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Rehoming my dog

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findingthingshard1 · 25/05/2024 20:25

I've name changed because I'm ashamed and I don't want my friends knowing my real username on here

I've recently had a baby via emergency c-section and I believe it's caused me to have postnatal depression. I'm really struggling. I've become single and I'm on maternity leave so funds are at its lowest.

I have a dog, who I love so much but I can't cope anymore. I've not left my house for a week that's how down and low I feel. I need to rehome him, I can't afford to feed myself never mind my dog. I never thought I would end up in this position. 4 months ago I had money and could afford to live comfortably but now I feel like all hope is lost

I don't know where to turn

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Pistachiovillian · 25/05/2024 20:51

Imo you'll regret this decision once you've come out of the fog and feel better (& you will)
Foster care, help from anyone in the community, doing the very basics and just that, for now is better.
Dogs won't die if they're not walked sometimes or eat tidbits because you haven't managed to get out for dog food. Get thru it and do the bare min for now. Get help. Your dog will then still be there when you're back on your feet.

PiperLeo · 25/05/2024 20:51

Have you applied for Universal Credit?

BoobyDazzler · 25/05/2024 20:50

I don’t think this is about the dog, really, is it?

I think you’d benefit from speaking to a doctor and dealing with the depression before you make any drastic decisions.

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findingthingshard1 · 25/05/2024 20:47

@EineReiseDurchDieZeit I didn't n is that was a thing? I've been looking at dog rescues on Facebook but they all seem to be full.

I'm sat here now just in despair, I thought I had it all. Home, partner, beautiful baby and lovely dog, it's all just gone to shit

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findingthingshard1 · 25/05/2024 20:45

I've tried to speak to my friends but they're all married and have good jobs. No money issues that I know of anyway

It's crazy how your life can change with just a click of your finger.

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FredsRoses · 25/05/2024 20:33

What have you done that makes you so ashamed that you can't speak to friends about the way you're feeling OP? I think you need to see your GP as soon as possible, as it definitely sounds like you are suffering from PND. Are you coping OK with your baby? Please reach out to someone, as you're a Mum now, and are responsible for a baby who can't look after themself, so however bad you're feeling you simply have to put your child first. I'm sure there will be people along soon who are better equipped to offer advice than me, but please get some help.

If you genuinely can't afford to feed your dog, then you need to contact one of the dog charities and ask for help.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 25/05/2024 20:31

Could your dog be fostered til your back on your feet? Flowers

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