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To think this elderly woman did nothing wrong?

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takeonabrew · 23/05/2024 21:30

Apparently that was the 3rd time the older woman had approached her baby

AIBU not to see a problem?

I shared this in a group chat via WhatsApp and a few mums have commented 'yeah I won't lie, I don't like randomers in my baby's face! That's why I have my 'Please look and don't touch sign'

I said but she didn't touch her? I've been ignored!

Link to video www.instagram.com/reel/C64OXdZv1aA/?igsh=MWY4emY0bmw5bGFmYw==

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AIstolemylunch · 24/05/2024 13:22

Not elderly and not offensive. At least the poor baby was getting some interaction with someone. Why is it a thing now to film yourself close up absolutely stuffing your face? Bleurgh.

whereaw · 24/05/2024 13:18

Having strangers interact with positivity and kindness to your baby is such a lovely thing and so good for them - lack of social interaction and people keeping a distance is not a good thing at all - don't we all know that after the insanity of covid times?!

If it is a problem use your voice and tell them.

LakeTiticaca · 24/05/2024 13:07

whynotwhatknot · 24/05/2024 12:51

https://www.instagram.com/p/C7V7rN2u7Iv/

anoter one of her eating

Are people actually interested in this crap? Do they actually seek out and watch "woman eats spaghetti"?
No bloody wonder the world is on its arse !!!

GreenShady · 24/05/2024 13:06

I wonder if it's a legacy of Covid?
I can't explain what I mean but you know - people stopped interacting as much, other people were a potential danger etc

When my youngest was a baby /toddler she loved it when people stopped and smiled at her - and I'm pretty sure the people smiling at her loved it too. How have things come so far from there?

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 12:52

whynotwhatknot · 24/05/2024 12:51

https://www.instagram.com/p/C7V7rN2u7Iv/

anoter one of her eating

And?

whynotwhatknot · 24/05/2024 12:51

https://www.instagram.com/p/C7V7rN2u7Iv/

anoter one of her eating

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/p/C7V7rN2u7Iv

whynotwhatknot · 24/05/2024 12:48

this sort of person would probably moan if noone aknowleged her child-you cant win

an no we ont want to see you eating

fridgegrazer · 24/05/2024 12:29

IncompleteSenten · 24/05/2024 08:56

That is a perfectly normal interaction imo.

I think it's important that babies get a lot of interaction. There's no harm in people taking a moment to talk and smile.

My kids made a fortune because they were born back when it was very common for people to put a coin into your baby's hand for good luck. Of course I took it straight out of their hand for safety, thanked the giver and had a little chat about my babies. It was nice.

They paid for every coffee I had for about three years. 😁

Does that tradition still happen by the way?

It was over 20 years ago and only older people doing it even back then so maybe it's gone now and you all have to pay for your own coffees 😁

Oh yes - I remember they would touch the baby's hand with a silver coin and then give the coin to the mother. I think it's all connected with not giving a money box or purse as a gift unless it has a coin in it. All customs (or superstitions?) which seem to have died out.

(I was thinking of the saying "cross your palm with silver" but I think I'm confusing it with having your fortune told.)

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 12:27

LakeTiticaca · 24/05/2024 12:23

Probably the most attention the baby will get all day 😆

What an unnecessarily shit comment.

LakeTiticaca · 24/05/2024 12:23

Probably the most attention the baby will get all day 😆

ThePoshUns · 24/05/2024 12:20

What a drama queen. Get off your bloody phone and interact with your baby instead of filming yourself eating ffs.

Anothnamechang · 24/05/2024 12:12

I have a very social baby who absolutely loves when people chat to her. Some appointments we are at she’s the youngest with everyone being a lot older, the attention she gets from adoring older couples always has her smiling!

I had an older gent in a cafe sit with us and hold her so I could get my coffee, he couldn’t wait to tell his wife about it when she came to meet him 😂

Our baby group regularly goes into our local nursing home as well 💖

marshmallowfinder · 24/05/2024 12:12

Looks fake to me.

Abeona · 24/05/2024 12:10

I'm guessing that the baby was sitting there being ignored and the woman was making a point by saying hello to it each time she passed — because its mother was preoccupied filming herself.

TinkerTiger · 24/05/2024 12:10

RobertaFirmino · 23/05/2024 21:38

Well come on now, she's obviously an MNer. Just look at that massive salad!

There was also a post here the other day about a woman who wanted to call the police because another woman talked to her baby

FrenchandSaunders · 24/05/2024 11:51

Silly mare, she’s made herself look like an idiot. And who films themselves shovelling food in their gobs like that 🤮

I’ve got twins and the attention they got as babies/toddlers was off the scale but I wouldn’t have behaved like that!

BlueGrackle · 24/05/2024 11:46

Wickedlywearynamechanged · 24/05/2024 08:45

Did you read the caption on the instagram video?

it changes the whole scenario.

Did you actually read my post in full?

This strange woman did not do this once. She interrupted this woman’s outing 3 times to coo over this baby.

How many times do you think it’s okay to interrupt a person’s meal because you want to coo over their baby?

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Didn’t stop her eating or more importantly filming herself. She was interacting with the baby.

TammyJones · 24/05/2024 11:45

Riversideandrelax · 23/05/2024 21:41

Not the point...but the woman wasn't elderly!

Edited

That's what I was thinking lol

catchthepigeon98 · 24/05/2024 11:42

The mother was too busy watching her self eating and talking to herself I’m surprised she noticed the women talking to her baby

LawlorsNaa · 24/05/2024 11:38

I'm a Nanny to two girls, 5 and 18 months. When I bring the 18 month out older people always stop to talk to her. I think it's lovely and the baby is always full of smiles when they interact with her.

GreenShady · 24/05/2024 11:13

takeonabrew · 24/05/2024 10:18

I'm not sure she's even 45 😂

I am on the spectrum so don't understand sarcasm well. Is that a joke? Blush she's clearly over 45 surely!

Although another look tells me not really 'elderly'.

She looks a lot older than my mum who is mid 50s

No I wasn't being sarcastic - maybe just exaggerating a bit for effect 😊

I have watched it a couple of times but after I posted that I watched it again and thought oh actually she does look over 45 😂

But definitely not elderly!

Elleherd · 24/05/2024 11:02

takeonabrew · 24/05/2024 10:18

I'm not sure she's even 45 😂

I am on the spectrum so don't understand sarcasm well. Is that a joke? Blush she's clearly over 45 surely!

Although another look tells me not really 'elderly'.

She looks a lot older than my mum who is mid 50s

Ok, apologies for questing if the ageism was intentional to get clicks. She's past middle age, but absolutely not 'elderly.'

NigelHarmansNewWife · 24/05/2024 10:33

Some people will take offence at anything these days. The woman doesn't attempt to touch the baby. I can only imagine filming and posting this is for the views. And it worked.

TabithaTimeTurner · 24/05/2024 10:26

She looks late 50s to me, either way it’s very definitely not elderly 😆

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takeonabrew · 24/05/2024 10:18

I'm not sure she's even 45 😂

I am on the spectrum so don't understand sarcasm well. Is that a joke? Blush she's clearly over 45 surely!

Although another look tells me not really 'elderly'.

She looks a lot older than my mum who is mid 50s

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