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Buffet etiquette??

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Thriving30 · 24/05/2024 12:27

I'm having a little buffet at work to celebrate going on mat leave, and I'm not really sure how much food to buy. I work in a hospital so all colleagues work quite closely together. There will be about 40 members of staff on duty and around 8 have put their name down for the buffet and will be contributing towards it.. These are mainly my close colleagues. I do get on with everyone though! I'm obviously bringing sweet things for everyone to enjoy but I'm also thinking of bringing a few savoury bits as well, but not sure on the etiquette for the buffet in general? I am expecting staff who aren't contributing to help themselves as well which may make it awkward if the people who are contributing have a late lunch and don't get much (or any) food! But equally I don't want it to just be to take something if you've contributed.. How do I handle this fairly? Thanks
Edited to add for context, it's a shared staff room which everyone eats in at different times depending when they get a break, but there's usually 8-10 people on their lunch at the same time

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CJ0374 · 24/05/2024 15:38

When I worked in a similar setting, staff each bought in a platter/packet crisps/a cake/bottle of softdrink etc to all the share. OR, the person just bought a cake for everyone to share. I've never seen it where only a few people pay like this because there are bound to be people thinking its a free for all, and those that paid will get annoyed.

As someone else said, can you keep back some platters for those that paid? You said only 8 people that have paid. I'd put a selection on a plate for each of them- cake/biscuit/sausage roll or whatever, then wrap in clingfilm with their name on it. IF they share THEIR plate with others, fair enough, but otherwise, they each get their own share.

Caffeineislife · 24/05/2024 13:27

Is there a way that you can perhaps put the buffet out at a time almost all who have contributed can do? Then find a way so those who have contributed are able to pop down and get a few bits to put in a lunchbox or something (so put it out between 12-1 for example) then when all who have contributed have been able to get something. Maybe share a picture in a group chat of what is going to be there so they can say can you save me x,x and x and someone can box it up. Then you can leave the rest out for the gannets. Unfortunately in a workplace of your size something like this will attract the CFist of gannets.

MavisPennies · 24/05/2024 12:47

Maybe save a couple of trays of stuff for those working late?

NorthUtsireSouthUtsire · 24/05/2024 12:45

PBandJ111 · 24/05/2024 12:41

Isn’t it a bit weird to do a buffet to go on maternity leave?

Not at all. Depends on your work environment. I have certainly had them and attended them. Especially if you are a well established team and like each other .

OneTC · 24/05/2024 12:45

The worst outcome is there's not going to be enough food for everyone, and that won't be the fault of those that brought the food.

Just let the contributors at it first and save a plate for any missing out

5128gap · 24/05/2024 12:42

PBandJ111 · 24/05/2024 12:41

Isn’t it a bit weird to do a buffet to go on maternity leave?

No.

5128gap · 24/05/2024 12:42

Hopefully those people who have chosen not to put their names down won't be so rude as to swoop in on the free food anyway until invited to!

PBandJ111 · 24/05/2024 12:41

Isn’t it a bit weird to do a buffet to go on maternity leave?

5128gap · 24/05/2024 12:40

I'd open the food at a time that suited the majority of your core group, setting aside some food for those in that group you know can't make it until later. After the core group had eaten and presumably done the presentation to you etc, I'd just make it known to the rest of my colleagues that there was some food left if anyone fancied it.

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