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Do you check your partner’s phone?

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IncognitoUsername · 26/05/2024 19:06

Or, what would happen if you asked to?
Following on from a few threads today, just made me curious. DH and I are regularly on each other’s phones - doing a pizza order, Funky Pigeon etc or sharing a meme that someone has sent. DH’s phone automatically connects to the car so all his WhatsApp’s etc come through onto the screen. We both have a passcode but it’s the same one so could easily open each other’s phone if we wanted to.

Would a partner having a locked down phone make you automatically suspicious?

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brunettemic · 26/05/2024 19:30

I use his phone from time to time, like you say ordering food or looking on Amazon if I’m being too lazy to get mine. We both have PIN codes and both know each others but I wouldn’t go and read his messages, that’s a massive invasion of privacy. A friend of mine kept snooping in her DH’s WhatsApp and iMessages and it’s caused a massive issue between them.

SilverBranchGoldenPears · 26/05/2024 19:29

Hell no. Life’s too short.
if he wants to screw around it’ll be obvious and my life is such that I could walk away tomorrow- even after years together.

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 26/05/2024 19:24

My husband is one of those weirdos that doesn’t have an iPhone. I wouldn’t even know how to work it!!

tbh, if he wants to fuck up our relationship that’s his bad. I’d find out without needing to stalk him. Truth always comes out.

BlueMum16 · 26/05/2024 19:22

I'm not sure why I'd want to look at his phone or him mine.

If he asked to look at mine I'd findi t uncomfortable that he'd want to and would probably say No

Until recently I didn't have a passcode on it so DH and DC could and did use it.

ApolloandDaphne · 26/05/2024 19:16

I never look at DHs phone. I don't really know why I would. He uses it for personal use and for work and i suspect most messages he gets are tedious work things. He doesn't look at mine either unless I'm showing him something but mostly I would WhatsApp links to him.