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Would you dry and fold your hosts' laundry?

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youdialwetile · 25/05/2024 12:04

Interesting disagreement in our house about "helping" vs "overstepping".

DH's brother is staying with us - he's on holiday. I put on a wash before heading to work one morning. Came home (finish at lunchtime) and noticed BIL's laundry is on the line. I wondered what had happened to my load (was laundry for DH and me).

I assumed BIL had taken it out the washer and left in a basket. But no - he had put it all in the dryer, then sorted and folded. Thankfully there was nothing that couldn't stand a tumble - my gym kit usually line dries but it seems ok.

I'm just feeling a bit weird about him sorting through our underwear etc. He folded pants, matched socks, made a little pile of bras etc.

AIBU? My DD16 is with me, but DH and DS13 think it's totally normal and I'm being weird. So am I?

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youdialwetile · 25/05/2024 12:14

PTSDBarbiegirl · 25/05/2024 12:08

It sounds like an attempt to be considerate and polite. When he discovered the underwear he probably cringed too but too late to just leave it or that might have seemed worse! Keep your undies separate and do yourself.

It would have been obvious it was pants, socks etc when he pulled it out the washer. So he could have opted to leave in the basket, but he chose to forge ahead, dry, and fold.

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Arlanymor · 25/05/2024 12:13

Sounds like he's being a considerate guest - I'd be thrilled if someone did my laundry. I couldn't really care all that much about underwear - it's not like he would have seen me wearing it! It's just fabric at the end of the day.

Pompleandprim · 25/05/2024 12:10

PTSDBarbiegirl · 25/05/2024 12:08

It sounds like an attempt to be considerate and polite. When he discovered the underwear he probably cringed too but too late to just leave it or that might have seemed worse! Keep your undies separate and do yourself.

Yup this! Probably didn’t give it a second thought until he came across the underwear and then felt hugely embarrassed but had to keep going. If you don’t get any creepy vibes from him then it sounds like he’s just trying to be a really considerate guest.

AColdClearDrink · 25/05/2024 12:09

Sorry! I totally misread the op. I would feel very awkward about that.

AColdClearDrink · 25/05/2024 12:08

Don't do it!

PTSDBarbiegirl · 25/05/2024 12:08

It sounds like an attempt to be considerate and polite. When he discovered the underwear he probably cringed too but too late to just leave it or that might have seemed worse! Keep your undies separate and do yourself.

FacingTheWall · 25/05/2024 12:07

Wouldn’t bother me, it’s just clothes, and clean ones at that.

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youdialwetile · 25/05/2024 12:07

BIL is 64 and lives alone. DHs older brother. He's about 25 years older than me. Not sure if that's relevant.

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Boater · 25/05/2024 12:05

Well it was sort of kind but I’d rather my BIL didn’t touch my pants. If it was bed linen or kids clothes I’d be less Hmm

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