To have elective surgery DH disagrees with?

Exactly this!!! In the 25 years since I had it done I saved thousands of pounds on glasses and contact lenses.

Ignore him. I had it done when I was 25 and it was life changing. I've only recently had to start wearing glasses again and already looking at my options to have surgery again. It is absolutely not a 'vanity' surgery!

I had laser surgery about 30 years ago and there was a different technique in those days. It worked well and I was glasses free for over 20 years - then the usual long-sightedness because of age happened. I do think it was worth it. I have awful allergies so contact lenses became impossible for me to wear. I might have had more luck with the new disposables. The stuff about night vision being affected is true. It's really only a problem with driving at night. I'm fine at night on a familiar route. It is harder when it's an unfamiliar road and the hazing lights can be a bit disorientating.

I would do it without hesitation if my prescription was suitable. I can't wear lenses either and would love to be free of the hassle and inconvenience of my specs. It's true that there are risks and, as the pp says, if you're the one who gets complications then you'll probably wish you hadn't gone ahead, but lasik/lasek really isn't new and pioneering anymore, and personally I think the risk is a good one, especially having done your homework and knowing that you'll commit to good aftercare.

I think the bigger problem is your DH's attitude. If something went wrong, would he really throw it in your face for all time, or would he step up and be supportive, just as you would expect him to if you had an accident or developed an illness or disability? If the former, then personally I'd be thinking twice about the relationship as well as the surgery.

I had lasek.
Massively fast recovery - my eyes were sore and gritty on the day of the op, that's all.
It was life changing and one of the best things I've ever done.
If you're funding it, explain to dh what a big difference it would make, and the savings over time on glasses and contact lens schemes.

Yea I'm an an anaesthetist and when it gets debated at work the reply is "why does every ophthalmologist wear glasses then?" I'm a bit of a wimp in avoiding the unnecc

Omg do it, it changed my life!

I've had LASIK surgery, admittedly almost 20 years ago now, in the centre in Crete that the doctor who invented the method (Dr. Pallikaris) was the director. The surgery itself was uncomfortable for a few days (painful only on day 1) and annoying with the amount of drops I had to put in my eyes. Light sensitivity remails a problem to this day (I have to wear sunglasses even on a bright overcast day). I had perfect vision for about one year. After a year my right eye started having poor vision. Went to the dr. Developed a condition called keratectasia/keratoconus, which basically means my cornea "sagged" due to it being thinner and developed a point to it. This means light gets filtered through it abnormally, which means my vision is affected and cannot be corrected with glasses, just hard contact lenses (which my eyes won't tolerate post LASIK as cornea is too thin). Currently vision in my right eye is 1/10 and only way to fix it would be a corneal transplant. Yes complications are low, but if you end up being the unlucky one having one you'd wish you never went through with it, I sure do!!

I had laser surgery with the flap with Optimax about 30 years ago!
im 55 now and now wear glasses again, but just this last year. 29 years of freedom 🙏🏻
also the lens I have now is minimal not milk bottle

I had LASIK 10 years ago. It was £2.5k per eye and was the best money I have ever spent. I was short sighted and I am practically 20/20 a decade on. The surgery looks gory but the reality of it isn't too bad.

A colleague had hers done and convinced me. She did say it was quite painful immediately afterwards but not during. She had a very strong prescription so whether they had to laser her eyes more, making it a worse recovery I am not sure.

Because of her experience, I took 2 codeine and 2 paracetamol half an hour before I was due to have it done. I was absolutely petrified in the waiting room, when I laid on the bed a nurse held my hand throughout, I was so frightened. They put eyedrops in that completely numb your eyeball, then the clamp that keeps your eye open, I always thought this would be the horrible part but your eyes are so numb you don't even feel the urge to blink, then this big machine gets lowered onto your eyeball, it pushes down and cuts the flap, all I felt was the pressure of pushing, no pain. The doctor then manually lifts the flap to the side, at this point your vision goes blurry and out of focus, like looking through opaque glass, another machine is lowered and the laser starts. You hear clicking and see bright lights, it lasts seconds. The doctor then manually puts the flap back over and they repeat on your other eye.

I had an eye test before and an eye test immediately after. I could instantly read the tiniest writing on the bottom line straight after!

About 20 minutes after the procedure my eyes began streaming with water, they didn't stop pouring for a good 6 hours, I couldn't open my eyes, it was like when you are cutting an onion. No pain though. I just went to bed and relaxed.

The next day when I woke up I had foggy clouds in my peripheral vision, which is common. This haze lasted about a week, gradually diminishing each day.

In all honesty, the worst part of it all, was the fact I couldn't wash my face or hair for the week after as you can't risk water getting in behind the flap before it has fully healed. I also remember having to sleep on my back like a post because you can't smush your face into your pillows in case you dislodge the flap. I went to the mandatory check up 2 days after the surgery to see if it was healing well.

The weirdest thing was putting my glasses on and my vision being like it was when I took them off!

GO FOR IT!

Normally I’d say YANBU - your body, your choice (which I do still agree with!) but in this instance I’d side with your DH. To me LASIK isn’t worth the risk whatsoever, there are now so many reports of people with serious, lifelong complications from it. Your eyesight and quality of life are far more important than the vanity aspect of not having to wear glasses. Contact lenses are the best alternative, I’ve been a daily wearer for 10 years and mine genuinely don’t bother me in the slightest.

I find it telling that out of all the ophthalmologic surgeons I work with none of them have had LASIK despite a huge amount of their practice being dedicated to performing it. They’ve all stuck firmly to glasses!

Best thing I ever did. I do get a bit of glare at night but can drive without an issue. I don’t know which one I had but it was 15 years ago and I still have 20/20 vision so am delighted. My sister also had it done and had 20/20 vision for about 5 years before her eyesight deteriorated a bit (which would have happened even without the surgery) and so she’s a bit short sighted now and wears glasses again. It is a bit of a gamble as to how long it will last I suppose but for me it’s been incredible. It’s not vanity surgery in the slightest- being able to see is not being vain!

Your body your choice.
I will say I had it done in 2012 I was back wearing glasses by 2018.
I was just unlucky. I had a stable prescription and had zero complications healing etc it's just one of those things.
It kind of feels like wasted money looking back

It’s the best thing I’ve ever spent money on (apart from my house) and for me it was admittedly vanity based as I hated how I looked in glasses and I have no regrets. My eyes are slightly more sensitive to light but driving at night is fine and I wear sunglasses more but that’s partly because I now have lots of sunglasses after being so limited to prescription or lack of vision in them.

I had it done in my early 40s, for all of the reasons you said. A few days of recovery, sitting in a dark room, eyes covered and all was well.
would he be supportive of the recovery time? There’s no way you can cook and clean or put kids to bed.

I have slight hazing at night but nothing that stops me from driving. I am now mid-50s and need reading glasses but I loved that decade without glasses!

I absolutely hate wearing glasses too, and I can't get away with contacts, despite trying on a number of occasions

A friend of my mums had laser surgery a few years ago and had severe complications. He's now registered blind and there's nothing they can do to reverse the damage. For this reason I would never have them done. Yes, the chances of these sort of complications are very low, but knowing how it's affected someone's life has put me off forever. I'll put up with the glasses 🤓

Yep me too!

I made a decision about my life/appearance based on my DHs opinion at the time. My DH has since left me after having an affair with another woman. I wish I'd never bloody listened to the fuck wit and just done what I wanted.

I'm not saying your DH is cheating or going to leave. But what I am saying is that it's your life and you need to live with the consequences of doing it/not going through with it, not him. So suit yourself and only yourself.

The One Show featured an ophthalmic surgeon having lens replacements.

Lens replacement is not the same as Lasik.

“None” of the surgeons have it themselves.

Thats entirely untrue. The One Show featured an ophthalmic surgeon having lens replacements and I had my surgery after reading the account written by a surgeon of his own experience.
I don’t know anyone who’s had it done that required glasses again nor of anyone who has had detrimental side efffcts.

Is he worried about the new self confidence you will have perhaps??

I had LASEK, and have had dry eyes ever since. I can drive at night but my night vision is worse than it would otherwise be. I did have about 10 years glasses free, I now have a tiny prescription. Overall a mixed bag.

Op, I'm thinking of this, so wondered if you can recommend the surgeon or practice that you had your appointment with?

Nope nope and nope. I know 10 people that have had laser eye surgeon and 7 of them have had complications. I would never ever have the surgery and I say that as a glasses wearer. I would rather wear glasses than be in horrific pain or seeing bright lights etc like my friends do. Not worth it

Out of interest, how is your husband’s eyesight? Anyone with 20:20 vision is not qualified to comment in my opinion. Vanity surgery indeed. Imagine waking up and being able to see!!!