To think this elderly woman did nothing wrong?

This.

I had loads of lovely interactions with people when I was out and about with DS as a baby.

Just another self obsessed Insta mum who'll probably be giving a teacher somewhere hell in a few years, when her roolz aren't accepted, if that's what it takes for her to have to 'contain herself.'

And sadly just another ageist MN title - or is that intentional trying to get it more clicks?

It has been a really warm sunny week and babies are blooming like flowers in their prams. Some of them are giving away free smiles to everyone they pass. It is impossible not to smile back.

Why would anyone want to film themselves stuffing her face full of food? So unattractive.

I think her baby, her rules. And the blowing the kiss at the end was was not necessary.

But it seems that the baby had just woken up and was smiling and it's very hard to resist a smiley baby - do you ignore them when they grin at you in the supermarket for eg? Or do you smile back? Am confused at the etiquette now.

I shall practice my poker face in the vicinity of any grinning cherub I may encounter in the wild, don't want to get tik-tok shamed - which is where the mum overstepped the mark. She lost the moral high ground when she used her baby in another way - to post the content for visibility and follows.

I'm not sure she's even 45 😂

There was nothing wrong with what she did in this case.

It bought up a cringey memory though of when my daughter was about 18 months old.

This slender little old lady leaned into my daughter pushchair to say hello, and my daughter slapped her across the face. It was embarrassing and obviously I apologised.

It goes to prove, though, that children very much have their own emotions and boundary senses.

The lady came out of nowhere so I didn't have a chance to forewarn her. My daughter couldn't stand people right in her space.

My daughter always has taken herself out of situations when she has had enough as an adult as well as a child. My daughter is now 37..

This is Mumsnet. Anyone over 45 is elderly.

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And OP that women isn't "elderly"

This is a normal interaction from the older lady. In fact it's lovely that people take the time to do it. Babies need interactions. The lady was not remotely close and was just walking by. The mum looked like a bit of a diva.

If I'm in a queue and there's a baby or small child near me I will always say hello to them and give a little wave.

Being a pedant, since the woman making the video doesn't appear to be talking/interacting with the baby and the (allegedly) elderly woman isnt interacting with the mum/instagrammer herself...then is her lunch actually interrupted?? There's just some random person in the background of her video - which is always a risk if you're in a public place.
(I've seen people filming in parks, carparks and tube stations and getting annoyed at the presence of other people!)

OP the woman is not elderly!

Poor woman was just interacting with the child as she was approaching the door to leave - an everyday action, or should be.

She was more busy showing the world how to eat like you're chewing cud.

There was a thread earlier in the week about a woman being furious because someone hadn’t interacted with her baby in the library! People can’t win….

If I was filming myself eating my beans and toast to share with my adoring fans I’d be fucking raging if someone interrupted me. I wonder if she takes a clapperboard to the restaurants.

Social media makes ignoramuses think they're far more important than they are.

That is a perfectly normal interaction imo.

I think it's important that babies get a lot of interaction. There's no harm in people taking a moment to talk and smile.

My kids made a fortune because they were born back when it was very common for people to put a coin into your baby's hand for good luck. Of course I took it straight out of their hand for safety, thanked the giver and had a little chat about my babies. It was nice.

They paid for every coffee I had for about three years. 😁

Does that tradition still happen by the way?

It was over 20 years ago and only older people doing it even back then so maybe it's gone now and you all have to pay for your own coffees 😁

Whoever decides to proactively interact with strangers in a public place has to accept their attempt might be rejected. The mum hasn't asked anything and is minding her own business, getting interrupted 3 times by a random stranger is a pain - it doesn't matter what their reason is. She doesn't owe her anything, and has already responded politely twice, that's more than enough.

Honestly, this is why I worry about chatting to
someone’s toddler in a shop, or making faces at a baby in a queue. 😐 Apparently being nice is awful now.

This was the third time the woman approached. I dont have a problem with someone talking to my child, I have a problem with my lunch being interupted THREE times.

That's why I have my 'Please look and don't touch sign'

WTF?! The world has gone mad. I don't know if that or the filming yourself eating is weirdest.

Did you read the caption on the instagram video?

it changes the whole scenario.

Did you actually read my post in full?

This strange woman did not do this once. She interrupted this woman’s outing 3 times to coo over this baby.

How many times do you think it’s okay to interrupt a person’s meal because you want to coo over their baby?

I'm not the type to stop and coo at some random baby, but that mother is definitely the weirdo in this scenario. Why is she filming herself eating??? She's there with her baby and a friend (?) and yet she's performing for the camera rather than behaving like a normal person. Who's watching her eat, or is it for her own use? 'Ah, time to unwind at the end of a busy day! I just can't wait to relive last week's lunch at that fantastic new place that serves massive salads!'

The caption explains what went before. This is the 3rd time the stranger woman interacted with the baby in the cafe. Greeting and cooing over someone else’s baby 3 times on one occasion is over the top. The mum has been pleasant to the woman twice already. The mum was polite imo.

anyway, I’d advise going back and reading the caption and it changes the whole context.