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To think my little boy is an absolute sweetheart?

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Maythefoursbewithyou · 26/05/2024 11:20

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am.
Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

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YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 10:32

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 27/05/2024 08:58

do people on MN honestly think that PIP is enough to cover carers? No, carers would come from a different budget after an OT and SW determined such things to be necessary. They have nothing to do with PIP.

My children are young carers, we do also have a social worker and there is no evidence of harm or neglect. one of them is mid-teen and still doesnt hate us so I can only assume they are doing okay and hope for the best. I have no other options here.

Indigo I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure such ignorant comments. Sadly for so many disabled people, life hasn’t gone to plan and some children do some on young caring but it sounds like you’ve sought all the support you can and you’re doing a great job. Ignore the horrible comments

steamedisbest · 27/05/2024 10:30

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YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 10:30

Robinni · 27/05/2024 08:45

also this

@AInightingale bang on

The only time DH and I both drink more than 2 drinks together is if someone else is minding kids and taking responsibility for them.

What if they need a&e in the night and neither parent is responsive or able to drive. I don’t understand why people don’t think about these things.

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I imagine they do what people who don’t actually drive do - get a taxi or a lift

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 10:29

Robinni · 27/05/2024 08:40

@LuckySantangelo35

It isn’t normal for a 7yo to think “ah Mum’s not up at breakfast time and is a hungover mess so I’ll have to get her some sugar fixes”

I had a hangover a few wks ago - guess what I still got up at 7.30am when they did, fed my DC and took them on a day out because they are my responsibility.

While she and DH were lying on the child could have decided to leave the house, could have attempted to cook some hot food for Mum, could have fallen down the stairs and broken his spine.

It’s not remotely ok.

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ah Mum’s not up at breakfast time and is a hungover mess so I’ll have to get her some sugar fixes

Why on Earth would he think “hungover mess” rather than just “mum’s ill”??

I had a hangover a few wks ago - guess what I still got up at 7.30am when they did, fed my DC and took them on a day out because they are my responsibility.

What’s that smell? Oh it’s burning martyr! No one is gonna give you a medal, so what - why didn’t your OH get up?

IMO it’s much better parenting to show your kids you need a lie in/day off sometimes - ie show you’re a normal human with needs and wants - than constantly display martyring like being someone who never puts yourself first is something for kids to aspire to.

While she and DH were lying on the child could have decided to leave the house, could have attempted to cook some hot food for Mum, could have fallen down the stairs and broken his spine.

My god I could never ever raise children whilst having such a neurotic and melodramatic mindset - it’s really not healthy to think this way. I know you THINK you’re doing parenting right but irrational anxieties rub off onto children.
Any of this could happen whilst you’re on the loo. Do you hold it all in until they’re in bed?

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 10:23

steamedisbest · 27/05/2024 08:29

is “glass of squash” a euphemism for “hair of the dog” ie perhaps a bloody mary?

Yes you’ve absolutely nailed it the 7yo made a drink of vodka and tomato juice which is why OP hasn’t come back, she’s drunk again, bloody OP!

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 10:22

LuckySantangelo35 · 27/05/2024 08:09

@Moro93

why wouldn’t it be? The boy didn’t exactly make a full English breakfast did he?! Doesn’t sound that experienced in getting up and making breakfast for himself and mum to me

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Exactly

Honestly by this drama llama’s posts you’d think the 7yo was wiping the OP’s arse not fetching a drink

Phrases like ‘ruined childhood’ are hysterical. Only in MNland. No one in real life is this weird. Or maybe they are and that’s why they don’t have mates to get pissed with 🤣

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 10:21

I often wonder how bullies are made, the girl bullying my DD is a really nasty piece of work and I genuinely wonder where such evil bitter comments stem from. then I look at threads like this and realise that nasty bitter jealous adults exists and unfortunately some of those adults have children and raise them to be like them. And they think they’re doing a great job because they don’t do <insert something they judge other people for>

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 10:20

Osllo · 27/05/2024 06:22

Judging by some of the responses to my comment that the OP sounds rank, stewing in bed hungover with a 7 year old catering to her, some of you were on the sauce yourselves last night.

I hope you are all #blessed with a pre-teen to look after you with your hangovers today.

So anyone who calls out your nasty md completely melodramatic comments must be <checks notes> drunk? 🤣 Maybe you just made a nasty comment and have got called out on it?

YaMuvva · 27/05/2024 10:17

Differentstarts · 27/05/2024 05:35

Because children shouldn't be carers, it's not their responsibility to sacrifice their childhoods to care for adults when we have a benefit system to prevent this

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Do you really think PIP is enough to cover hiring staff?? And that if it was there’s droves of wannabe caters ready and waiting? Sometimes people have no choice and a bit of empathy wouldn’t go amiss

MeinKraft · 27/05/2024 10:14

Osllo · 27/05/2024 06:22

Judging by some of the responses to my comment that the OP sounds rank, stewing in bed hungover with a 7 year old catering to her, some of you were on the sauce yourselves last night.

I hope you are all #blessed with a pre-teen to look after you with your hangovers today.

I don't drink. I just think you're a twat.

DishSoap · 27/05/2024 10:12

LuckySantangelo35 · 27/05/2024 10:11

@DishSoap

i don’t think that the child does know. For most of us it’s not biscuits and juice that sort out hangovers it would be a full English breakfast and a can of coke or a McDonald’s breakfast. This child doesn’t sound too experienced in managing a hangover tbh.

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Well that's true! Fair point

LuckySantangelo35 · 27/05/2024 10:11

DishSoap · 27/05/2024 10:09

A child of that age should not know how to deal with their parents' hangovers.

@DishSoap

i don’t think that the child does know. For most of us it’s not biscuits and juice that sort out hangovers it would be a full English breakfast and a can of coke or a McDonald’s breakfast. This child doesn’t sound too experienced in managing a hangover tbh.

DishSoap · 27/05/2024 10:09

A child of that age should not know how to deal with their parents' hangovers.

Justcallmebebes · 27/05/2024 09:55

wilteddandelion · 26/05/2024 17:11

off topic totally but are you a genuine phycologist?!! very cool if so

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Let's hope not, because she can't spell it

krustykittens · 27/05/2024 09:40

ageratum1 · 27/05/2024 09:36

A pint of squash is not a normal breakfast drink is it?

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Perhaps it is in their house? Perhaps it is his favourite drink and he thought his mother would like it? There are lots of reasons why this child brought his mother squash before you get to ‘mother is an alcoholic and child is abused’.

Janjk · 27/05/2024 09:38

Mozzarellaballs · 26/05/2024 14:50

I had an almighty hangover years ago and my then 5 year old thought I had a bug, he put his arm round me and said don't worry Mum we still love you and you are still part of this family 🤣🤣

This is lovely.

Janjk · 27/05/2024 09:37

Vistada · 26/05/2024 14:22

This thread should be saved and pinned as a prime example to study of the (very true) stereotype that MN is full of sanctimonious arseholes

This.

Your little boy sounds great OP.

ageratum1 · 27/05/2024 09:36

krustykittens · 26/05/2024 19:34

Perhaps he was just bringing her a drink?! When I offer people drinks I am rarely doing it for medical reasons.

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A pint of squash is not a normal breakfast drink is it?

Brawcolli · 27/05/2024 09:35

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It’s rude to ask and I’m sure you know this.

steamedisbest · 27/05/2024 09:19

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Brawcolli · 27/05/2024 09:17

steamedisbest · 27/05/2024 09:00

@IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour why do you have a SW?

Why are you interrogating this poor woman, leave her alone and have a rest, you’ve been all over this thread like an embarrasing itch 😂

steamedisbest · 27/05/2024 09:17

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duvetdayy · 27/05/2024 09:15

steamedisbest · 27/05/2024 09:00

@IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour why do you have a SW?

Why is this relevant?

steamedisbest · 27/05/2024 09:00

@IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour why do you have a SW?

LuckySantangelo35 · 27/05/2024 09:00

Robinni · 27/05/2024 08:40

@LuckySantangelo35

It isn’t normal for a 7yo to think “ah Mum’s not up at breakfast time and is a hungover mess so I’ll have to get her some sugar fixes”

I had a hangover a few wks ago - guess what I still got up at 7.30am when they did, fed my DC and took them on a day out because they are my responsibility.

While she and DH were lying on the child could have decided to leave the house, could have attempted to cook some hot food for Mum, could have fallen down the stairs and broken his spine.

It’s not remotely ok.

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@Robinni

great for you that you managed all that with a hangover. But my point is is that on the off occasion you have a lie in it’s not detrimental to a 7 year old whatsoever

oh and 7 year olds know not to leave the house etc . Cos they are 7 not 2. honestly kids get underestimated so much!

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