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Not to have given up my seat on plane

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Rainbowgoldover · 26/05/2024 07:14

Just wondering ....

I flew home last night from holiday with a friend.

BA flights , flight out was dreadful, cramped seats , allocated at check in so we had last row next to the toilets ...

On the way back we learnt our lesson so paid to book seats, I booked an aisle seat, friend booked a window seat, flight about 70 per cent full.

The person in the middle seat , asked me if I would move so she could have the aisle seat.

I refused and said no I booked aisle and don't want to sit in middle seat. She said but I want to be near my family in the row opposite. I still politely refued to move.

Cue lots of aggro, she finally got the flight attendants to move her accusing me and my friend of talking over her , we absolutely were not, both had headphones on watching netflix.

If you really want to sit somewhere why can't you pay 23.99 and pre reserve a seat, don't make others feel bad for not giving up theirs ?

OP posts:
karottybagel · 26/05/2024 07:24

Whilst I agree in principle it is REALLY awkward being sat between two people who know each other. Even if you were watching netflix if she knew you were together it is going to get awkward for her. I think it's polite to book seats next to the person you are travelling with or at least in a different row so you aren't together.

Having said that no, yanbu

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 26/05/2024 07:23

qwertyqwertyqwertyqwerty · 26/05/2024 07:20

I'd have probably swapped because I don't see the harm in doing so.

You booked your seat, so didn't have to swap, but this is an example of how having to pay for something additionally (guaranteed seats) drives unhelpful interactions.

Edited

Op didn't swap due to an uncomfortable experience flying out and paying £23.99 to reserve a more comfortable seat. Why would she just give that away?

If you paid for steak in a restaurant and someone who had a glass of free tap water asked for your steak because they really fancy a nice meal, would you roll over then too?

Owl9to5 · 26/05/2024 07:22

I'd only swap if it suited me.

WaltzingWaters · 26/05/2024 07:21

Peonies12 · 26/05/2024 07:16

Of course you weren’t being unreasonable. You paid. If she wanted a specific seat, she should have paid. I’ve never paid for a seat but I’d never expect to move, I don’t care where I sit. Occasionally I’ve moved when someone’s asked but only if they have a better seat!

All of this!

mileenderr · 26/05/2024 07:20

Usually I would say yanbu, but I was recently on a long-haul flight stuck in a middle seat between two friends, who spent the whole flight talking over me, passing snacks back and forth so that had clouded my view 😆.

qwertyqwertyqwertyqwerty · 26/05/2024 07:20

I'd have probably swapped because I don't see the harm in doing so.

You booked your seat, so didn't have to swap, but this is an example of how having to pay for something additionally (guaranteed seats) drives unhelpful interactions.

Keepthosenamesgoing · 26/05/2024 07:19

You should have literally said that to her ! Of course you are not BU,

CadyEastman · 26/05/2024 07:18

Not unreasonable at all. Sorry you had a crap flight, I hope that the holiday more than made up for it.

ZekeZeke · 26/05/2024 07:17

Of course YANBU
She is a CF

Peonies12 · 26/05/2024 07:16

Of course you weren’t being unreasonable. You paid. If she wanted a specific seat, she should have paid. I’ve never paid for a seat but I’d never expect to move, I don’t care where I sit. Occasionally I’ve moved when someone’s asked but only if they have a better seat!

DustyLee123 · 26/05/2024 07:16

Some people are so entitled. Good on you for refusing to swap.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 26/05/2024 07:15

YWNBU

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