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AIBU?

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To think this elderly woman did nothing wrong?

115 replies

takeonabrew · 23/05/2024 21:30

Apparently that was the 3rd time the older woman had approached her baby

AIBU not to see a problem?

I shared this in a group chat via WhatsApp and a few mums have commented 'yeah I won't lie, I don't like randomers in my baby's face! That's why I have my 'Please look and don't touch sign'

I said but she didn't touch her? I've been ignored!

Link to video www.instagram.com/reel/C64OXdZv1aA/?igsh=MWY4emY0bmw5bGFmYw==

OP posts:

MolkosTeenageAngst · 23/05/2024 21:49

Smiling at a baby or toddler, waving, sticking your tongue out etc from your table all fine, saying ‘hi’ as you walk past is fine but constantly approaching someone else’s baby and cooing loudly in a performative way whilst the baby’s family are trying to eat and mind their own business is annoying. The woman was being annoying if that was the third time she’d approached the baby and blowing a kiss at a strangers baby is weird, most people want to teach their children it’s okay not to want to be hugged and kissed when you don’t want to be, I wouldn’t want a stranger making out to blow kisses at my baby. Kisses are for close family and friends only!

Riversideandrelax · 23/05/2024 21:49

takeonabrew · 23/05/2024 21:31

I love it when strangers take a minute or a few seconds to say hi! What's so wrong with that?

I don't see an issue personally. I think it's quite sad that people do

She said that she spoke to the lady the first 2 times and her sister spoke to her the 3rd time.

I think once is lovely. A second time ok. But a third time? I'd find it quite rude that she kept interrupting my lunch and it would make me feel uncomfortable.

TabithaTimeTurner · 23/05/2024 21:48

Riversideandrelax · 23/05/2024 21:41

Not the point...but the woman wasn't elderly!

Edited

She wasn’t even old 😂🤣😆

Surprisedcupcake · 23/05/2024 21:46

Personally I prefer it when people ask (or be invited) to interact with my baby and don't just approach with no warning. I also don't tend to like being disturbed by strangers when sat down eating at a cafe or restaurant. I was mugged a few years ago though so strangers approaching me gives me a lot of anxiety!

Guavafish1 · 23/05/2024 21:46

Strange to film yourself eating and even stranger ppl watching

Ohfuckrucksack · 23/05/2024 21:44

I think it's tricky.

Babies are neither public nor their parent's property.

Lots of babies enjoy interacting with people but not all do.

Sometimes the parent just wants the baby to stay calm/settle to sleep or are not themselves in the mood to interact with other people.

I think you have to read parent's body language to see if they are okay with what you are doing - and if it's clear they're getting stressed or annoyed, you have to back off.

MercyDulb0ttle · 23/05/2024 21:42

Typical of that sort of person. “I must Film myself eating because everything I do, no matter how mundane is sooooo fascinating and I’m better than all the rest of you plebs and how DARE someone presume to speak to my child
who is also too far above everyone else for words”.

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/05/2024 21:42

RobertaFirmino · 23/05/2024 21:38

Well come on now, she's obviously an MNer. Just look at that massive salad!

MissingMoominMamma · 23/05/2024 21:41

Most people would’ve turned round and interacted, rather than gurning into their phone.

Riversideandrelax · 23/05/2024 21:41

Not the point...but the woman wasn't elderly!

Applescruffle · 23/05/2024 21:41

Noone wants to talk to each other any more or have any interaction unless its via a screen. Its sad.

RitzyMcFee · 23/05/2024 21:40

I lived in a popular retirement town when I had my baby. I could only walk about five meters when she was in her pram without someone stopping me. It was lovely.