I'll pre caveat this post by saying I'm an experienced mum with older children but currently navigating having a surprise latecomer, and I adore him but he's super challenging as he has Adhd and probably autism too. He's very sensory and we have quite a task settling him at night and also lots of food issues, sound sensitivities and he's a massive stimmer. Anyway, he's recently developed an obsession with using coco butter, he loves it on his skin when he gets out of the pool or bath and generally getting ready in the mornings. I'm fine with this, I love the stuff anyway, used it a lot when I was pregnant to stave off itchy skin and stretchmarks and it smells like chocolate, what's not to like? It's bloody lovely. What worries me, possibly irrationally and neurotically, is that he's developed this appreciation after becoming super tight with a cute little boy who happens to be black. Now I'm delighted he's got a little mate, and his mums one of the funniest and brightest women I've had the pleasure of meeting in years, I think she's brilliant and weve got on straight away because we were both at the same level of madness with our postgraduate journeys while dealing with kids, what I think is happening is that my son is absorbing some of their culture and copying what they do when they get out the pool or bath and that's grand, plus I definitely dont mind using it and giving him a bit of a massage as I think it calms him and helps him sleep. I might be being paranoid, but what I don't want to happen is that this mum or anyone else thinking that I'm trying to copy or appropriate what they do, or trying to fit in. I'm of a fairly rare combination of mixed race myself and it was really shit growing up when people kept trying to own things or appropriate stuff, I almost felt scared to do anything for fear of offending someone. I think my little boy is savvy and knows that using this coco butter moisturiser is nice and his mates do it. He's probably right. I also know it has some cultural significance, and I'm massivly inept In this respect, I'd appreciate opinions. If I'm being batshit and over thinking stuff, please tell me. I'm honestly thick as mince, probably where the autism comes from, we as a family tend to have more degrees than we have friends.