I have no interests or hobbies or passion,

You are allowed to have different interests and that doesn't make you boring

I like baking/cooking, running and sports

My husband likes dj'ing, computer games and sports

We only have one common interest really but wouldn't dare call each other boring.

Tbf I think you are very busy with work and a young child and your partner sounds like a dick. I’m also really sorry to raise this but is there a chance that he’s had his head turned with at work or in your friendship group?

A bit of a random thought but would you and your DP enjoy board games?

I've started playing and really enjoy them and there have been some good threads on MN with interesting recommendations

I enjoy Catan, Carcassone, Jaipur (good fun for 2 players), Takenoko, Raccoon Tycoon (love the auctions!), Trekking the World and Ticket to Ride

Really good fun and we've built up a collection by buying them as birthday gifts

To sum up:

There are lots of interesting things out there like podcasts and ways of getting out and about a bit more, and MN is a good place for recommendations.

With a toddler and a job you absolutely shouldn’t feel bad if you’re not doing anything much on top! And certainly don’t let your partner make you feel like that. Whatever you want to do is fine for now.

If you like reading or want to know more about the world, put on podcasts or audio books while you iron, cook, clean etc. And while you exercise.

I don't like your dh saying you're boring. And he has gone into spiritual things. A good friend who is a wonderful charming woman was married to a guy who began to explore stuff like that. She had no interest ..understandably. Gradually he began to spend more time with his NEW friends and met a woman who became his SOULMATE as she was interested in his weird stuff. I am concerned he is trying to put you down to justify looking elsewhere.
I have lots of hobbies which my dh hears about for about 5 mins here and there. As for his hobbies l barely manage 5 minutes!! Don't go looking for hobbies to keep him interested..when you find something you like you will pursue it. It could be baking..is that going to turn you into a goddess..ignore him and follow your own interests whenever it suits you.

You have your job, your children, your home, your partner and you keep fit. That's not an empty life!

But lacking passion for anything is something I'd want to address. What did you love doing in your teens or as a child? That's often a good basis for starting a new hobby. What about your taste and style? If you like a certain artist you could start looking for exhibitions of their work. Or a designer - go to V&A or Design Museum to look at their clothes or furniture.

What music do you like? Could you see some bands live, or learn an instrument or join a choir? When were you last excited by something? Or angry about news in the media? Might anger or distress persuade you to join a cause or charity or political party to campaign for change?

You could do worse than make a bucket list. It sounds grim but imagine you were told you have one year left to live. Where would you want to visit? What bands might you want to see live? What challenge might you want to accomplish?

You could get interested in travelling to new places. You could step up your fitness and train for a half marathon or iron woman or start wild swimming.

You sound like someone I could have loads of interesting chats with! Reading, exercise, planning travel, these are all great fun, and I'm an expert in none of them. I read crime thrillers, I'm trying to run a few k a few times a week, and I like researching places to go on the off-chance I ever get to go there (looking at you, Corsica, currently in planning since 2019!).

I don't think you need to devote a massive chunk of your life to something to be able to enjoy doing and discussing it. PDiddy on the other hand would bore me shitless 😁

My friend and I had nearly an hour conversation about stain removers / washing machines/ how we wash clothes/ and how mucky our kids are… had to stop ourselves to comment on how boring we are!

I think there are times in life when we really need hobbies and times we are too busy. My mum loved her hobbies now she’s retired and has the time!

Op, you must have some interests, otherwise surely you'd just be staring at a wall all day. What sort of TV programmes or books do you find interesting? What sort of threads do you gravitate towards on MN? Those two things alone will give you an idea of the sorts of things that intrigue or interest you.

Perhaps your partner calling you boring has wrecked your self esteem and made you think you're boring?

Your plan to visit Italy sounds fascinating . . . that's definitely worth pursuing 😁

There's so much that you could learn now in preparation for your visit, the culture, geography, history, language etc. If you like browsing in charity shops there are often travel guides . . . they are fascinating to read and it would help you plan which parts of Italy you would really like to visit. My DF was there during the war and fell in love with Lake Como

I though you would have a 10yo or a teen, basically a more independent age tbh : it’s no wonder with a 2 yo, working full time, and a husband that often works away if I understood correctly, and limited budget like many especially these days, that you don’t have time/headspace for hobbies.

You mention several interests in your posts, some that you have very understandably stopped for now, honestly you sound just fine to me :). There’s lots of potential for developing them, I know googling is a bit cliché, but just try typing in, say, ‘what hobbies for someone who loves coloring?’. You’ll likely get more answers than you wished for haha (and compatible with phone scrolling, which we all do, proof being, well, we’re here right now😅).
Audiobooks can be good for reading while for ex doing chores, I use audible personally.

Do you have any mum friends to go to activities with with your little one, to help with your anxiety maybe (depending if group settings or being alone make you more anxious though) ? Toddler groups ?

And, well, I’m unsure I’d find aliens a great conversation starter ha, to each their own I guess, and if you wish, a half hour scrolling the Daily Mail should be plenty enough to happily chat about pdiddy scandals and the likes 😊.

I think my family wish they didn’t have to hear about my interests all the time

Anyway, I say your partner on this one for now, you’ve got a lot on your plate.

Get a national trust membership?

I second the recommendation of YouTube..... if you are selective. There is a lot of garbage, but a lot of classic documentaries, plays, concerts, historical series, information about healthy eating, etc etc can be found on YouTube. For instance, I like listening to a lovely Irish lady who has lots of programmes about British history (her monikeris History Calling).

Hmm, “My partner keeps calling me boring” - I really hope he’s nicer than he sounds from this!
But it’s still a good thing to try and learn more about the world and all the interesting stuff out there.
Is your child still very young? I find I start looking things up on my phone because I can’t answer questions like, “How far away is the moon?”. Other friends have become experts on dinosaurs! Did you know that there’s a longer time gap between Stegosaurus and T. Rex than between T. Rex and us?
Mumsnet is a great source of recommendations for books, films, TV series, podcasts… There are also some great YouTube channels out there - I’ve got into reviews of how accurate historical film costumes are (the reviews are funniest when the costumes are totally wrong!).
Personally, one of my biggest things is gardening - do you have any space to grow plants? And I like the suggestion to take photos of plants and the natural world - good mindfulness stuf!

Yes I agree with this. I sing and am very involved in a couple of local choirs. It’s great for meeting people with the same interest but if I ever mention it to work colleagues/non-singing friends their eyes practically glaze over after the first couple of sentences 🤣

OP I think you need to narrow down what it is you want. If it’s really just to be more interested in the world and have more to talk about with others then brushing up your general knowledge/watching the news is probably the way to go.

Have you ever heard of anhedonia OP? Not saying you necessarily have this but it may be worth looking into to see if it resonates at all. I’ve had it at various points in my life and it really isn’t nice. It does pass though and there are things you can do to help it.

He sounds like a nut job tbh. Ignore him. Your interest ATM is exercise. That's plenty to be getting on with if that's what works for you.

YouTube is your friend for learning about different places 😀

Have you thought about volunteering?