Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

Sigh back at you.

It doesn't matter that they do it about men too. I'm not talking about men. I'm talking about women. And actually men will often be defined by their occupation before their parenting status. "Bus driver wins marathon".

We may not know why he did it, but he did nearly ruin her win. What he did was obviously a stupid thing to do. It was clear she was in the lead, but there was someone right behind her. Anyone with a lick of sense would know not to shove children into her path and risk her losing the race. What did he think was going to happen? That the guy in second would hold back so she could arrange to cross the line with her children? It's a race!

I dont think I imagined her being put in the position of having to swerve her kids outstretched arms.

Anyway, my advice is don't give headspace to how others decide to spend their emotional quota. It doesn't affect you.

@EarringsandLipstick

well, if she wanted to she would have done wouldn’t she? And she didn’t?

I don’t know why you can’t just accept that she didn’t want to. She shouldn’t have stopped and lessened her own achievement. It wasn’t the time for hugs, woman be focusing on her run and her achievement! She was in the zone! Hence her reaction at the end.

go, girl!

Well it seems like a waste of emotion - it's affecting you not at all. I mean, at least the cat situation is a real-life one in front of you, and you care about the cat and are disturbed my its crying.

You are angry here about an imagined situation (you don't know he was being a pillock, that's your creation) about someone who doesn't in any themselves appear to be adversely affected, that you don't even know.

It's really odd.

Are these very serious grounds for a divorce???

Well, she evidently didn’t want to stop and hug the kids did she hence the swerve

Yes, she did.

Whether she had initially planned to or not, we don't know.

I was disagreeing with the assertion that 'we are all agreed that she shouldn't ...'. We are not 'all agreed'. It's a matter of choice. There's no 'should'. If she did stop and wanted to, great. If she didn't stop, and didn't want to, also great.

Sigh.

There is a valid point there, for sure. Women are too often defined by their role as mother / grandmother / carer in some way.

However, you are also over-doing it - exactly in the same way as 'Mother of 3 injured in car accident ...', it would be 'Father of 3 ...'.

Also, yet again, you are imagining a scenario with no evidence

You can't say he tried to make her achievement about being a mother - you don't know he did!!

I feel sorry for him and I think it’s a stretch to say he was trying to destroy her achievement. Yes, he was silly but that doesn’t mean he is a misogynist.

Many runners, run over the line with their kids. My husband has done it. I think society is so willing to make assumptions about others and vilify them based on what they see on social media,without the context or background detail. It’s sad and a bit scary.

@EarringsandLipstick

Well, she evidently didn’t want to stop and hug the kids did she hence the swerve 🤣

I've already said why I'm angry? She had to swerve her poor kids outreached arms thanks to his pillockness

I get angry about lots of stuff that doesn't concern me. I have different levels of anger. I'm also mildly angry right now that the neighbours cat is once again sat outside crying to be let in because it's pissing down and they are ignoring it and the poor thing is drenched. I mean, if thats OK with you obvs 🤣

It's annoying. No matter what the achievement or tragedy is, women are always defined by their parenting status or marital status.

"Mother-of-three wins marathon/found dead."

It's like women are no longer people in their own right when they marry or have children. Their personal achievements can no longer be about them. Her husband just acted out this attitude in real life. He tried to make her achievement about her being a mother.

Meanwhile, while the news reports criticise him, they still refer to her as "Marathon Mom"...

This.

My dh has brought our kids to watch me at numerous races over the years. He has never expected me to stop or let the kids into the path of the runners. I’ve never had to tell him not to do these things because he’s not a useless fucking idiot and can see for himself that I’m killing my self trying to achieve my goal finish time and that it’s dangerous to let kids loose in front of a bunch of determined racers with their eyes on the prize.

I can’t say what this man’s reasoning was but his actions were stupid ans thoughtless at best and put his dc at risk.

Sorry if being a good mum is such a crime!

He definitely doesn't deserve the vitriol being aimed at his by some of the deranged and sexist posters, but..... you know, man bad, so whatever.

100% this.

I'm angry that he put her in the position of having to swerve one of her kids running for a hug.

But why 'angry'?! You don't know her. You don't know the situation. You don't know exactly what happened. Imagine this is what angers you?!

Nope.

I'm saying if she didn't want to stop / bring kids with her - absolutely fine.

If she did - that's fine too.

It's unclear what happened here and if there was mixed communication between her and her DH or if he made a slightly silly spur of the moment decision.

Regardless, he does not deserve the level of opprobrium being heaped on him.

The only logical explanation is that he's having an affair with the runner up 😄

@SeriaMau very good😂 but you missed the slight turn of the body at 1.32 which makes it clear only one of the children is his and the other is hot green runner man’s. He’s feeling both emasculated and overshadowed by the running glory which is actually the basis for the arms being thrown up. It’s gripping stuff this drama

There was a bike with the first woman which suggests she might have won?

He's an absolute idiot and he could have got either his wife or his children seriously hurt, as well as losing her the race. I bet they had words later. Twat.

😂are you having a giraffe?

This.

DH clearly had bad judgement in not reading the situation and having better control of DC. He didn't throw his arms up in disgust at wife, but was gesturing to a spectator in a separate interaction (most likely being berated by a fellow spectator).

Ultimately he was showing support by being there and looked happy and proud. He definitely doesn't deserve the vitriol being aimed at his by some of the deranged and sexist posters, but..... you know, man bad, so whatever.

I think it's just a mix up in communication, not really a big deal

Yeah - he’s clearly responding to an official/other spectator telling him off.

It’s not uncommon for men and women to finish with dc at the end. She may have done this many times before with the dc. Ideally, the dh would have read the situation (pb/finishing first) and held the dc back. But to make out he’s some dark villain here is weird.

It’s a stretch but she is obviously shagging the other runner because he respects her for her achievements and equally knows what a woman is. The husband is annoyed that she isn’t at home cooking dinner, and had used their children, with whom he otherwise had little involvement, as a way of both making it all about him, and reminding her of her ‘proper place’ Afterwards he would have gaslit her to say that it was all her idea to let the kids give her a hug, and cross the finish line with her. I think that is all fairly clear from the clip.