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To think pronatalists are on to something?

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Carebearsonmybed · 25/05/2024 09:28

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/may/25/american-pronatalists-malcolm-and-simone-collins?CMP=ShareiOSAppp_Other

I don't agree with everything this couple say or do but I do think we are approaching a demographic timebomb when the global human population starts to drop in 50 years time.

Most women probably expect to have more DCs at 20 than they end up having by 45. What can we do to get the UK birth rate to replacement rate of c 2.5 so we don't have a crisis of elderly people without enough workers to pay for or provide care and subsidence?

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DunkinBensDonuts · 27/05/2024 19:13

SapphireSlippers · 27/05/2024 14:24

But who would care?

The earth would repair itself without us

Until the next mass die off when Earth enters the next Ice Age. Assuming any living nonhuman creature makes it to the end of life on Earth (earliest around one billion years) is quite a leap. Going off-planet is the only way life can continue

And only humans have the potential for that. All living things on Earth will depend on that …. Life has been on Earth for 3 or 4 billion years but cannot survive much longer than one billion years from now

Carebearsonmybed · 27/05/2024 15:28

I've never met a family of 3+ who take annual trips abroad.

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fitzwilliamdarcy · 27/05/2024 14:26

We can have more ethical lifestyles that don't do as much damage to the environment even with large families eg not flying, not driving, not eating meat.

Even if this made sense from an emissions standpoint (it doesn’t - an extra human massively outweighs every other emitting activity including flying, driving and eating meat), how many families are going to be signing up for this? You may know lots of large families living off the land, but every family I know with 3-5 kids is living a consumerist lifestyle - driving big cars, annual trips abroad, eating whatever they like.

I just think it’s an excuse when people make out that large families are all living ethically to offset their climate impact - they aren’t, and even if they were trying to, you can’t offset a whole new human by not going abroad once a year.

SapphireSlippers · 27/05/2024 14:24

DunkinBensDonuts · 25/05/2024 09:59

Good god, no it wouldn’t. You’d rather just another desolate planet like all the others in the solar system?

But who would care?

The earth would repair itself without us

Carebearsonmybed · 27/05/2024 13:54

"Who the fuck cares?! Why does ‘life’ need to survive?

If the earth is hit by an asteroid this afternoon and every single living creature and plant are incinerated instantly, why would that be an issue in any way? Other than it feeling a bit sad because I’m going on holiday tomorrow and I’m quite looking forward to it.

No one would be left to care.

The whole of ‘space’ is a natural entity- bits banging into other bits and changing their properties is a natural process. If in millions or billions of years that results in bare planets spinning around for the rest of eternity that’s fine."

I cannot fathom this world view/ mind set at all. It blows me away.

Until recently / MN I assumed all humans wanted humanity to continue.

It seems callous to me to be indifferent to the death of billions of people.

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CuteOrangeElephant · 27/05/2024 12:55

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 12:01

integration of the Neolithic and Beaker peoples was not a violent event

It is very hard to imagine how 100% of the male DNA was replaced by the newcomers. They don’t have a good explanation, I assumed violence, so maybe a bit of a leap I admit. Could have been plague (but doesn’t account for the gender discrepancy)

Could be a virus like the mumps that only impacts male fertility.

DrJonesIpresume · 27/05/2024 12:49

DramaLlamaBangBang · 27/05/2024 09:38

You're preaching to the converted here ( and in most of the world) You need to go to sub saharan Africa and tell women with little access to contraception or any benefits to financially support them or with any elder social care to stop having so many babies. They are the only ones doing it.

I agree. There are many women in the world who have no ability to limit the size of their families, either because they have no access to contraception, or are prevented from using it for religious or cultural reasons. Sad really, as the lack of contraception has also enabled the uncontrolled spread of AIDS.

Carebearsonmybed · 27/05/2024 09:44

I think I was clear that I didn't endorse their lifestyle/parenting style.

I am pro the continuation of humanity.

I don't want extinction.

It's one of the reasons I had DCs myself.

I talked to my teen about this.

They said most teens don't want DCs as they don't see how they will afford them, don't want the impact on their careers/ finances/ freedom.

I think we have a societal duty to make parenting as easy as possible so every woman can have the number of DCs she wants (most don't).

We can have more ethical lifestyles that don't do as much damage to the environment even with large families eg not flying, not driving, not eating meat.

The dependency ratio problem isn't just about paying care home fees. That's a fraction of the taxpayer cost of old age. Most NHS spending is on the elderly. Most council social care. Most of the benefits bill is on pensions.

If we don't increase the birth rate or immigration we will need drastic policies other countries already have such as fees for GP/ambulance/A&E, care home fees being means tested on the adult children, no non means tested state pension, lower public sector pensions, no long term social housing, capital gains tax on own home etc.

I don't want any of this!!

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DramaLlamaBangBang · 27/05/2024 09:38

DrJonesIpresume · 26/05/2024 15:40

Good.

The overpopulation of this planet by humans is borderline unsustainable.

You're preaching to the converted here ( and in most of the world) You need to go to sub saharan Africa and tell women with little access to contraception or any benefits to financially support them or with any elder social care to stop having so many babies. They are the only ones doing it.

DrJonesIpresume · 26/05/2024 15:40

Carebearsonmybed · 25/05/2024 10:25

The global birth rate has already dropped below replacement rate.

All professional demographers agree that the global population is on course to peak then decline.

Don't confuse that with the reality that the effects are already being felt in places like South Korea, Japan, Germany & Italy.

Good.

The overpopulation of this planet by humans is borderline unsustainable.

Theywonttakecouples · 26/05/2024 15:35

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 15:31

Indeed- so you see that your earlier argument that is doesn’t make sense to be ‘precious’ (your word not mine) about the planet/climate change now- but not concerned that there will eventually be a mass extinction event that will end humans- is incorrect

I am not the anti-human one. I advocate for human thriving. It is those who say that the planet would be ‘better off’ without us that I say those words. Why are they so precious about a planet that is destined to be swallowed up by the sun in four billion years anyway (and devoid of life by about one billion years from now)

I didn’t say you were anti human.

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 15:31

Indeed- so you see that your earlier argument that is doesn’t make sense to be ‘precious’ (your word not mine) about the planet/climate change now- but not concerned that there will eventually be a mass extinction event that will end humans- is incorrect

I am not the anti-human one. I advocate for human thriving. It is those who say that the planet would be ‘better off’ without us that I say those words. Why are they so precious about a planet that is destined to be swallowed up by the sun in four billion years anyway (and devoid of life by about one billion years from now)

Theywonttakecouples · 26/05/2024 15:07

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 14:52

People in other countries are threatened by rising sea levels, fires, floods, food scarcity

Food scarcity is not as common as it was just a few decades ago. Death by the climate has dropped hugely, this despite the massive rise in population. Check Worldometer for climate deaths by year if you don’t believe me.

You can’t have it both ways- if CC can be managed through better infrastructure so that people in the next few generations aren’t threatened… then caring about it NOW is going to be necessary

We can build better infrastructure now to prepare for CC indeed we already have — see Bangladesh success in lowering cyclone deaths.

We can build better infrastructure now to prepare for CC indeed we already have — see Bangladesh success in lowering cyclone deaths.

Indeed- so you see that your earlier argument that is doesn’t make sense to be ‘precious’ (your word not mine) about the planet/climate change now- but not concerned that there will eventually be a mass extinction event that will end humans- is incorrect.

People being ‘precious’ about it now has improved things for people in Bangladesh NOW.

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 14:52

People in other countries are threatened by rising sea levels, fires, floods, food scarcity

Food scarcity is not as common as it was just a few decades ago. Death by the climate has dropped hugely, this despite the massive rise in population. Check Worldometer for climate deaths by year if you don’t believe me.

You can’t have it both ways- if CC can be managed through better infrastructure so that people in the next few generations aren’t threatened… then caring about it NOW is going to be necessary

We can build better infrastructure now to prepare for CC indeed we already have — see Bangladesh success in lowering cyclone deaths.

Theywonttakecouples · 26/05/2024 14:51

DramaLlamaBangBang · 26/05/2024 14:12

Evolution is just that though. Evolution. We have evolved brains complex enough for us to do whatever it takes to continue our survival as a species. Just as other species evolve in order to survive. In our case, that means we have developed brains big enough to invent medicines. We may be too clever for our own good and kill ourselves off with antibiotic resistance, and climate change and man made viruses, but that is also evolution.

Exactly. We are animals- we evolved and are evolving. If the end of that journey is we accidentally kill ourselves off that is still the conclusion of our evolutionary process.

We have influenced the evolution of other animals- but that is also normal, just like lions existence has influenced the evolution of gazelles.

Theywonttakecouples · 26/05/2024 14:42

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 11:34

It’s obvious why most people care- they feel that their family- children, grandchildren or great grandchildren are threatened. Humans generally care about their progeny- they can conceive of a time far enough into the future that things could be difficult (because of climate change), for people they love and feel a connection to

They are not threatened though? Climate change is happening but it can ofc be managed through better infrastructure.

Tbh there has never been a better time to be a human being, like, ever. Do you think Britain was better in the 70s? (I wouldn’t know, my country was a total impoverished shithole at that time, pretty much everyone is better off today).

It seems like you lament all the things we’ve done on Earth, to make human beings survive and now thrive.

If the alternative is a planet untouched by humans that will just die off in another billions years due to the sun’s natural star cycle … then who cares?

People in other countries are threatened by rising sea levels, fires, floods, food scarcity etc. Yes Britain isn’t at the coal face in some ways, but Britain isn’t the world.

They are not threatened though? Climate change is happening but it can ofc be managed through better infrastructure…

You can’t have it both ways- if CC can be managed through better infrastructure so that people in the next few generations aren’t threatened… then caring about it NOW is going to be necessary.

DramaLlamaBangBang · 26/05/2024 14:12

Narwhalsh · 26/05/2024 12:23

Yes but it is argued that we have stalled natural evolution, certainly within our own species (modern medicine) and within the species that we use as food for example. Our actions have evolved some species for our own benefit but not for those animals…

Evolution is just that though. Evolution. We have evolved brains complex enough for us to do whatever it takes to continue our survival as a species. Just as other species evolve in order to survive. In our case, that means we have developed brains big enough to invent medicines. We may be too clever for our own good and kill ourselves off with antibiotic resistance, and climate change and man made viruses, but that is also evolution.

logicisall · 26/05/2024 12:46

It's more about their overall philosophy about being positive about wanting to parent more than 2.4 DCs.

Weren't the iPads and the neighbours doing the heavy lifting parenting?

Narwhalsh · 26/05/2024 12:23

DramaLlamaBangBang · 26/05/2024 10:59

We are the consequences of evolution and natural selection! We didnt beam down from another planet!

Yes but it is argued that we have stalled natural evolution, certainly within our own species (modern medicine) and within the species that we use as food for example. Our actions have evolved some species for our own benefit but not for those animals…

Halfemptyhalfling · 26/05/2024 12:18

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 12:08

The order goes from Western Hunter Gatherer (eg Cheddar Man) who were gradually (and iirc somewhat violently) displaced by Anatolian farmers, the Neolithic megalith builders. They in turn are replaced by the Bell Beakers in the Bronze Age

Strongly suspect the hunter gatherers were rounded up and used as slaves to drag the stones to Stonehenge - many dying on route.

Weird neolithic event means there's now less dairy intolerance in white British than elsewhere would have favoured bell beakers who were herders. However some similarities between uk Celtic and Semitic languages could suggest some crossover. Stonehenge builders were from middle east.

The pro natalists were musk supporters thinking we will be able to colonise the stars so planetary limitations aren't of concern

inamarina · 26/05/2024 12:17

crackofdoom · 26/05/2024 11:30

I find this couple's viewpoint interesting- they've definitely thought stuff through, even though I don't agree with them. Regarding the hitting a child across the face in front of someone- Well, I'm autistic and I, too, treat my DC exactly the same way in front of people as I do at home, I'm not a hypocrite (but I don't hit them).

Declining population is a positive thing in the long run- we just need to face up to it and manage it so it doesn't cause individual suffering. Societies should devote more of their budgets to caring for the ageing- if they can find money to fight wars, they can find it to look after the elderly. Immigration will be helpful in the medium term, and in the long term a smaller human population will be great for both us and the planet.

Societies should devote more of their budgets to caring for the ageing- if they can find money to fight wars, they can find it to look after the elderly.

But that's exactly the issue - how can societies with shrinking working populations pay more and more for the increasing percentages of elderly?
It's all very well to say "we just need to fund x/y properly", but where will the money come from?
Fwiw, I find the couple in OP's article quite odd and I don't think an ever increasing population is the answer, but a rapid birthrate decline creates its own issues.

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 12:08

crackofdoom · 26/05/2024 11:58

Hang on, I thought the Beaker people were late Neolithic rather than early Bronze age??

The order goes from Western Hunter Gatherer (eg Cheddar Man) who were gradually (and iirc somewhat violently) displaced by Anatolian farmers, the Neolithic megalith builders. They in turn are replaced by the Bell Beakers in the Bronze Age

floppybit · 26/05/2024 12:05

thecatsthecats · 25/05/2024 10:25

The population should be declining. It's a sign of rising living standards AS WELL AS increasing cost of living. There is simply no reason for human society to exist if we're just going to mindlessly procreate and work til death like animals.

Immigration is just kicking the can down the road.

That said, I read a think-tank piece saying that increased pay and cheaper childcare wasn't increasing childbirth rates. But they missed out the biggy IMO. More TIME.

If there were a standard 25-30h working week for EVERYONE, then working age people would be able to keep themselves healthier (exercise and better food), care for their families better (old and young).

It's absolutely ridiculous that we are working the hours we do and expected to outsource everything that just a few decades ago was done by 50% of the population.

Cut working hours. It's that simple.

Totally agree with this, we are living in time poverty.

DunkinBensDonuts · 26/05/2024 12:01

integration of the Neolithic and Beaker peoples was not a violent event

It is very hard to imagine how 100% of the male DNA was replaced by the newcomers. They don’t have a good explanation, I assumed violence, so maybe a bit of a leap I admit. Could have been plague (but doesn’t account for the gender discrepancy)

crackofdoom · 26/05/2024 11:58

Hang on, I thought the Beaker people were late Neolithic rather than early Bronze age??