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Maythefoursbewithyou · 2024-05-26T10:20:37+00:00

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am. Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

steamedisbest · 26/05/2024 12:08

Pollyannamex · 26/05/2024 12:04

Did you post this on Facebook too?

probably with photos and comment #blessed#

Pollyannamex · 26/05/2024 12:04

Did you post this on Facebook too?

1offnamechange · 26/05/2024 12:03

Whu · 26/05/2024 11:52

Well now I’m more concerned that you were drunk while your 7 year old was in the pool last. Seems a lot of negligent parenting here and that could be bloody lethal.

dear god people on here will just jump on and make up anything to give someone a kicking rather than ask questions first and then judge.

Yep I'm sure OP was downing tinnies while her child swam around alone 🙄
Or perhaps he was at the pool with grandparents or friends who were looking after him while mum had a rare night out. Perhaps his dad was there, doing back to back shifts doesn't mean he hadn't finished work by 9.30.
Or she didn't start drinking until they got back from the pool
or given that most pools in the uk aren't open at 9.30 she actually means a paddling pool or similar.

If people actually think a seven year old shouldn't be allowed to go downstairs to pour some squash on their own, that is far worse parenting in my view, over-cossetting your poor darlings to an extreme.

It's a cute story OP, and I'm sure if you told anyone normal in real life they'd agree your ds is very sweet.

Nigellasstickytoffeepudding · 26/05/2024 12:03

Oh please. Some of the hysteronics on this thread.

I left DH in bed this morning and 7yo downstairs with breakfast and kids YouTube and went food shopping.

It's fine. He is perfectly safe in his own home, knows to wake his dad for anything he needs and is a sensible little chap.

steamedisbest · 26/05/2024 12:01

CerealPonderer · 26/05/2024 12:00

OP, ignore the pearl-clutchers

I'm always fascinated by posters who say this ^ on such threads.

Having basic parenting standards, such as not being thrilled when your 7 year old learns how to nurse you through a hangover, isn't 'pearl clutching'.

I always imagine this type of comment is from people with even lower standards than the op, who are happy to have validation that their own piss-poor actions are fine.

yep

they are probably labouring under a horrible hangover themselves

Soonenough · 26/05/2024 12:01

Very remiss of him not to get paracetamol as well.

CerealPonderer · 26/05/2024 12:00

OP, ignore the pearl-clutchers

I'm always fascinated by posters who say this ^ on such threads.

Having basic parenting standards, such as not being thrilled when your 7 year old learns how to nurse you through a hangover, isn't 'pearl clutching'.

I always imagine this type of comment is from people with even lower standards than the op, who are happy to have validation that their own piss-poor actions are fine.

Shiningout · 26/05/2024 12:00

My 6 yo would wake me up by 7am if I was hungover or not so I'm shocked you weren't woken till 11am tbh!

Scorbet · 26/05/2024 12:00

SilverHairedCat · 26/05/2024 11:30

More concerned that a 7yo was unattended by either parent this morning to the point he had to wake you up after 10am.

He's 7. Did your parents hang over you all day at 7? I watched cartoons and got myself food if nobody was awake.

Non-issue in itself for a 7 yo to not be supervised whilst adult sleeps.

Beezknees · 26/05/2024 12:00

curiouslycoy · 26/05/2024 11:40

So jealous of your 7 year old! In the thick of it with a 20 month DS and 22 weeks pregnant, working 5 days.

I don't wish these years away and DS is a cutie but it's hard work! Especially the illnesses and lack of sleep on top of it all.

Petrified of having a second and the few years to come, it's going to be tough but sure will wish these days were back one day.

Always dream of having say a 7 and 9 year old! Can't wait for those days!!!!

I used to think the same, toddler years were relentless. It will be here before you know it, hang in there! Mine is 16 and it's flown by. Although I do miss the little boy cuddles!

uhOhOP · 26/05/2024 12:00

MonsteraMama · 26/05/2024 11:51

Uh oh OP, this thread is not going to go the way you thought it would.

FWIW I remember my mam and dad being (very unusually, they barely drink) hungover as all hell on boxing day one year when I was about that age, it was great. My siblings and I tag teamed taking them cups of tea and toast and we got to spend the whole morning playing playstation and dossing about in our jammies. None of us scarred for life, promise.

No, you can only say this if you have the correct username! 😁

AhBiscuits · 26/05/2024 11:59

7 is a bit young to be left to fend for himself. It's sad not sweet.

steamedisbest · 26/05/2024 11:57

can you tell us about the “strange events” that resulted in you trashed at 3?!

KreedKafer · 26/05/2024 11:55

Maythefoursbewithyou · 26/05/2024 11:49

Oh I see this has been misinterpreted, my little one I think/hope has no idea what a hangover is, he just responded to a mummy who was tired/ despondant and not really giving the usual enthusiastic energy he knows and loves and biscuits and squash were a pretty intuitive move for him. To be fair, that's kinda what we do when we're sad, feeling crap anyway. Furthermore, he is at this funny age where he is always trying to be this independent and aloof character but deep down enjoys cuddles and watching emotive nonsense on TV in my bed and I'm just enjoying him because every day I see him getting more independent and less cuddly so I just cherish him really. He was in the pool till about 9:30 pm so has only just woken up himself, his father should be left to sleep though, he's been on a six day back to back shift and is so so tired. I've literally closed the door to his dad's bedroom and said we must leave him until he comes out. Meanwhile I'm chuffed to have my son in the bed and a tin of biscuits, what's not to like?

OP, ignore the pearl-clutchers. Your little boy sounds like an absolute smasher.

CerealPonderer · 26/05/2024 11:55

Some of the problems we have nowadays is that children never learn how to entertain themselves. OK a hangover probably isn't the best catalyst for this but what about single parents who are ill e.g. Children don't need to be entertained 24/7

My children (including youngest who is 7) have never been 'entertained 24/7'.

They have, however, always had at least one parent that's conscious during their waking hours. That's a pretty low bar to hit.

cariadlet · 26/05/2024 11:55

saveforthat · 26/05/2024 11:47

Some of the problems we have nowadays is that children never learn how to entertain themselves. OK a hangover probably isn't the best catalyst for this but what about single parents who are ill e.g. Children don't need to be entertained 24/7..

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I totally agree with children entertaining themselves.

Scenario 1
At least one parent gets up with a child. They have breakfast together and chat. Parents(s) get on with some jobs while child plays. Parent occasionally checks in with child or child pops to see parent and talks to them while parent is doing stuff.
Great!

Scenario 2
Child wakes up. No parents about. Child goes down and gets himself some breakfast. Entertains himself for a few hours. Eventually takes drink and biscuits to hungover parents to try and wake them up and get a bit of attention.
Shit!

Whu · 26/05/2024 11:52

Well now I’m more concerned that you were drunk while your 7 year old was in the pool last. Seems a lot of negligent parenting here and that could be bloody lethal.

IncognitoUsername · 26/05/2024 11:52

Presumably you weren’t both drinking while he was in the pool till 9?

MonsteraMama · 26/05/2024 11:51

Uh oh OP, this thread is not going to go the way you thought it would.

FWIW I remember my mam and dad being (very unusually, they barely drink) hungover as all hell on boxing day one year when I was about that age, it was great. My siblings and I tag teamed taking them cups of tea and toast and we got to spend the whole morning playing playstation and dossing about in our jammies. None of us scarred for life, promise.

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Maythefoursbewithyou · 26/05/2024 11:49

Oh I see this has been misinterpreted, my little one I think/hope has no idea what a hangover is, he just responded to a mummy who was tired/ despondant and not really giving the usual enthusiastic energy he knows and loves and biscuits and squash were a pretty intuitive move for him. To be fair, that's kinda what we do when we're sad, feeling crap anyway. Furthermore, he is at this funny age where he is always trying to be this independent and aloof character but deep down enjoys cuddles and watching emotive nonsense on TV in my bed and I'm just enjoying him because every day I see him getting more independent and less cuddly so I just cherish him really. He was in the pool till about 9:30 pm so has only just woken up himself, his father should be left to sleep though, he's been on a six day back to back shift and is so so tired. I've literally closed the door to his dad's bedroom and said we must leave him until he comes out. Meanwhile I'm chuffed to have my son in the bed and a tin of biscuits, what's not to like?

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saveforthat · 26/05/2024 11:47

cariadlet · 26/05/2024 11:41

Of course he can cope. A 7 year old is more than capable of getting dressed and getting his own breakfast.

But why should a young child have to entertain himself for a few hours while his parents sleep off a hangover?
Bloody selfish and poor parenting. In fact, total lack of parenting.

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Some of the problems we have nowadays is that children never learn how to entertain themselves. OK a hangover probably isn't the best catalyst for this but what about single parents who are ill e.g. Children don't need to be entertained 24/7..

steamedisbest · 26/05/2024 11:45

BippityBopper · 26/05/2024 11:42

What if he'd bought the squash and biscuits up for himself and now he's internally raging that you're scoffing them?😂

To people saying why does he know what to do when someone has had a hangover, OP probably looked similar to being poorly. When I have been ill my DC tend to gather round and bring me things to make me feel better.

OP was passed out asleep

CerealPonderer · 26/05/2024 11:44

Poor kid.

There's nothing cute about this op. He's 7 not 17.

You shouldn't be putting him in the position where he has to nurse you through a hangover because at 10.20am both his parents are still passed out and no one got up with him that day.

steamedisbest · 26/05/2024 11:43

my child ”coping” isn’t my benchmark as a parent 🤷

BippityBopper · 26/05/2024 11:42

What if he'd bought the squash and biscuits up for himself and now he's internally raging that you're scoffing them?😂

To people saying why does he know what to do when someone has had a hangover, OP probably looked similar to being poorly. When I have been ill my DC tend to gather round and bring me things to make me feel better.