Giving grandchildren different amounts of inheritance

50% to son, 50% to Grand daughter
Son can then choose to give his children what he wants
Grand Daughter should not be treated differently because her Mother died

I actually think the granddaughter should get more.
If the daughter was alive the estate would be split 50/50 between the son and the daughter. And then on their death, their estates would pass to their children.
So I would be saying something like the estate should be passed to my children, and in the event they are not alive, their portion should be passed to their children.
That way, 50% to granddaughter, 50% to son for him to do as he wishes. He can pass it on to his kids if he wants.... I expect he probably won't!

What a shame your friend has to ask this question

Her sons children will receive money from him when he dies, but thankfully for them, they have a dad who is alive right now

50% to son
50% to daughter, therefore granddaughter as her mother is dead

Anything else is wrong

This post is hard for me to read. I won’t be getting any of my father’s inheritance and I don’t want to say why as it may be outing but because of this I feel it is really important in this situation to share equally. Three of my father’s children (including me) will not be getting any inheritance and this isn’t because we have been bad kids etc.

Her son believes 90% should go to his kids? Ha. I bet he bloody does.

I think your friend should give 50% to her son and 50% to her late daughter, so directly to her granddaughter.

It is up to her son to split his inheritance with his two sons. The granddaughter should inherit the 50% that would've normally gone to her mother.

Her son it outrageous suggesting anything other than this. Even suggesting an equal split among the three is pretty bad - as it wouldn't be that way if her daughter was still alive.

The 10/45/45 split is vile.

Split equally. That way you aren't just giving the grandchildren money but you are giving them the gift of not living with resentment towards one another. End of the day it's your friends choice not the sons.

That girls mother is dead.

The "worst" you coukd justify whould be 33:33:33 which is still unfair and wrong.

But really it should 50:25:25 which is what is fair.

90% to the grandsons is just predatory from the son.
Also those grandsons will at some point inherit from their charming father (&mother,)

The son sounds like a real prince amongst men 🙄

Edit: actually 50% to Granddaughter and 50% to son is the def the best option it also cant be seen as unfair if it outlines its the deceased daughters share.

The Will should also be with a solicitor and the Granddaughter should know the contents of the will and have the solicitors details.

I would do 25% to each GC and 25% to her son.

He can give away his 25% to his sons if he wants.

But she hasn't benefited from her mums death. She's lost her mum when she was young. The inheritance was just a side effect of that not a win.

His sons will also be the recipients of his estate when he dies? So they will get an inheritance from a parent at some point but likely will benefit from their parents being around as they grow up.

50% to granddaughter 50% to son (he can pass on inheritance to his children if he wishes).

As the mother of children who lost their other parent at a young age I’m appalled to think that a grandparent could possibly think they’ve “inherited nicely” already and exclude them at the expense of their cousins.

I thought he was going to have suggested 1/3 to each and she wondered if that was unfair because technically if both her children were still alive she’d have done 50/50 and her granddaughter would have benefitted eventually from her mother. A granddaughter who has lost her mother already at 22 does not need any sign of not being favoured by her remaining family.

Split equally. If she doesn't the poor granddaughter will be very hurt and it will drive a wedge between her and the others. The only reason the poor granddaughter has more is that her mother is dead. Whereas the others have their parents which is worth more than any money.

I suggest she sees a solicitor to do it and lodges the will with them to prevent any funny business by the uncaring son who is trying to pressurise his dying mother into favouring his own children. She can always tell him it's equal now if that makes her life easier.

The poor girl has lost her Mum and her uncle wants to try and take her inheritance - awful. To be honest I would do it has if it had been split between the children first so 50/50 so would end up up being 50% to the granddaughter who has lost their mum and 25% to the other 2 grandchildren. The son sounds horrible and greedy.

10% is ridiculous, does he actually respect and love his niece? Does he understand the gravity of her loss? Strange he wants to rip her off for his own sons gain

Keep it fair. Your friend should split the inheritance in two and give her daughters half to her grand daughter and her sons half to the two boys.

Relationship wise the boys still have their father and each other, lucky them. The boys will also inherit from their father in due course. They have different privileges.

What a horrible son she has. I’d split it 50/50 - to the son and granddaughter who receives her mum’s share. He’s really showing his true colours with his suggestion and it’s not good.

Agree with other posters that it would be 50% to daughter & 50% to son in normal circumstances. So asking her to skip a generation is already getting more from his Mum than they would otherwise get.

It's not the niece's fault that his children chose to go to uni. Maybe she wanted to go but couldn't afford it.

The proposal that she only gets 10% is ridiculous & unfair.

Idk if I agree with this. A grandchild, whose parent died when she was a child gets no day in how often she visits the parent of their deceased parent. I say this from personal experience. Once the bond, especially if not that strong, is broken and if the grandparent doesn’t put in a gargantuan effort, it isn’t easily repaired.

50/25/25. If her son wants to redress the imbalance he can sell his home and split the money between his sons. What a shit to even suggest his sons get more! How much is his house worth? They'll inherit that one day and I don't see him leaving any to his niece to make it fair then.

Split it equally . Her son's children will have extra inheritance from him whereas granddaughter won't .

A key factor to take into account should be who bothers the most with granny, helps her out, comes to visit her, actually makes an effort to have a relationship with her. Inheritance is not a given right.

Equal split - it's your friend's money and she shouldn't be emotionally blackmailed by her son to make decisions that put her in a position of emotional conflict. This is what inheritance does to people, turns them grabby.

Equally is the only fair thing to do.

The boys will inherit from their own parents too when they die the niece has had her inheritance early because she lost her mum before her cousins lost their parents.

I feel very sorry for your friend. The uncle seems to be extremely grabby and an absolute CF. He firsts suggests she skips a generation and then suggests a split which favours his sons massively; his children go from 0 to 90%. That’s bonkers.
Your friend should stick to 50% granddaughter and 50% son. It’s then up to the son to gift his sons what he wants.
Again feel so sorry that your friend has to go through this in this fase of her life.