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Teachers don’t want Thank You Teacher gifts

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Graveltone · 24/05/2024 15:27

Even though schools have 5-8 weeks of term left, the shops have various TYT gifts such as mugs, coasters, keyrings etc. Teachers do not want this crap! Charity shops near me have numerous TYT mugs and crap on sale!

My friend is a teacher and parents have been told not to give gifts. Teachers don’t want 30 mugs, boxes of chocolate, alcohol (that is embarrassing if teacher doesn’t drink for various reasons) etc. Nor want flowers - don’t have enough vases at home to house 30 bunches of flowers.

Friend’s school accepts cards and hm gifts.

Think before you spend your money on your DC’s teachers.

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SabreIsMyFave · 24/05/2024 16:05

BluebellGrace · 24/05/2024 16:00

One mum used to give her child's teacher a photo of her child in a mini novelty frame . Somehow I think that was going in the bin . Did she honestly think the teacher was going to put this on her mantelpiece? 😂

What a mean-spirited post. Hmm

steamedisbest · 24/05/2024 16:05

the Op isn’t a teacher
the OP doesn’t have children

she just is bored and thought she would start a silly thread

I am right aren’t i op

but you won’t be back

Cliedi · 24/05/2024 16:05

I usually get the teachers a bottle of decent wine or fizz. Something they can easily re-gift if they don’t want to celebrate being free of my children with alcohol.

SabreIsMyFave · 24/05/2024 16:05

InchesOnTheDoorFrame · 24/05/2024 16:02

More likely one of those ‘teachers are only doing their job and get too much holiday so why should they get all those presents’ type of people.

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Yeah this. ^ This thread is nothing but a teacher-bashing exercise!

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 24/05/2024 16:05

I think most decent people in any job enjoy a small token of appreciation.

I never expect it but am delighted when it happens.

My mum is a retired teacher and she used to enjoy it especially the cards, especially the ones the kids wrote themselves.

LaceyLou82 · 24/05/2024 16:05

Oh we do a collection for end of term and get vouchers! Usually easy enough!

countdowntonap · 24/05/2024 16:04

My favourite gift was a lottery ticket - and I won a tenner! Had lots of Prosecco and chocolate last year that kept me going through summer.

MizzMarple · 24/05/2024 16:03

A friend worked at a very posh public school and used to get amazing presents like massive fortnum and mason hampers. He definitely liked the presents! (And anything he didn’t like he shared with family and friends).

InchesOnTheDoorFrame · 24/05/2024 16:02

tennesseewhiskey1 · 24/05/2024 15:59

Well OP - your a bit of a rude person aren't you - are you a teacher and you got nothing?!

More likely one of those ‘teachers are only doing their job and get too much holiday so why should they get all those presents’ type of people.

Bluevelvetsofa · 24/05/2024 16:00

Gifts aren’t expected, but it’s lovely to receive them, whatever they are. Cards and emails are certainly appreciated, but if someone has gone to the effort of buying something for a teacher, it would be churlish to be rude about it.

My favourite things were usually the small gifts. I particularly remember a fridge magnet that had an appropriate message on it.

Apollo365 · 24/05/2024 16:00

Willtheraineverstop · 24/05/2024 15:59

On a separate note, Sainsbury's house wines are really good.

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Agree and their Prosecco is my fave

BluebellGrace · 24/05/2024 16:00

One mum used to give her child's teacher a photo of her child in a mini novelty frame . Somehow I think that was going in the bin . Did she honestly think the teacher was going to put this on her mantelpiece? 😂

DelythBeautyQueen · 24/05/2024 15:59

I'm sure anyone would appreciate the thought that comes with a gift, whatever it is.

I'm not a teacher, but we used to get a lot of gifts when I was a nurse. Wine, chocolates and boxes of tights were always much appreciated.

Personal gifts like mugs and keyrings were less common, because gifts were usually given to the whole team rather than individuals.

Willtheraineverstop · 24/05/2024 15:59

Graveltone · 24/05/2024 15:35

Another friend is a teacher. When she gets alcohol, it’s usually some awful cheap wine like Echo Falls strawberry or in Sainsburys do a wine called Penguin Sands.

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On a separate note, Sainsbury's house wines are really good.

tennesseewhiskey1 · 24/05/2024 15:59

Well OP - your a bit of a rude person aren't you - are you a teacher and you got nothing?!

Apollo365 · 24/05/2024 15:58

We always do a club together voucher here

burnoutbabe · 24/05/2024 15:58

Surely it's just a case of avoiding the sort of. Thank you teacher stuff they sell in supermarkets?

As no one wants that sort of thing (I'd hate a worlds best accountant and even worse if I got a few of them every year)

That sort of stuff is just stuff that will end up in landfill.

Apollo365 · 24/05/2024 15:58

My SIL loves the choc and booze sooooo

TheKeatingFive · 24/05/2024 15:57

Despite the endless guff about it on here, I expect most people are very happy with gifts of wine/chocs/flowers. Vouchers even better. Maybe not the mugs.

Screamingabdabz · 24/05/2024 15:56

I would hate a load of teacher tat but if you’re a sentimental, grateful-for-any-old-shit type like my DH who has kept every ‘daddy’ mug since the kids were at toddler group (they’re adults now) then you’ll be different. I’m sure there is a spectrum of those in between too.

I think the problem is most people are shit at gift giving. It’s about them rather than the recipient. What does the teacher like? A lovely hand written card always, but after that be thoughtful. Just buying some home bargains crap because it has the word ‘teacher’ on it needs slightly more discernment. Would a voucher or a nice plant or quality notebook be better?

SabreIsMyFave · 24/05/2024 15:56

MamaGarl85 · 24/05/2024 15:49

Not sure this went the way OP thought it would!

Yeah this. ^ I said this too.

SimpleRose · 24/05/2024 15:56

I’m confused OP why you care so much if you’re not a teacher???

when I was a teacher I liked end of term gifts personally. I give my kids teachers vouchers or money. I don’t think it’s something to get worked up about

delilabell · 24/05/2024 15:54

I'm a TA ina secondary school. I'd love a gift! Also I might be missing the point but I love echo falls wine 🤣

Peaceandquiet9276 · 24/05/2024 15:53

Graveltone · 24/05/2024 15:27

Even though schools have 5-8 weeks of term left, the shops have various TYT gifts such as mugs, coasters, keyrings etc. Teachers do not want this crap! Charity shops near me have numerous TYT mugs and crap on sale!

My friend is a teacher and parents have been told not to give gifts. Teachers don’t want 30 mugs, boxes of chocolate, alcohol (that is embarrassing if teacher doesn’t drink for various reasons) etc. Nor want flowers - don’t have enough vases at home to house 30 bunches of flowers.

Friend’s school accepts cards and hm gifts.

Think before you spend your money on your DC’s teachers.

Speak for yourself! (Or your friend rather) Personally, I like receiving chocs and wine!!

freshgreenmintleaves · 24/05/2024 15:52

The best thing is to get together with other parents and get an M&S voucher or similar; and the kids can get together and sign a card. Let’s face it, most of these keychains and mugs are going straight to the landfill or charity shop. OP, you’re not being unreasonable.

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