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Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

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BlowDryRat · 23/05/2024 20:23

Has anyone else seen this video?

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Brief synopsis: A dad stands by the half-marathon finish line with his young daughters. Crucially, he's standing in front of the finish ribbon. When he sees his wife about to win the race, he encourages the toddlers to intercept her with hugs. She has to dodge them to avoid knocking them over, finishes the race and celebrates. Dad throws up his arms in disgust at her choosing to win the race rather than stop to hug her daughters.

IMO this is the perfect example of a man trying to make his wife's achievements all about him, then blaming her for his ineptitude and her wanting to celebrate her own achievement. A mother is an individual in her own right.

I feel the same way about men who propose to their partners when they've won a race/accepted an award/ celebrating their graduation.

YABU - he's an amazing dad and the mum let her kids down by selfishly taking the win.

YANBU - he's a dick.

The Dad Is Totally To Blame For The Half Marathon Mom "Ignoring" Her Kids

A frustrating moment in sports is going viral after a dad allows their kids almost to ruin their mom's half marathon win.

https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/mom-ignores-kids-marathon-tiktok

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Puginarug · 24/05/2024 15:29

I can't warm to either of them.

He didn't have great control over the kids when he should have made more effort.

She looked very much "smug runner" type and the self congratulatory, aggressive clapping was a bit irritating.

BitOutOfPractice · 24/05/2024 15:24

skeettch · 23/05/2024 21:26

Also annoyed by people calling her "marathon mom" no one in the world has completed a sub-2 marathon and the board behind her says 01:40;53

I suspect she's just completed an epic and very traily half marathon but IT IS NOT A MARATHON.

Really? That's the bit that annoys you? Not the fact that she can't just be a women, a runner, a winner, not simply be defined by her role as a mother? Have you ever seen a male marathon runner being defined like that - marathon dad?

The DH acts like a total knob. Heaven forfend that a woman could just be successful independent of a man?

Whiteglasshouse · 24/05/2024 15:20

EarringsandLipstick · 24/05/2024 09:18

God, it can't be that hard.

Firstly, professionals having their kids in the field after a game has happened forever - it's not new.

Secondly, in the case of races, if you're that serious you'll be well-ahead of the fun runners, surely? I run reasonably competitively too, it's really never been an issue.

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Don’t be such a tosser. Just because someone is not in the top 20percent, it doesn’t mean they aren’t giving it all they can and running for their own personal best.

Ohlookwhoitis · 24/05/2024 15:03

DonnaBanana · 24/05/2024 12:43

Sorry if being a good mum is such a crime!

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I actually now think you're just someone taking the piss. A bored teenager no doubt.

LuckySantangelo35 · 24/05/2024 15:01

oakleaffy · 24/05/2024 14:53

I reckon she's pretty close to the bald guy, too. She casts not one look in the direction of her family - They look like spare parts at this event.

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@oakleaffy

well if so her husband only has himself to blame 🤷‍♀️

oakleaffy · 24/05/2024 14:53

XelaM · 23/05/2024 21:27

Looks like she likes the bald guy more than her husband 😜

A bit off that she didn't go back after her win to celebrate with her family 🤷‍♀️

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I reckon she's pretty close to the bald guy, too. She casts not one look in the direction of her family - They look like spare parts at this event.

Yuckyyuckyuckity · 24/05/2024 14:46

Absolute dickhead. Could he have not stood literally a few metres away AFTER the finish line ffs, then it would have been absolutely fine.

ilovesushi · 24/05/2024 14:38

I was really surprised at the number of people defending the guy sending his children into the path of runners and a motorbike over the last few pages when I realised it was only one person posting multiple times. 😂

SeriaMau · 24/05/2024 14:32

SnakesandKnives · 24/05/2024 12:29

@SeriaMau very good😂 but you missed the slight turn of the body at 1.32 which makes it clear only one of the children is his and the other is hot green runner man’s. He’s feeling both emasculated and overshadowed by the running glory which is actually the basis for the arms being thrown up. It’s gripping stuff this drama

Thanks. I had completely missed that.
I did wonder whether his choice of a flesh-coloured t-shirt was a further attempt to establish his machismo in the face of his evident emasculation. But I think the evidence for that is perhaps limited.

DownWithThisKindOfThing · 24/05/2024 14:24

Knob

gardenmusic · 24/05/2024 14:24

You're sitting here defending a man you don't know from the opinions of people who don't know him either. People are entitled to their opinions. He doesn't need you to defend him.

But the FACT is that by accident, agreement or design he allowed young children to get into a dangerous and annoying situation.

HollyKnight · 24/05/2024 14:16

EarringsandLipstick · 24/05/2024 13:52

True.

And nor do you to say he is 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can you not see how daft you are being?

I don't know you. Should I start labelling you all sorts of offensive terms, because, well, you might be?

Use some common sense!

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Label away. I don't care what people on the internet think about me.

You're sitting here defending a man you don't know from the opinions of people who don't know him either. People are entitled to their opinions. He doesn't need you to defend him.

TheIranianYoghurtIsNotTheIssueHere · 24/05/2024 14:12

DonnaBanana · 24/05/2024 12:43

Sorry if being a good mum is such a crime!

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No, THIS is now the most sanctimonious thing I've read on here!

SabreIsMyFave · 24/05/2024 14:09

gardenmusic · 24/05/2024 14:05

but..... you know, man bad, so whatever.

Or at best, Man thoughtless and heedless of situation.

Yeah... And selfish, and mean-spirited, and can't BEAR his wife getting any attention, and doing really well at something he wishes HE was good at. Trying to piss on her chips, steal her thunder, and make her success ALL ABOUT HIM.

Typical behaviour of most men. Big babies who HATE women over-achieving and being better at something than them. 🙄

gardenmusic · 24/05/2024 14:05

but..... you know, man bad, so whatever.

Or at best, Man thoughtless and heedless of situation.

Ponoka7 · 24/05/2024 14:02

EarringsandLipstick · 24/05/2024 12:38

He definitely doesn't deserve the vitriol being aimed at his by some of the deranged and sexist posters, but..... you know, man bad, so whatever.

100% this.

I saw this a while back. Go on their Instagram and see how he replies to the women, commenting. They aren't being personally insulting but he is replying very misogynistic. If it wasn't for that, I might have thought it a instagram etc family promotion.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 24/05/2024 14:02

44PumpLane · 23/05/2024 20:31

I felt the same way when I saw it but then did read elsewhere that she has said the arrangement was that she was going to jog to the finish with the kids, but that she either was setting a PB or the runner up was too close for comfort so (rightly) prioritised winning over jogging to the finish with the kids.

If the above is true then I get it. If not then I go back to my initial outrage at his total twattery!

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interesting

SabreIsMyFave · 24/05/2024 14:00

What a vile and despicable thing to do to his wife. Pick up your children - never mind winning this race that you have worked so very hard for - for many months. Just how fucking DARE you be anything other than a mother, and have hobbies and interests that exclude MEEEEEEEE, and our children?

No-one would think ANYTHING of a father having running as a hobby, but GOD FORBID a mother does.

Vile. Such an evil thing to do.

SabreIsMyFave · 24/05/2024 13:59

broccolienthusiast · 24/05/2024 13:50

I mean when you try to run a marathon just under 3hrs every second counts (just a personal example)

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This. ^

Megifer · 24/05/2024 13:57

EarringsandLipstick · 24/05/2024 13:35

Anyway, my advice is don't give headspace to how others decide to spend their emotional quota. It doesn't affect you.

The irony 😂

(And no headspace - just posting on a forum. Like, um, you 😀)

Oh theres irony alright 😬

not with my posts though as you're the one calling me odd for expending emotions on something that doesn't affect me, whilst simultaneously giving headspace (posting/thought/whatever) to how I expend said emotions when that doesnt affect you 😬

I was being sarcastic, not ironic.

Manxexile · 24/05/2024 13:56

Isn't that in Brazil?

I'm amazed (1) dad's there at all and not in some bar, and (2) mum's not having to look after the kids while racing.

It's Brazil...

EarringsandLipstick · 24/05/2024 13:55

I mean when you try to run a marathon just under 3hrs every second counts (just a personal example)

Sure. (I've never run anything like that & if you have fair play, you're an elite runner).

That's not my point.

My point is (yet again 🙇🏻‍♀️) is that some serious runners are absolutely up for engaging with their kids at the end. All a matter of choice. The posters who assume this could never be the case are wrong.

EarringsandLipstick · 24/05/2024 13:52

HollyKnight · 24/05/2024 13:49

You don't know the man to say he's not those things.

True.

And nor do you to say he is 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can you not see how daft you are being?

I don't know you. Should I start labelling you all sorts of offensive terms, because, well, you might be?

Use some common sense!

broccolienthusiast · 24/05/2024 13:50

EarringsandLipstick · 24/05/2024 13:41

Nope. Again.

I really doubt you run half / full marathons.

As I've said (many) times, many serous runners, men & women, do stop & take their kids. The time added is marginal.

Of course if she was actually winning the race; she won't stop. But even so, it's more miscommunication than anything malign.

So many uninformed posters here.

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I mean when you try to run a marathon just under 3hrs every second counts (just a personal example)

HollyKnight · 24/05/2024 13:49

You don't know the man to say he's not those things.