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To think I had every right to be in the right hand lane when driving the speed limit on a dual carriage way

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P3kingDuck · 24/05/2024 19:55

Dh thinks not.

So I’ve had to do a speed awareness course a while ago so do my best to keep to speed limits at all times.

Driving home on a curving dual carriage way on a slight tilt. 50 limit signs every few yards and a speed camera sign. The lane on the right turns into a fly over which I needed to keep on. So I was in the right hand lane driving at 50. A car came right up to my bumper and kept flashing. I stayed in the lane and pointed at the signs. He kept flashing then overtook me in a dramatic fashion, zoomed off( so breaking the speed limit) then slowed down so ended up driving not that faster than me but still over the limit.

Dh said I should have pulled over. I don’t understand why. Nobody on that road should be doing over 50 so what would be the benefit of me pulling over if I’m doing 50?

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JemimaTiggywinkles · 24/05/2024 21:21

When you need to go right off a dual carriageway or motorway surely you move over when the signage tells you to? Until that point you stick to the normal rules - left hand lane unless overtaking.

Citrusandginger · 24/05/2024 21:20

This must be a reverse, surely?

No one is that obtuse.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 24/05/2024 21:18

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/05/2024 20:51

It was waaaay less than a mile.

A mile would have been 1.2 minutes. Waaaay less is what, 40 seconds? In which time he had to time to reach you, you had time to notice him, get peeved, gesticulate, more over, let him past, get back into the lane and leave safely.

I was hoping someone else would catch this. @P3kingDuck They can’t both be true

A-A car came right up to my bumper and kept flashing. I stayed in the lane and pointed at the signs. He kept flashing then overtook me in a dramatic fashion, zoomed off( so breaking the speed limit) then slowed down so ended up driving not that faster than me but still over the limit.

and

He zoomed off then slowed down and got off barely seconds before me.

and

He just pulled in front then stayed in the right hand lane just in front of me.

OR

B-It was waaaay less than a mile.

HospitalitySux · 24/05/2024 21:17

I get what you mean, but, you should be in the left lane unless overtaking or you need to be in the right lane imminently because that's where the road is going.
On a dual carriageway or motorway that's what should happen, so you should pull over and let the driver overtake regardless of what you think of their driving, I would rather do that than have that kind of risk behind me to be honest, because clearly they are a danger and I'd rather be out of their way.
I don't think that absolves or reduces the speeding driver of their responsibility in the case of an accident though, frustration is thrown around a lot, but it shouldn't be a get out of jail free card to drive like a twat and blame someone else when it goes wrong, they're still making a decision to drive like that, letting emotions overwhelm them and then blame someone else, I'd rather get out of the way if I can and let them take the full concequences for their actions should there be any, rather than risk being in a nasty accident and then take part of the blame.

BobnLen · 24/05/2024 21:15

Since no one on this thread was there they don't know how soon OP's exit was or how busy it was or anything so how can they be so sure OP was wrong, I didn't vote as I wasn't there to give a valid opinion.

Cryliner · 24/05/2024 21:14

Op are you a confident driver?

LivelyBlake · 24/05/2024 21:09

I think people are missing the point that the OP was in that lane because she needed to take an exit.

What do people do when a 4 lane motorway splits in 2? I always move to the lane I need regardless of whether there are faster cars behind. And I always drive right on the speed limit.

Arlanymor · 24/05/2024 21:07

Nesbi · 24/05/2024 20:52

surely it is everyone’s job to control the speed limit - it takes a village to raise a child and all that.

In what other situations are we perfectly content to accept that people should be bystanders to lawbreaking? Do you step aside to let someone be mugged?

No, it’s the individual’s job firstly and the police’s job secondly. Plus what a daft comparison, I’ve stepped in to protect people from being attacked before, but that’s not the same as being a lane hog is it. Do you regularly fly to Columbia to bust drug barons? Or to Africa to stop ivory poaching? If not, why not, takes a village doesn’t it? Whataboutery at its finest.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/05/2024 21:07

I said YANBU on the basis that I thought your lane was turning into the flyover imminently. But if not, you shouldn’t be in the right hand lane unless overtaking.

Obviously going right up behind someone and flashing is dick behaviour and we should
all stick to the speed limit, but equally you shouldn’t try to police the speed of others or stay in the right hand lane unless overtaking.

Cryliner · 24/05/2024 21:05

It's not your job to police what other drivers do. Unless you're a traffic officer? What are the odds that so many people on here are telling you the same thing, yet they're wrong and you're right?

spannered · 24/05/2024 21:04

Lovetotravel123 · 24/05/2024 20:27

I totally agree with you. The speed limit is there for a reason and shouldn’t be broken just because someone wants to overtake.

Would you sit in the right hand lane of a motorway while not overtaking and refuse to move over because no one should go over the speed limit? If your answer is yes, stop driving.

Edenmum2 · 24/05/2024 21:03

Why are you even asking if you are not listening to what every single person is telling you?

Canacama · 24/05/2024 21:03

surely it is everyone’s job to control the speed limit

It really isn't, especially when people are going to do it in ways that are also contravening the highway code, such as OP.
We aren't paid to do so, and as seen in this thread the majority of us are not qualified to do so either.

LivelyBlake · 24/05/2024 21:02

I'm with you OP.

I am not a fast driver, I like to get in the right lane for a turn off in plenty of time, and I do the speed limit. I don't care if people behind me are faster - I need to be in that lane for a turn off and I don't see why I should change lanes twice just to let someone get past.

Canacama · 24/05/2024 20:59

P3kingDuck · 24/05/2024 20:35

So I should have weaved in and out in the run up to it going down to one lane over a bridge when both lanes had cars in because an arsehole wanted to be in front speeding with cars in front of him and behind on both lanes?

No, you stay in the left lane until you need to move over.

Nesbi · 24/05/2024 20:59

Sounds like a lot of people are just happy to witness lawbreaking without feeling any need to intervene. Isn’t that when society begins to crumble?

The Daily Mail would be appalled surely - where are the have a go heroes who are ready to stand up to law and order and stop these law breaking hooligans from breaking the traffic laws? Law breaking scum.

Sirzy · 24/05/2024 20:58

Nesbi · 24/05/2024 20:52

surely it is everyone’s job to control the speed limit - it takes a village to raise a child and all that.

In what other situations are we perfectly content to accept that people should be bystanders to lawbreaking? Do you step aside to let someone be mugged?

But her way of trying to control others was her also breaking the law!

PrettySenior · 24/05/2024 20:58

P3kingDuck · 24/05/2024 20:49

It was waaaay less than a mile.

If it was less than a mile then you were right and he was wrong. You needed to be in that lane in order to exit and you hadn't got into it too early.

Shade17 · 24/05/2024 20:57

Pollipops1 · 24/05/2024 20:25

You were in the wrong OP and your driving is dangerous if you choose not to move over to the left when you could have done so. You’ll cause an accident if you insist on behaving like that on the road.

Tbf speeding is the cause of most accidents, hence why best to avoid those idiots OP.

It’s not, but don’t let facts get in the way, eh?

Samlewis96 · 24/05/2024 20:57

P3kingDuck · 24/05/2024 19:55

Dh thinks not.

So I’ve had to do a speed awareness course a while ago so do my best to keep to speed limits at all times.

Driving home on a curving dual carriage way on a slight tilt. 50 limit signs every few yards and a speed camera sign. The lane on the right turns into a fly over which I needed to keep on. So I was in the right hand lane driving at 50. A car came right up to my bumper and kept flashing. I stayed in the lane and pointed at the signs. He kept flashing then overtook me in a dramatic fashion, zoomed off( so breaking the speed limit) then slowed down so ended up driving not that faster than me but still over the limit.

Dh said I should have pulled over. I don’t understand why. Nobody on that road should be doing over 50 so what would be the benefit of me pulling over if I’m doing 50?

You should be in left lane unless overtaking. Simple as

TheAceWoman · 24/05/2024 20:55

Outside lane is for overtaking. Overtake. Move back into the left lane unless overtaking more cars and then moving back into the left lane.

P3kingDuck · 24/05/2024 20:55

JustmeandADHD · 24/05/2024 20:54

That’s not for you to police you just needed to move out the way

But then he just sat in front of me.

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JustmeandADHD · 24/05/2024 20:54

P3kingDuck · 24/05/2024 19:58

But why did anybody need to overtake if I was doing the speed limit? We would both be getting off at the same place.

That’s not for you to police you just needed to move out the way

Nesbi · 24/05/2024 20:52

surely it is everyone’s job to control the speed limit - it takes a village to raise a child and all that.

In what other situations are we perfectly content to accept that people should be bystanders to lawbreaking? Do you step aside to let someone be mugged?

rebecca100 · 24/05/2024 20:51

P3kingDuck · 24/05/2024 20:03

Loads of people sit in that lane because it’s a feeder lane over a road. Why would you need to overtake of the speed limit us being kept to?

Not everyone wants to stick to the speed limit and that's their choice and risk to take, if you hog the overtaking lanes on a motorway like you did on this road, you'd be liable for a ticket for careless driving.

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