To break up with him on his birthday?

Yeah dump him, raise your standards, you deserve way better

He’s scum. Get him out of your life instantly.

Of course you should dump him.
You could just tell him you can’t go tonight and then do the actual dumping tomorrow. Just “ sorry won’t be able to make it tonight “ and then block him, and briefly unblock tomorrow to dump.
Or just dump and block right now, he’s not going to bother much anyway .

Why an earth did you not break up with him the first time, he could give you a disease.
He is making you ill and unhappy, if he wants to kill himself with his loose morals let him, don't let him take you down.
Do it now and 100% don't let him talk you around, if he was decent he'd at least be taking you will him.

Please please walk away

For fucks sake OP have some respect for yourself and raise your bar.

You've been dating 10 months and he's cheated on you 4 times already, you've endorsed it every time by staying with him so why on earth would he stop?

Don't even go to the effort of calling today off, just block him completely and move on with your life, ideally with some introspection as to why you don't think you deserve better than this before you get together with anyone else.

Leave him. I’d take enjoyment from the fact I was doing it on his birthday after how he’s treated you. You deserve so much better! Saying you should trust him… when he has cheated repeatedly when you’ve only been together 10 months!! Get rid and block him and if you’re on good terms with any of his family text them and tell them the truth of why you won’t be there tonight.

Do it! Serves the scumbag right.

10 months in you should still be in the honeymoon period, all excited about your relationship, both on your best behaviour, out to impress each other.
You shouldn't be sat in tears because he's cheated on you multiple times.
He's giving you a glimpse of your future.
He's actually giving you a gift, the gift of showing you who he is before you waste years of your life on him, grab this gift with both hands.
Forget about his birthday, don't show up tonight, don't dump him, just block him and delete his number, you owe him nothing.
You're worth and deserve so much more ❤️

Fuck him off. He’s taking you for a mug.

Having read the thread, he deserves it. At this early stage he should be treating you like a princess, not continually disrespecting you. Dump his ass and get yourself STD checked to ensure he hasn't given you a present.

We get what we settle for.

10 months and he's cheated how many times???

He doesn't respect you and you don't respect yourself.

You know the answer.

Oh and I'd get tested, goodness knows what he's given you.

If he keeps up his current rate and you stay with him 10 years he will sleep with 48 women and you'll end up with an STD.

Get rid. I don't care whose birthday it is.

10 months and he hasn't been faithful at all? He's clearly a real catch isn't he? Why the hell are you still with him? Surely you can't be that desperate for a man that you'll put up with this shit! Just bin him off and block him right now! You honestly think binning him on his birthday is going to have an impact on him? He won't give a toss by the sound of it! He'll be picking someone else up by the end of the night!
I'd also be making an appointment to get tested for STI's too!
Good luck 🌻

Come on, you are being ridiculous. He's not a child who has to have a nice birthday. He cheated on you four times! I wouldn't even let him know why I didn't turn up tonight. I would block him right this minute and look into having some kind of counselling to see why I put up with such a horrible man.

I immediately thought this. Why put yourself through the agony of sitting there at a birthday meal when you know what you should do for your sake.

Why on earth are you with someone who is regularly unfaithful?

Yes, finish it straight away. Birthday irrelevant.

I was going to say what an awful day to choose but after reading the thread if it was me I'd be asking the restaurant if I could leave little cards next to all the dinner plates in advance. I'd add a sentence to the card to tell everyone at that meal why I wasn't there. If I was feeling particularly furious I might just get a few cheap pen drives and add the footage of the partying.

Block his number, return (or preferably sell) anything of value he might have bought you, and either wrap up the rest and leave them for him as an extra special gift, or stick them in a bin bag and leave them somewhere he can't miss. Then walk away and don't look back.

In my twenties I had a twat of a boyfriend who constantly made me cry. An older colleague gave me some advice I never forgot and now I'm an older woman I often pass it on.

If he makes you cry now he will always make you cry.

In time you'll be glad you binned him.

@Faceissues

F@ck him - he's disrespected you 4 times - dump his ass - who cares if it's his birthday?!

Why are you even asking? He's taking the pi$$!

If he is doing this now during the honeymoon stage imagine what he'll be like in a year or two.
Please don't spare a thought about dumping him on his birthday, it sounds like he won't care.
You can do so much better, and you will.
Do something nice this weekend instead with friends who value you.
Take care

To be honest, I don't think it is really going to bother him if you dump him or not. He clearly has lots of other options. How exactly are you benefitting from this 'relationship'?

Why didn't you dump him after the first time he cheated?

Just get rid. Every time he cheats and you take him back you're giving him permission to do it again with your blessing. Be thankful you have no ties and bin him off.

He is an arse hole, he will never change. 10 months in is supposed to be fun and exciting, you're not supposed to be in tears because he cheats on you.
Dump him, take his present back if you can, spend the money on yourself and run like the wind.

Doesn't sound like he thinks he's in a relationship anyway. Please ditch him if you've got any sense at all.

dump him. Who cares if it’s his birthday. He’s treated you very shabbily, and you need to take care of yourself now.
dump him, and look ahead to a better life. Maybe buy yourself a little “birthday gift” to celebrate getting free of this person who lies.