I'm finding it so hard to get anyone to come and do anything around the house, and I'm starting to wonder if I'm doing something that puts people off.
I have the feeling that we're all much less likely to keep to agreements these days, but logic suggests that there's a reason why people keep ghosting me. They are really communicative... until they're not.
The two most recent occurrences: a great cleaner came and did a big clean of my house. Then perhaps a month later she came back for a smaller clean. After that we arranged for her to come and do some ironing. On the day she didn't show up, and never opened my message. I've passed her on the street since, so I know she's still alive ;-) I was wondering whether I'd said or done something wrong the second time she was here, but she did text me to make the third appointment before eventually ghosting.
Then I had a handyman who came and did some odd jobs for me. All went great. Came back another time and did some more. Again all good. Then I had a bigger job (still not that major) for him, and he wanted to come over and discuss and measure up. All fine and everything was agreed. I just had to order the bits and pieces he needed, which I did. Then I tried to make a date for him to do the work. No answer. I messaged again and he replied saying he'd been busy, but still didn't mention a date. Do I message him a third time, or am I just not getting the hint? In the meantime I'm sitting here with £100 of materials taking up space, and an unfinished job that means we can't leave our back door open. I just want it done!
I have ADHD so on the one hand I'm not sure if there are social cues that I'm missing or if I come across as odd, but on the other hand I have the associated RSD (if you know, you know) so I wonder if I'm being too sensitive.
YABU: people are just more flakey these days, don't take it personally
YANBU: you're clearly putting people off, after all you're the common denominator here!
Edited to add: obviously I could call people if they don't respond to texts, but presumably someone who's a no-show isn't going to change their mind just because I ring them, right?