To think this elderly woman did nothing wrong?

takeonabrew · 2024-05-23T20:30:59+00:00

Apparently that was the 3rd time the older woman had approached her baby AIBU not to see a problem? I shared this in a group chat via WhatsApp and a few mums have commented 'yeah I won't lie, I don't like randomers in my baby's face! That's why I have my 'Please look and don't touch sign' I said but she didn't touch her? I've been ignored! Link to video https://www.instagram.com/reel/C64OXdZv1aA/?igsh=MWY4emY0bmw5bGFmYw==

CammyChameleon · 25/05/2024 01:38

I like it when strangers interact kindly with my kids, always have done? One time I felt it was a bit odd was when an elderly nun kissed DS1 on the cheek while he was strapped to my chest, but that's about it really.

I interact with random kids as well, wave and say hello to little babies, say "you're doing great" to a kid learning to ride a bike with their parent, "oh cool a Spiderman t-shirt, my little boy likes him too" etc.

Your kids are part of society now, let them enjoy the good parts of it.

AIstolemylunch · 25/05/2024 01:01

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 14:10

Perhaps you need to go outside and touch some grass or something.

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Perhaps you need to step outside the tired social media cliches and actually say something real.

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takeonabrew · 24/05/2024 19:04

pinkzebra02 · 24/05/2024 18:47

She is probably jealous that her baby got attention just for being awake whereas she has to go through the effort of filming herself earing while making snide comments and sharing it on social media.

Yep. She comes across as a right narc

She looks so bloody rude

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pinkzebra02 · 24/05/2024 18:47

She is probably jealous that her baby got attention just for being awake whereas she has to go through the effort of filming herself earing while making snide comments and sharing it on social media.

pinkzebra02 · 24/05/2024 18:44

I would take anything someone who films themselves while eating says with a large pinch of salt, personally.

pootlin · 24/05/2024 18:22

TabithaTimeTurner · 24/05/2024 17:21

It’s weird. No one wants to see you eating. Get off your bloody phone, eat your food and look after your baby. Fucking attention seekers get right on my nerves 😡

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Presumably her followers do. Calm down.

SophieJo · 24/05/2024 17:42

I don’t see anything wrong with the lady. She probably thought the same as I did that the mother was more concerned about filming herself eating than interacting with her child.

Mrsjayy · 24/05/2024 17:38

TabithaTimeTurner · 24/05/2024 17:21

It’s weird. No one wants to see you eating. Get off your bloody phone, eat your food and look after your baby. Fucking attention seekers get right on my nerves 😡

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It is life now and it's sad !

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 17:35

TabithaTimeTurner · 24/05/2024 17:21

It’s weird. No one wants to see you eating. Get off your bloody phone, eat your food and look after your baby. Fucking attention seekers get right on my nerves 😡

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Boy, do I have news for you

Blondiebeachbabe · 24/05/2024 17:34

Old lady could have taken the baby off the train/bus, and that idiot would be none the wiser. Why isn't she watching her baby? I dread to think how today's babies are actually going to learn social skills, when their parents seem to have their heads stuck in a phone all the time. I see mums pushing buggies, and they don't make any eye contact with the baby, just constant scrolling. It's horrendous.

TabithaTimeTurner · 24/05/2024 17:21

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 12:52

And?

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It’s weird. No one wants to see you eating. Get off your bloody phone, eat your food and look after your baby. Fucking attention seekers get right on my nerves 😡

pootlin · 24/05/2024 16:56

Riversideandrelax · 23/05/2024 21:49

She said that she spoke to the lady the first 2 times and her sister spoke to her the 3rd time.

I think once is lovely. A second time ok. But a third time? I'd find it quite rude that she kept interrupting my lunch and it would make me feel uncomfortable.

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Exactly. Approaching 3 times is imposing on someone and quite entitled.

I usually get annoyed at the threads where parents are fuming at someone smiling at their PBF, but 3 times is de trop.

ChinaBlueBell · 24/05/2024 16:32

user1471453601 · 23/05/2024 21:53

I once inadvertently overstepped the mark with a parent I think. I was walking toward a particular shop when my eye was caught by a Mum and, I guess, a child of about 8 months or so n her arms.

The child was really arresting and beautiful. As I passed I stopped and said to Mum, your child is gorgeous. I didn't try to touch the child, but the mum changed the arm the baby was resting in and turned her back to me.

I got the message and backed off pdq. Sad, really. For all three of us.

How bizarre. But I’ve experienced similar. I just think they’re unsocialised and strange.

Sunnyandsilly · 24/05/2024 16:30

I can’t see what she did wrong, but she looks early fifties, on what planet is that elderly.

Mrsjayy · 24/05/2024 16:25

I imagine that the telling off was for "likes" and "hearts instagram validation and all that .

anothernamitynamenamechange · 24/05/2024 16:23

FTPM1980 · 23/05/2024 22:07

Well it seems fake maybe
The woman is a bit OTT and doesn't seem quite like a genuine interruption.
But
Baby must be sat away from the adults and facing away....so who else is baby going to interact with??
If the baby was facing into the group then it wouldn't have happened.
She is also clearly passing....not approaching and then returning. So.if she passes and baby makes eye contact is she supposed ignore?

Agree.
I actually don't like judging mums for not interacting with their children 100% of the time. Sometimes you just want to eat and if the baby is happy sitting and watching the rest of the cafe while you do, that's fine. You can eat (or talk to your phone in this case), baby is entertained etc. But a really big part of that is that the baby IS being entertained by the rest of the restaurant - either by watching the comings and goings or burbling at people. Its really weird to put the baby in a position where it is facing other people and then complain when someone interacts (in a completely normal, harmless way) with said baby.

Mrsjayy · 24/05/2024 16:19

Maybe the mum shouldn't be filming herself eating Brussels and interact with her child who was clearly awake and interacting with the woman.

Jitterybugs · 24/05/2024 16:16

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 15:56

That's nice for you.

Some people don't want to be continuously interrupted during their meal like this woman did.

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Especially when they’re filming themselves shoving food in their gob.

TammyJones · 24/05/2024 16:12

SlightlygrumpyBettyswaitress · 24/05/2024 15:54

Honestly what's wrong with people?
When DD3 was a gorgeous little 8 month old, I was in a cafe. A lady ( probably my age now so 50s) asked if her very elderly and frail Mum could say hello to the baby. I popped her high chair next to her and Mum was transformed, chatting away and remembering her children and grandchildren.

That's lovely
When dd was a baby/new born. people kept giving her money.
(Good luck type thing)

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 15:56

SlightlygrumpyBettyswaitress · 24/05/2024 15:54

Honestly what's wrong with people?
When DD3 was a gorgeous little 8 month old, I was in a cafe. A lady ( probably my age now so 50s) asked if her very elderly and frail Mum could say hello to the baby. I popped her high chair next to her and Mum was transformed, chatting away and remembering her children and grandchildren.

That's nice for you.

Some people don't want to be continuously interrupted during their meal like this woman did.

SlightlygrumpyBettyswaitress · 24/05/2024 15:54

Honestly what's wrong with people?
When DD3 was a gorgeous little 8 month old, I was in a cafe. A lady ( probably my age now so 50s) asked if her very elderly and frail Mum could say hello to the baby. I popped her high chair next to her and Mum was transformed, chatting away and remembering her children and grandchildren.

Wooloohooloo · 24/05/2024 14:25

DD was a very anti social baby/toddler. People would talk to her and shed stare at them with a stony faced expression and refuse to engage. It was very tedious when people tried to interact with her. In reality she's just very shy but I did find it very waring as babies/toddlers are people magnets. But I understand they just like them because they are little/cute. I always smile at them myself but don't interact unless the toddler itself comes up to me.

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 14:10

AIstolemylunch · 24/05/2024 14:06

Actually I looked at her whole insta feed and got that opinion. Interesting you would assume otherwsise.

Perhaps you need to go outside and touch some grass or something.

AIstolemylunch · 24/05/2024 14:06

Actually I looked at her whole insta feed and got that opinion. Interesting you would assume otherwsise.

KarenOH · 24/05/2024 13:30

AIstolemylunch · 24/05/2024 13:22

Not elderly and not offensive. At least the poor baby was getting some interaction with someone. Why is it a thing now to film yourself close up absolutely stuffing your face? Bleurgh.

Interesting you have got that opinion from one small clip and without the context.