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To think this elderly woman did nothing wrong?

115 replies

takeonabrew · 23/05/2024 21:30

Apparently that was the 3rd time the older woman had approached her baby

AIBU not to see a problem?

I shared this in a group chat via WhatsApp and a few mums have commented 'yeah I won't lie, I don't like randomers in my baby's face! That's why I have my 'Please look and don't touch sign'

I said but she didn't touch her? I've been ignored!

Link to video www.instagram.com/reel/C64OXdZv1aA/?igsh=MWY4emY0bmw5bGFmYw==

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TabithaTimeTurner · 24/05/2024 00:25

BadeballSkihipto · 24/05/2024 00:20

They are still smart ladies.

Who are? The woman ignoring her baby and the one filming her eating? 😂🤣😆😂😂

BadeballSkihipto · 24/05/2024 00:20

They are still smart ladies.

Ihopeithinkiknow · 24/05/2024 00:11

Her rolling her eyes at the "weird woman" talking to her baby all while she sits there filming herself eating lol I know all this Instagram bollocks goes to peoples heads but fucking hell lol do something interesting at least 🤨 if I wanted to sit across from someone while they rolled their eyes at me while we ate food then I would just go to my mums house for dinner lol

maddening · 23/05/2024 23:56

Who the fuck videos themselves eating!

Jitterybugs · 23/05/2024 23:46

People actually order food, set up their camera and film themselves shovelling it in? Then post it online for comments?? I honestly didn’t know that was a thing.

Growlybear83 · 23/05/2024 23:35

I would normally find it very irritating if someone came up and started speaking to someone else's baby but as the woman in the video didn't do much as look at her baby throughout her video, let alone talk to it, then I think it was quite possibly the best interaction the poor baby had the whole day.

And the other women in the video is NOT elderly!

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 23/05/2024 22:40

TabithaTimeTurner · 23/05/2024 21:36

I could see nothing wrong with that. The woman seems to be interacting more with her baby than the mother who’s too busy filming herself eating 😳

This.

Fleamaker · 23/05/2024 22:39

Just plain nasty and very immature.

Port1aCastis · 23/05/2024 22:35

Posting bollocks on Instagram seems to be more important than interacting with baby. Strange attention seeking woman filming herself eating comes over as shallow and odd, look at meeeee should be her motto

Riversideandrelax · 23/05/2024 22:33

TwattyMcFuckFace · 23/05/2024 21:57

Could be absolute bollocks though and just said because so many people said how rude she was.

I'm also laughing at 'I had to contain myself'.

She was more busy showing the world how to eat like you're chewing cud.

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Well, yes, but anything could be bollocks. You do hear the sister speaks to the lady.

But yeah, I'm commenting on if it happened like she said and it really was the 3rd time the lady interrupted them.

LizardOfOz · 23/05/2024 22:31

The scraping of the fork with her teeth 🤢

Fizbosshoes · 23/05/2024 22:30

I'm not seeing a problem with what the (background) woman did? It didn't look like she touched the baby?
I would absolutely hate to watch/film myself eating though!

itsmylife7 · 23/05/2024 22:17

Why is she filming herself stuffing her face ?
and that Women is not old 🧓

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takeonabrew · 23/05/2024 22:08

PianPianPiano · 23/05/2024 21:51

Wait, people have actual signs telling people not to touch their babies?!

Yes. I'm in a WhatsApp group with one, and queue at a gate every date with another one!

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FrangipaniBlue · 23/05/2024 22:08

Reading the comments she didn't actually "approach" three times....

She spoke to them twice in other parts of the restaurant (I'm guessing maybe at the counter, self serve?) and both times the baby was asleep.

The third time she was clearly just passing on the way to the door and she says "ooh she's awake!"

I don't think the lady did anything wrong.

Filming yourself eating though...... bizarre - the whole thing just screams "give me attention!"

Laszlomydarling · 23/05/2024 22:08

I'm glad that someone interacted with the baby, as clearly the mother only had time for her 'fans'
It doesn't look like she did anything wrong.

FTPM1980 · 23/05/2024 22:07

Well it seems fake maybe
The woman is a bit OTT and doesn't seem quite like a genuine interruption.
But
Baby must be sat away from the adults and facing away....so who else is baby going to interact with??
If the baby was facing into the group then it wouldn't have happened.
She is also clearly passing....not approaching and then returning. So.if she passes and baby makes eye contact is she supposed ignore?

BurbageBrook · 23/05/2024 22:02

@ususer1471453601 you didn't do anything wrong at all. Some people are just unfriendly and cold, sadly.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 23/05/2024 21:57

Riversideandrelax · 23/05/2024 21:49

She said that she spoke to the lady the first 2 times and her sister spoke to her the 3rd time.

I think once is lovely. A second time ok. But a third time? I'd find it quite rude that she kept interrupting my lunch and it would make me feel uncomfortable.

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Could be absolute bollocks though and just said because so many people said how rude she was.

I'm also laughing at 'I had to contain myself'.

She was more busy showing the world how to eat like you're chewing cud.

Changingplace · 23/05/2024 21:53

TabithaTimeTurner · 23/05/2024 21:36

I could see nothing wrong with that. The woman seems to be interacting more with her baby than the mother who’s too busy filming herself eating 😳

My thoughts entirely! The woman did nothing wrong whatsoever and the mum should spend more time talking to her baby and less time posing for videos to post online, she’s embarrassing herself rolling her eyes like that.

user1471453601 · 23/05/2024 21:53

I once inadvertently overstepped the mark with a parent I think. I was walking toward a particular shop when my eye was caught by a Mum and, I guess, a child of about 8 months or so n her arms.

The child was really arresting and beautiful. As I passed I stopped and said to Mum, your child is gorgeous. I didn't try to touch the child, but the mum changed the arm the baby was resting in and turned her back to me.

I got the message and backed off pdq. Sad, really. For all three of us.

mrswarthog · 23/05/2024 21:52

Both of mine have extremely curly hair, DS Jet black and DD Titian / Blonde. They were OAP magnets, couldn't go anywhere without comments and occasional touches. I'm in Liverpool though, so the whole 'takes a village' concept is normal. I always took it as a compliment.

Applescruffle · 23/05/2024 21:52

PianPianPiano · 23/05/2024 21:51

Wait, people have actual signs telling people not to touch their babies?!

Nowt so queer as folk

PianPianPiano · 23/05/2024 21:51

Wait, people have actual signs telling people not to touch their babies?!

TraitorsGate · 23/05/2024 21:50

I'd be more worried about posting pics all over instagram