I have no interests or hobbies or passion,

I have a feeling that your dp thinks you're boring because you're not fascinated when he speaks.

Your DP sounds like he has the emotional intelligence if a plank of wood. He's away, you're solo parenting and working and he drops by to regail you with nonsense about P Diddy and complaints that you're boring. What an insufferable arse, you are not the problem here.

YouTube is brilliant. I listen to audiobooks on there, seen some documentaries and watched a few old classic films.

You don't need to have any hobbies in particular to be interesting. To be interesting, you need to be interested.

Go to interesting places, listen to podcasts, watch interesting stuff.

OP your other half sounds basic. Aliens and P Diddy? Who is he to criticise?

You sound like you have a full plate already. But if you genuinely want to find new interests and passions, go to a book shop and look at all the sections and pick up the books that interest you. A quick read of the synopsis will let you know if you want to know more - then get the books that really draw your attention.
Doing this over the years has shaped my life to some extent (career, what I do in my spare time, friends I have etc).
Although when my kids were really young, I definitely didn't have time for much at all, if anything extra.

You don't have to "fix" yourself because your partner says so.

And conspiracy theories are not a hobby!!

I read a lot - I’m interested in the gut/nutrition so there’s a lot out there atm.
Trying to educate myself in different ways.
Also read fiction - was in a book club for years but it disbanded after covid so looking for a new one (trying one but it’s not quite me - I’m about 10-20 years too young and I’m in my 50s!).
I’m not sporty and have health conditions that preclude some exercises now but if I was better I’d prob find a local Zumba type class as used to enjoy that.
I tried choir but can’t sing and there’s no ‘no sing’ choir near enough to me. I will continue checking though as I really fancy this!!

And I have to say- being 'interested' in aliens and pdiddy...... I hope there is more to him than that because he sounds both rude and a crashing bore. And a pretty inept father and partner if he leaves it all to you and criticises you to boot.

You lose yourself when you have small children. Forget Mr Hobbies criticism- he sounds a bore. But perhaps take it as a nudge to think about how you can carve out something for you. Particularly something that mr exciting has to facilitate for you by giving you time to do it.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with other people finding you boring, it is only a problem if you are bored.

Having young dc myself, any free time , I want to do 'nothing ' as that is a luxury and I need to recharge. You may be the same. I have interest , which I am passionate about but I don't have the time or energy ( or funds) to pursue these.

I must also clarify, there is a difference between a hobby, and a passion . You can't force a passion.

Oh - I'll tell you something completely random that I do. Every night I look up the English language newspaper of another country. Just to see what's going on. It's not a hobby per se, but I do enjoy it. Last night was Finland. I usually go by the alphabet then circle around again. So tonight will be Ghambia. https://standard.gm/
https://www.helsinkitimes.fi/

I don't really have hobbies that are not child-related. My older son has autism and food issues so alot of my energy is taken up with reading about that, looking at latest research, finding autism-friendly activities in the local area and looking at what new foods to try. That's not particularly interesting to anyone else though so I don't talk about it much!

well quite frankly your partner sounds like an arsehole to call you boring and unable to hold a conversation. I'd look deeper into that before deciding you somehow need to 'fix' yourself.

And many women lose sight of themselves when in the daily grind of wok and young children. It's temporary usually.

But aside from that- think back to when you were a little girl or a young teen. What did you love then?

Personally I don't find people interesting or fun because they have hobbies, they just are interesting because they share their thoughts on things or are funny or likeable

I wouldn't worry! I don't have any passions either and I'm happy that way. I do as I please which is not a lot.

He's interested in aliens and the P Diddy case? Run for the hills.

OP your post makes me feel sad for you. It's to totally reasonable with a two year old and a full time job just to be doing that. Full time work and balancing family life when the kids are title can be all consuming.

When my kids were that small the o my hobby I had was reading, it was a way to get some me time in the bath but it wasn't something I'd speak to others about as o don't know many that read the same genre as me.

As my kids have gotten a little older, I've picked up a team sport and I love it. It's been great to learn something new and meet new people. My husband plays for the men's team too and it's been great for us as a family as it's brought us a new community.

I think perhaps your husband was being a bit unkind saying you have nothing to talk about. Do you have friends you can enjoy time with? I'd have that as a starting point.

It's great fun, doesn't need to take more than a few minutes a day when I'm busy, and really keeps me on track with everything I need to do.

I use a Rhodia Goalbook . . . it has space in the front to list birthdays, then spaces to write all forthcoming events. There are also several index pages. After that it's up to you to decide how to use the dotted pages.

I have listed my goals, have drawn a plan of the knitted blanket I'm working on, and have meal plans, housework plans, and reading lists. I also have a running to-do list

Each day I write the date then list all the things I need to do. It's VERY satisfying to put a cross by each one as I complete the task.

Some people are very artistic and produce beautiful bullet journals but mine is very functional. I use coloured pens for the headings and fill the gaps with pretty stickers but that's my limit with decoration.

Hope I haven't derailed this thread! 😂

Bullet journaling 😍. Never heard of that. Thanks

I also have young DCs and between them and work I find I have very little time for Much else. I'd be hard pushed to say I have any proper hobbies but I do manage some yoga, journaling, gardening and reading.
My DH has a lot.more hobbies and passions in life... he always has had, long before we had kids.
But he would never say I'm boring and if he did I'd find it hard to get past that. He should be helping you to find time doing things that interest you. I think that's really important in a long-term partnership/marriage.
Do you feel like he'd actually be interested in/support you to find time for now hobbies?

Absolutely agree with this .

You've had plenty of suggestions on here from other posters if you do want to take up hobbies or learn more about the world , although I would also agree that working full time, caring for a young child and looking after your house - I'm amazed you even have time to sit down for 5 minutes and put your feet up .

But please don't think you have to become more interesting on the say so of a man who sounds like he just falls down internet rabbit holes of gossip and conspiracies .

Have a look at FutureLearn. They do free courses on all types of topics and I did loads in lockdown. You can dip in and out, watch them on your phone etc.

What about an online book group? Again, you don’t need to go out and can join in the discussions anonymously.

Can you research your family tree? A lovely thing to pass down to your DC. I’m on Ancestry and I’ve been contacted by some distant relatives and have found out lots about my family.

I’m not a great ‘hobbyist’ or joiner but I do love finding stuff out.

How the hell can someone whose interests are sleb gossip and woo have the bare faced cheek to call someone 'boring'?

You don't have to do anything. If you're happy as you are, great. If your partner isn't happy as you are, that's another thing.

Eurgh he sounds like a twat. Is he REALLY going to be interested to hear about your tuba lessons/tennis club/crochet projects? Chances are he’ll call those boring too. What makes him so fascinating??

Your partner has no right to allege you're incapable of meaningful conversation. Is everything he talks about so scintillating?
I don't have hobbies so to speak. I'm perfectly content doing my own quiet thing.
Nobody can force you to have interest in something. Some people feel the need to be busy with all sorts of activities, others are happy just chilling, reading, watching telly, chatting online etc.
Of course if there is something you'd like to get into then go for it. Your husband has to be supportive and pick up on childcare to help you do your hobbies, as he said he wanted you to.