Would you dry and fold your hosts' laundry?

It's odd to go sorting through and just wash underwear, I agree,but that's very different to wanting to use the washing machine so doing what needs doing to that laundry

He was either trying to be helpful or getting sexual kicks from fondling yours and the kids underwear. You know him better. Which is it?

I fold my knickers so they fit in nice colour piles in my drawers. I fold my bras in half too so they also go in a pile. Well three piles. I have a lot of underwear.

Don't be ridiculous - I fold my knickers as do most of the people I know. You believe he was taking a chance to fondle her knickers (and her husbands pants too?) you have a very warped mind, you need help if that's your first thought in this scenario.

Oooft tricky one. Personally, I would feel awkward but would recognise he was being very considerate and just move on.

It was thoughtful. I'd rather a guest did that than left clean, dry laundry just scrunched up in the basket where it gets creased beyond belief or if it's wet it goes musty and disgusting. Obviously different if tumble drying clothes that aren't fit for it but as that hasn't happened here, it feels like a bit of a storm in a teacup.

I mind staying with friends years ago. I ended up staying longer than planned so had to do a wash, and left it in the dryer when I went out. Came back to find friend’s husband, needing to use the dryer himself, had taken it out and folded it, with my bright red bra on the top. I didn’t say anything to him, assuming my friend had done it, but thanked her later. She told me what had happened and said he’d been worried I’d be upset by it. It didn’t bother me, it was kind of him to do so. It’s not like he was fondling my undies in situ.

Then again their dog took a pair of pants out my bag and ran through the house with them so I think we were past the embarrassment about my smalls stage! 😂

yes exactly. No one folds knickers therefore I believe he was taking a chance to "fondle" them* *

When you want to kid yourself that you have some order in your life 🤣

I think there is a divide here between those who wear sexy pants and those who dont

@karottybagel the OPs bil? She stated that?

Who folds knickers??

If he'd left your wet laundry in a basket all day and you came home to it not smelling very fresh how would you have felt? What if he had pegged it out?
Did you thank him?

I understand that it could make you feel a bit weird but as long as you don't think he has been imagining you in said lingerie I think it's fine.

I did tell STBEH not to peg out when my washer finished when he came over for something as I didn't want him touching my underwear so I do get it but really it's all okay. It's done.

I couldn’t really care less about people seeing my clean undies, we all wear them.

I’d be grateful he’d saved me a job, I hate doing laundry!

I’d have been more annoyed at wet washing being left in a basket to inevitably go stale and need re-washing.

If you were worried about laundry being touched or inappropriately dried maybe you should have put it in when you got home instead of before heading out so the machine(s) were free and you were around to sort your own drying.

I’m pretty sure he was FOLDING, not fondling

Unless it's towels or sheets I pretty much never have a load of washing that can all go in the dryer - something would have been wrecked and I'd be pissed off.

Fondling?!?

Don't be ridiculous!

If he'd left it in the basket, I assume you'd say he dumped it!

@PotterHead1985 no you're not the only one. But maybe theirs seemed light & quick to dry in the dryer & maybe his didn't or something like that?!

Poor bloke probably thought "if I leave this basket full of wet laundry they're going to think I'm a right lazy sod. I'll just pop it in the dryer" and now he's been branded a pervert on MN!

Underwear is just clothing. If you'd found him sniffing your dirties then you'd have something to complain about.

Or if he'd ruined something which shouldn't have gone on the dryer.

@MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira

me too, but I'd rather he'd have put it on a line than in the dryer.

I've lived with family & friends and we have always just 'mucked in'. My BIL hanging out & folding my underwear didn't bother me at all when I was younger/thinner. Now I far prefer to hang the Apple catchers up myself.

Exactly this. Don't overthink it. He did a nice thing.

Family wouldn’t bother me at all but I’d have wanted him to hang it on the line rather than tumble dry.

He sounds ace, seen him here please: I have three piles needs folding

You what now?

Why not put it to a vote?
No one said you were angry, as you said it's a discussion but there's clearly a strong feeling of some sort going on. He's family. ? Don't pass your uptight irrational views onto your daughter, she's only 16. You're teaching her to view men folding underwear as creepy and weird.