To have elective surgery DH disagrees with?

I think he's entitled to express his concerns, ut ultimately it's your decision, which seems to be his position anyway.

Did you have it done?

I had LASEK more than 25 years ago and it has changed my life so much for the better. I was terrified and paid extra to go to a talented surgeon who did a lot of repairs re other eye surgeries.

I had night halo effect for about a year, but I could still drive in the dark; I drive without issue in the dark now. In my mid 50s, I still don’t wear any glasses or lens, so it’s saved me a fortune over the years. It is so much easier to exercise now I can see properly. My eyes are much more comfortable since the surgery as I used to have very nasty acidic gushing incidents prior.

I had perfect vision from the moment I removed the bandages the following morning, and no pain or irritation at any point. It has honestly been one of the best and life-changing decisions I ever made. I can’t recommend it enough!

OP - I might be WAY off the mark here, but could his concern be, that if you were to have problems with driving at night, it would always fall on HIM to be designated driver on a night out? Or is his concern genuinely solely your health & wellbeing?

Lots of people saying it’s not vanity surgery
… so what if it is?! It’s OP’s body and all that.

Only you can decide. My vision was so much sharper after LASIK even compared with my glasses. Colours were brighter and the world looked different- and I had a really quite low prescription. This was 20 years ago.

After I bravely went ahead a whole flood of friends and relatives had theirs done. There were a variety of small issues, mainly with pain following Lasek ( if I remember correctly). None had lasting night vision issues though I had initial dryness and still have a small amount of halo.

I had a hospital check last year for something else and they commented on how very thin the flap was and how strong the cornea. Ask your surgeon for his complication rate. Using national stats isn’t very helpful, it will include a few total clowns.

And tell your DH that you’ve considered his opinion and will be making your own decision as a full grown adult.

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It is more likely than not that all will be fine.

I think 'go for it! You'll be fine' is an irresponsible thing to say. Statistically it's pretty likely that OP will be 'fine' but there's certainly a chance she won't be. People on this thread have explained the ways in which they're not fine, including dry eyes, inability to drive at night and other problems. You don't know that OP won't fall into this category.

I've just had mine done and it's the best decision ever. Recovery for me was a matter of hours - by this I mean the time I felt any sort of discomfort or like my life couldn't go on as normal.

I'm 3 weeks out. Have the odd feeling of dryness every now and then but nothing major. If you are a suitable candidate, risk is very very low.
The most important factor is how you take care of yourself afterwards to avoid infection, ect..

Honestly I had put it off for years for fear of the surgery itself. It's under 30 seconds per eye.

If you're in or near London happy to recommend where I went.

I'd say go for it! You'll be fine.

I’d totally do one eye at a time as I don’t like the idea of my eyes both being out of action.

Are you having both eyes done at the same time?
Where i work we do eye surgery, for those very worried and/or concerned we do one eye at a time, i LOVE how the patients come back a month later for second eye to be done, ALL have said how its the best thing they've ever done.
Ive been working here for a few years now, to my knowledge theres never been any problems so complications must be very rare.
Go for it and good luck.

I had laser treatment for cataracts recently. Slightly different I know but I’ve had replacement lenses put in. Amazing results. Although I have mild prescription glasses now for reading I don’t actually have to wear them. Can see without fine

Don’t have lasek of lasik is an option. I have had both, lasek in one eye and lasik in the other. This was 15 years ago. The lasek eye I’ve had trouble with dryness and a very fragile cornea. I have pretty good sight in it but not nearly as good as the lasik eye which I have 20/20 vision with still. Absolutely do have it done though. My prescription was -7. It’s totally life changing

Ahh man, it’s not vanity surgery, it’s life changing and really convenient. I don’t know your feelings towards how glasses make you look but they are a nuisance, they get steamed up, dirty, fall off, being able to see without them is liberating. I had mine done in 2009 and I can only describe it feeling like Dorothy stepping out of her house after the storm in wizard of oz and everything is bright and clear. I got glasses in 2020 for tv and driving at night but even still don’t hugely feel like I need them. The only thing I regret is not having them done sooner.

My dh has really bad eye sight and even getting to -3 would be life changing. He hasn’t had it done and one of the reason is the risk of not being able to drive at night plus many others. Want to guess the profession of his father… Ophthalmologist! Been out with so many working in the same department and so many wear glasses.

I work with eight or nine eye consultants. None of them would have it done and it makes cataract surgery later much more difficult

I now can’t drive at night due to night blindness. I’ve loved the 15 years of no glasses but I regret my decision due to dry eyes.

I used to work for a fellow of the Royal College of Opthalmologists who did dozens of cataracts, lasik treatments, blepharoplasties, etc every day. He refused to have Lasik, as he felt the risks were too great. That tells me all I need to know.

I had it done 10 years ago and it changed my life. I now wear glasses for reading, but had a very strong prescription for my distance vision which is still excellent. Wish I'd done it much sooner. It's your decision and nothing to do with your husband. If he would 'never let you forget it' were there to be any complications, he sounds like an real arse. He should be encouraging you to do something that will improve your quality of life.

I had lasik when I was 50. I'm now 67 and still love it. I can still drive at night.

one of the worse decisions I ever made - driving at night is a nightmare and I still wear glasses. But check the odds of success and decide accordingly. Apparently, if you have large pupils, more risk of complications.

And how old are you?
having the surgery done would be like wearing your glasses all the time, so if you currently take them off to read, you will lose that ability.

if you don’t have big pupils, or unusually shaped eyes, you’re unlikely to get significant night vision problems with the modern machines.

I had it done 24 years ago and haven't regretted it for one single moment. Most definitely one of the best decisions I ever made!