Men getting angry with sick wives

My husband is like this.

Even admitted that when I slipped and broke my hip he was angry at me for doing it!

He fed and watered me during the 6 weeks recovery, but that was it. But if you asked him he was amazing. Also PIL used to phone him to "see how he was coping."

Yes, my abusive ex was like this.

Couldn't accept I was ill and would be completely dismissive of my feelings. The fact that I was rarely ill made no difference and actually had the effect of making me doubt myself so I battled through.

Was only when thinking back how nuts it was.

When your washing machine makes a clunking noise and spews suds over the floor, you don't there-there it, do you? You give it a kick and then fume about how it's a useless piece of crap that only got fixed last year.

It's basically the same mentality in these men.

I read that men are more likely to leave a sick wife than the reverse.

There's research that suggests that while the vast majority of people (of either sex) will support their spouse/partner when seriously ill, women are much more likely to end up separated or divorced if they're diagnosed with cancer or MS than men are when they face the same conditions.

In one study (on brain cancer) the single biggest factor that predicted separation/divorce was if the patient was female. Men were seven times more likely to leave their partner than the other way around if one of them got cancer.

And interesting that a couple of PPs mention some men treat women who are ill like a broken household appliance. Researchers have noticed that too.

My friend's soon to be ex husband is like this. They view women as an appliance and get annoyed when said appliance stops doing it's job. He treated her like absolute shit through her entire breast cancer journey, acting like she was being dramatic and should just pull herself together and still do 100% of the childcare, housework and cooking.

Hence the soon to be ex part.

Horrible creatures they are.

You have to always remember that narcissists or those high in narcissistic traits have an emotional age of about 2-5/7. Essentially it is an arrested emotional development so essentially they are throwing a toddler tantrum.

Nailed it

I have never known anyone like this

I don’t know where this comes from? My DH is definitely not like this, even if I have a sniffle he is looking after me!
I do wonder whether we as women are guilty of showing men that we are too capable. This results in our partners taking advantage? I’m not saying it’s right, but maybe this is what is happening?

The most charitable explanation is that they become anxious and it manifests as anger. The more likely imo is that they're angry that her being 'out of order' is going to result in them having to do more than usual. Much like a broken domestic appliance, it's inconvenient. The sudden onset of matched illness is to ensure they are not expected to pick up any slack and in hopes she will recover herself as quickly as possible in order to look after the DC and them.

I don’t know anyone like this in person. Obviously women who have issues with their partners will flock to internet forums. I wouldn’t forget the well known phrase ‘man flu’ which can be quite dismissive at times.

They feel entitled to us and the services we perform to make their lives easier.
We are essentially a domestic appliance that has broken down or not working as well which means they have to put in more effort than they think they should have to.

Men like this don't like women they just need them because their lazy and entitled.