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To tell parents about nasty messages on kids messaging group

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MBDBBB · 25/05/2024 13:05

My 12 y.o. child is on a message group chat with friends at school. I keep a general eye on it (with my child’s knowledge) and it’s in the main harmless chit chat and posting silly YouTube videos. I have spotted a really offensive message from one member of the group about another child in the year who is not on the chat. My child and another called them out and said they should delete it, but it is still there. I am debating messaging the mother of the child to flag up that she might want to keep a closer eye on what her child is posting but part of me thinks perhaps that would just be busybody behaviour. WIBU to message her?

YABU - mind your own business
YANBU - message her

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Solongtoshort · 25/05/2024 13:30

Whilst l would want to know l would wonder where the child got the opinion from, if it’s from the parents then she may become more standoffish. I think in this position (due to the fact l don’t know how offensive it is) l might hold off saying anything but praise my child for calling it out. FWIW l have a just turned 12 yo who is in chat groups and knows l check the chats too.

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MBDBBB · 25/05/2024 13:12

IncognitoUsername · 25/05/2024 13:08

Think about this - if it was your child posting that message, would you want to know? They are still children and need guidance on how to behave on Social Media. I wouldn’t make a big issue out of it but I’m sure most parents would appreciate a heads up.

Yeah absolutely I would, I am just not sure how well-received it would be by the mother. She tends to be a bit standoffish at the best of times. I also don’t want to make things awkward for my child.

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IncognitoUsername · 25/05/2024 13:08

Think about this - if it was your child posting that message, would you want to know? They are still children and need guidance on how to behave on Social Media. I wouldn’t make a big issue out of it but I’m sure most parents would appreciate a heads up.

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