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I thought dh would be better by now - testosterone replacement therapy

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WaffleDogg20 · 24/05/2024 12:49

Honestly at breaking point.

DH been on TRT since beginning of February. Before that we hadn’t had any intimacy in 2 years. His choice.
We have had it twice since then, the first time i had to instigate it and I felt like I was taking his virginity. I ffelt gross and felt like he didn’t really want to do it. Second time he woke up Horny.

His last blood test 2 weeks ago showed he’s at 22 whatever that means, he originally was 6.

The amount of times iv been turned down int he past is ridiculous but I genuinely thought things would be better by now. Kids are at school so we went to have a nap, tried it on numerous times to be pushed away and told he has a “mental block” so I have came downstairs. I have literally no one to talk to about this lol.

I don’t know what to do, I feel so unattractive and unwanted. There is absolutely no point telling him how I feel because I have been expressing it for 3 years and he has autism so struggles to see how I feel.

I thought he’d be back to how he was before 😞

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dotdotdot22 · 24/05/2024 12:55

It sounds like he has an emotional / mental problem he needs to work through. He's probably feeling very emasculated and you need to build things up very slowly eg. Start by holding hands, next time move on the hugging or a massage and work on intimacy in less sexual ways. Could you go to couples therapy?