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To email headteacher about this

133 replies

schoolgrinch · 24/05/2024 22:05

DS is in year one, at a 2 form state primary. It is very well regarded, DS is doing brilliantly, and generally we are very happy.

However.

My child is in Class X. They have had two part time teachers (Teacher A Monday-Wednesday and Teacher B Wednesday-Friday) for year 1.

Teacher A announced her pregnancy early in 2024 and parents were told that she was planning to go on maternity leave after May half term. An alternative teacher in the school would take over her days at this point, for term 6. About a month ago we were told that Teacher A was now starting maternity leave 2 weeks before May half term, and a different member of staff would cover these 2 weeks.

So in one year, the class will have had 4 different teachers,

In comparison, the other Year 1 class, Class Y, have had 1 teacher the whole year.

Now- this isn't anything against part time working, pregnancy rights etc etc. I have benefitted from both of these provisions myself.

However- WIBU to email the headteacher to ensure that it has been considered in terms of planning teacher allocations for next year, that Class X have had quite considerable disruption this year, and would benefit from an opportunity for more consistent teaching next year?

  1. YANBU, totally reasonable to email
  2. YANBY, but the headteacher will clearly be aware of this and will already have considered it
  3. YABU (please give reason)
OP posts:
schoolgrinch · 24/05/2024 22:47

The reaction here is like I've sent death threads to them, not just asked on an anonymous forum whether I would be unreasonable to approach regarding a concern I have, and very quickly accepted the advice,

I am not reasonable for every shitty and difficult parent out there.

OP posts:
Busywithsomething · 24/05/2024 22:43

I think you need to place some trust in the head.

Mischance · 24/05/2024 22:40

Your son is doing "brilliantly" so has clearly not been disadvantaged in any way.

I cannot see the point in contacting the head to tell her/him what they already know!

LittleBearPad · 24/05/2024 22:36

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 24/05/2024 22:16

Consider a private school is the only other I can help you with

Because teachers in private school don’t get pregnant….?

SimpleRose · 24/05/2024 22:34

Very unreasonable, and you should probably come here in future before sending any emails to the school

mactire · 24/05/2024 22:32

cartet · 24/05/2024 22:25

@TeenLifeMum @mactire
100%
I have been that teacher. So glad I don't teach anymore

Parents were a huge chunk of the reason why I left the profession tbh and while I liked most kids, I’ve never regretted walking away from the adult nonsense. Glad to hear you’re happy out of it as well 🙂

RatATatTatty · 24/05/2024 22:29

You’re being ridiculous. The teacher probably had to go on early maternity leave and they’ve got it covered. Honestly, it’s year 1, your child’s whole future will not be defined by their year 1 final half term teaching arrangements.

TinyYellow · 24/05/2024 22:27

An email to the head won’t achieve anything, he will have noticed the disruption already.

cartet · 24/05/2024 22:25

@TeenLifeMum @mactire
100%
I have been that teacher. So glad I don't teach anymore

NewName24 · 24/05/2024 22:24

Well, glad you have conceded so quickly, as YW clearly B ridiculous to think the Head needs a parent to tell them what staff a class has had.

<Wishes I could do an eyeroll emoji on my laptop >

Crazycrazylady · 24/05/2024 22:24

Yes I'm sure the head will appreciate your assistance in pointing out how she should do her job.Confused

mactire · 24/05/2024 22:22

TeenLifeMum · 24/05/2024 22:20

Presumably the teacher had complications or a premature baby - how selfish of her! I can’t believe a parent would react like this thinking an email to the head is appropriate. Do you want the head to ban pregnancies with due dates outside the summer holidays?

i was actually concerned when dd3 had multiple teachers, no consistent supply in year 6 but actually she excelled academically. She wasn’t happy but then I realised it was because she was being pushed (she’s lazy 😂). She’s year 8 now and it is all good.

I hope OP’s darling child’s teacher next year doesn’t have the temerity to have a death in the family, a serious illness or a pregnancy - imagine! What an affront it would be. Teachers should be human in school holidays only.

TeenLifeMum · 24/05/2024 22:20

Presumably the teacher had complications or a premature baby - how selfish of her! I can’t believe a parent would react like this thinking an email to the head is appropriate. Do you want the head to ban pregnancies with due dates outside the summer holidays?

i was actually concerned when dd3 had multiple teachers, no consistent supply in year 6 but actually she excelled academically. She wasn’t happy but then I realised it was because she was being pushed (she’s lazy 😂). She’s year 8 now and it is all good.

mactire · 24/05/2024 22:18

YABU. The head knows far more about this situation than you do and is better placed to make staffing decisions. Don’t waste their time with a silly email.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/05/2024 22:18

Do you want to be known as That parent?

Do not email. Its just interfering

maybein2022 · 24/05/2024 22:18

YABVVU

LaceyLou82 · 24/05/2024 22:17

Stop telling them how to do their job.

lanthanum · 24/05/2024 22:17

The class that has had a disrupted year are bound to get priority for a good/reliable teacher next year.

It is not always the case that part-timers necessarily mean a less satisfactory year than having a full-timer, by the way. Obviously the changes due to the maternity leave are frustrating, but I'm sure they will try and keep everything going smoothly.

Bluevelvetsofa · 24/05/2024 22:17

Have you really been unaware of what’s happening in schools over recent times. You’ve said you’re happy with the school, your son is doing well, so whatever do you need to email the head about. Unless it’s to thank her for ensuring that your child has consistently had a qualified teacher this year.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 24/05/2024 22:16

Consider a private school is the only other I can help you with

schoolgrinch · 24/05/2024 22:16

Well that was quick and unanimous: I respect the sanctity of AIBU and it is clear that I WBU to email the head, so I will not. Thanks all.

OP posts:
BurbageBrook · 24/05/2024 22:13

You're being very OTT. A supply teacher for two weeks won't hurt your child's future prospects. Many children benefit from having two part time class teachers too due to differences in teaching style. Relax!

ChittyChittyBoomBoom · 24/05/2024 22:12

YABU

Please give the Head some credit. They will be fully aware of the situation. The children won’t be adversely affected by this.

esmeisa · 24/05/2024 22:11

MultiplaLight · 24/05/2024 22:06

Leave the head to it. They aren't bloody stupid and know exactly what experience the children have had.

If you think the head is incapable of making such a decision without your amazing input, why send your child there?

Seriously, back off and let the head deal.

This

Hankunamatata · 24/05/2024 22:11

YABU. Dont be that parent.

Pretty pointless to send an email. You can't plan if a teacher isn't having a good pregnancy and needs to leave earlier on maternity leave. Plus next year will already be planned.