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To ask if you have the same political views as your significant other?

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pinklite · 24/05/2024 22:10

I do. And both of our families also share the same views.

I'm not sure I could have a relationship with somebody that didn't, but perhaps I am being small minded!

Do you share the same views as your SO?

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CelesteCunningham · 24/05/2024 23:05

Yes, our views are very similar and we tend to vote the same - assembly elections are PR so maybe some slightly different preferences or ordering down the ballot but that's it.

My parents cancelled each other out in pretty much every referendum in their 40+ year marriage (Irish, so a lot of them!). I would really struggle to be with someone whose views were so different to my own, especially on major social issues, but they were very happy together and had a fantastic marriage. I guess they're more tolerant than me. Grin

Owlgirl14 · 24/05/2024 22:59

Nope, I have no interest what so ever.

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 24/05/2024 22:58

No, and the idea that you can't live with someone who doesn't share your exact same views is extremely narrow minded,.

Except Brexiteers, 'cos stupid as well as wrong. 😋

Our extended family runs from moderate One Nation Macmillanite Conservative to Kropotkin anarchist, so...

79Helene · 24/05/2024 22:55

SilverBranchGoldenPears · 24/05/2024 22:48

Not at all. I’m very left wing and my DH is a reactionary right winger! His opinions drive me crazy and sometimes I’m almost offended (I’m almost impossible to offend) but I like that he thinks differently- it makes me assess my opinions regularly and grow.

I have very similar views to mine and there's no way I could have a harmonious home with a reactionary right winger, but I genuinely like your attitude.

TheCompactPussycat · 24/05/2024 22:54

Nope.

But we don't discuss politics and he never votes so all is good.

Our children share my political views.

Hdkatznahtw125sgh · 24/05/2024 22:54

Not me but my parents have very different views although not opposite extremes. They both vote Labour.

One is a free market loving, Jeremy Corbyn hating Blairite. The other is a democratic socialist.

They manage fine, I grew up developing a good skill to debate and a love of arguing. I got full marks in A Level Politics and have ended up even more left wing than both of them. My sibling is more right wing than both of them but not a Tory.

MrsSkylerWhite · 24/05/2024 22:53

More or less.

ThePoshUns · 24/05/2024 22:51

I'm left of centre he's right but we share the same values.

Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 24/05/2024 22:50

For me a strong relationship is about shared values so I would find it hard to be with someone who views the world very differently to me

I am all about challenging each other and that being healthy but fundamental values have to be aligned for me to be happy in the relationship.

SilverBranchGoldenPears · 24/05/2024 22:48

Not at all. I’m very left wing and my DH is a reactionary right winger! His opinions drive me crazy and sometimes I’m almost offended (I’m almost impossible to offend) but I like that he thinks differently- it makes me assess my opinions regularly and grow.

SallyWD · 24/05/2024 22:45

Kind of. I'm more left wing and he's more centre but we generally agree on policies and both dislike the Tories

backaftera2yearbreak · 24/05/2024 22:44

Nope. He’s a Protestant Belfast boy. I’m not sure anyone I’ve ever met has the same political views as him 🙄

donkey86 · 24/05/2024 22:42

Not at all. He’s to the left of Corbyn, I’m pretty centrist, slightly right leaning. He’s high tax, high state control, I’m low tax, low interference. He doesn’t believe in private property, I believe capitalism has mostly been a force for good. He’s TWAW, I’m GC.

For the most part we muddle along fine. It’s only on the last of those issues that we’ve had to agree not to talk about it for fear of the strength of feeling.

luckylavender · 24/05/2024 22:42

pinklite · 24/05/2024 22:10

I do. And both of our families also share the same views.

I'm not sure I could have a relationship with somebody that didn't, but perhaps I am being small minded!

Do you share the same views as your SO?

We're also both very political. Both Remainers.

luckylavender · 24/05/2024 22:41

pinklite · 24/05/2024 22:10

I do. And both of our families also share the same views.

I'm not sure I could have a relationship with somebody that didn't, but perhaps I am being small minded!

Do you share the same views as your SO?

No, I'm left, he's right. Been married 33 years this year. He's also Catholic, I'm CofE. He's English, I'm Welsh.

PostMenPatWithACat · 24/05/2024 22:40

Yep. Please God tell me there's hope for the children to see sense.

theriseandfallofFranklinSaint · 24/05/2024 22:40

Not really but then we rarely discuss politics,

Cattery · 24/05/2024 22:38

Yes we do. Neither of us can stand greed and unfairness

FunnysInLaJardin · 24/05/2024 22:37

and am successfully encouraging my traditionally RW colleagues towards the left! With reasoned argument and common sense

JustMarriedBecca · 24/05/2024 22:35

My views have become more in line with his I think.

I've always been centralist though and actually, whether that's red or blue depends on who is in power. I voted Cameron and Blair. I'd never vote Boris or Corbyn.

DramaAlpaca · 24/05/2024 22:35

Pretty much, yes. It's important to both of us that we are.

Eqei · 24/05/2024 22:35

We do
Nd neither of us would be able to be with someone that didn’t.
I struggle to have friends that aren’t likeminded when it comes to politics but that’s because of the extremeness of it I feel.

🙈🙈

FunnysInLaJardin · 24/05/2024 22:35

yes, we are both left wing, couldn't imagine being with someone who didn't share at least some of my politics

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 24/05/2024 22:35

I don't, not really.

WeightoftheWorld · 24/05/2024 22:34

For the most part yes, but we don't necessarily always agree on every bit of minutiae or specific political theory or whatever. We also don't always necessarily have a concrete opinion on every single matter either and we discuss things together with an open mind.

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