end of the drive yet?

Mine would offer but I would try to insist on going myself as it's my job / fault.

Yes he would at the very least come with me as we tried to locate it, if not insist on getting it himself.

@Sunflower8710 be careful what you put in the bin in the first place? You put it in, you get it!

I live fairly rurally and it creeps me out going out in the dark, there are wild animals scurrying around and it is almost pitch because there are no lampposts and few neighbours. DH always locks up the gates at night but he is very protective, for example he answers the doors to delivery drivers etc.

Explain to me why a DH is the ‘suitable’ one to get this? is it because he’s not scared of the dark/feeble/more ‘manly’.

I would love my DH to do this for me to save me the hassle but HATE if he did it due to social misogyny reasons. It would be like him realising he needed a shirt for work and sending me down to the kitchen at 11.30pm to do it.

This is exactly how it would go in my house too. I'd be chuntering to myself about being a muppet but by the time I'd got my shoes on, DH would have retrieved it.

I can't see me asking him to do it unless I was ill or something.

And our bins are collected on a bank holiday Monday too!

He would get it for me if i asked him to, which I probably would if i was in my pyjamas

My DH would get it.

It wouldn't occur to me to ask somebody else to go and get it.

If I’d messed up, I’d expect to fix it myself. The dark, end of drive etc doesn’t automatically turn it into a blue job.

However, one of the reasons I married my dh is because he’s the sort of person who would go and do something like this without me asking. He’s very kind, capable, resourceful & generous.

I live on my own. Extracting something from a bin is not something I would need to ask for help with. Even at night. I recently had to go check the fuse box late at night & reset the safety switch. It had to be done so I did it. It’s around the back of the house, very dark but it’s my home and it took all of two minutes.

Mine too. And he opens the car door for me. It might be old fashioned but he’s very respectful of me. It doesn’t mean he thinks I’m incapable or ‘The little woman’ far from it actually. I make most of the decisions in our family life.

Wow your council are better than ours then

Two possible scenarios:
DH is not a big strong man- he’s quite slight. I would ask him to do it because I am lazy. And it’s dark and I am in my PJs. He would say: Oi are you kidding? Do it yourself. I would do it and grumble while doing it. He would say: oh oh and while you are downstairs can you bring me a glass of water?I would make some joke, moan a bit more (not seriously), do it, bring the water, hand it to him and say ‘here it is your highness’ and that would be that.

Scenario 2: DH would say ‘yes and what do I get for doing it?’ And I would say: ‘the joys of being married to me??? Surely?’ And he would say: yeah RIGHT and go and do it. And then I would say: oh oh can you also bring me a cup of tea? And he would say: Yes your highness. Is there anything else she might require?! And make the cup of tea, and bring it and maybe present it with a flourish and life would carry on.

How can this be a big deal?!

He might.

No reason why you couldn't go yourself though.

Same here. All those types of jobs are his to do and I'm not ashamed to admit it.

Our bins still get collected on bank holidays.

but maybe, just maybe that’s where they keep their bins.

maybe they use them as a blockade against all the baddies who are hanging around outside their drive at 11.30pm just waiting for their moment to strike.

DH would go and get it if I mentioned it but I’d go myself. TBH I love being out in the dark. Can’t imagine why you wouldn’t go yourself unless you live somewhere dangerous. How long is your drive, miles?

Hahaaaa exactly!

If I asked him he’d go and get it but I wouldn’t ask him to.

My husband would definitely go, I wouldn’t need to ask.

Some of these replies are absolutely wild!

Of course I’d be able to get it myself, (I am a strong independent woman after all!), but my husband would still go and get it for me with little prompting, (i.e. “oh no I think it threw such and such in the outside bin!”, “do you want me to go and get it for you?”) because that is the kind of man he is!

And how some of you have never asked your husband for a cup of tea (when you are capable of doing it yourself 😱) is baffling 😂

He would do it if I asked but he'd be very grumbly about it.

I'd just wait till the morning and do it myself tbh.

We have a bin shed and I absolutely hate going in there even during daylight - no chance I'm rooting around for something when it's dark outside.

That's great that you would @Frogpole but I'm not sure what thread you are reading where posters are raging, despising and tearing each other down?

I do find it a tad odd to avoid going into your own garden in the dark. As some other posters have pointed out it gets dark by 4 in the Winter - I'd find that a very difficult way to live. And if you are on your own are you stuffed? If there is a good reason for not going out such as you live in a dodgy area (where neither of you should go) or have some sort of fear, such as the poster you mentioned, then that's obviously different, but the OP didn't say that.

I know OH would go if I asked, but it would genuinely not occur to me to ask him. I can do it, so I'd just do it. I don't see why I would shove my 'not very nice job' onto him - in fact I think it would be a bit mean to do so.

I find it a bit depressing that in this day an age there is still this attitude about what women can and can't/will and won't cope with.