Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

Whatever may or may not have happened it was bloody dangerous. You don’t shove tiny kids in front of adults running quite fast.

What a bastard. Some men are just such utter turds.

Yes I read she had said that.
The plan was to take them over the finish line with her but she changed it on the fly as she was being tailed too closely. Lots of guys are twats but this one might not be 😂

I can understand having nice pics afterwards but actually doing and finishing a race is something I do on my own, for my own achievement and much as I love them my kids aren't part of that!

I'm quite cynical about social media, viral videos and news these days, Most of it is set up/planned/pre-recorded, and just plain fake.

This. Some races have a very carnival atmosphere, run in costume, all sorts of hijinks. It doesn't have to be serious!

To be fair, this is definitely fairly standard for the woman in the video. This isn’t her first rodeo. She’s not ‘completing such an amazing thing’, she’s doing what she does.

It was important to DH. We supported him with training. Thinking about seeing the kids at the finish was his motivation to get through the last 10 miles or so. He wants to encourage and inspire them. It finished on a track so it was fun for the kids to run on a track too. One guy literally ran the whole 400m with his toddler on his shoulders which after 7 hours of running was seriously impressive 😂

@Whiteglasshouse

wouldnt your husband just be proud of you for completing such an amazing thing?

It's not exactly risky, though. It's not like there is a crowd of runners.

Because it's fun, and the kids love it.

I've watched it a few times and think @SpiritAdder is right, he didn't push the kids forward. He didn't have physical control of them to restrain them from running onto the track, and he seems to be reaching out in some Jedi-like attempt to draw them back in without touching them.

How many children do you see? The site the OP linked to says 3, but I see two children and a bag in his hand. So he didn't have both hands free to restrain the children. If he'd been standing there holding the hand of each child, the incident might have been avoided.

And yes, the arm gesture is to someone off the track about not having the kids under control.

Alarming when something goes viral and generates a lot of projection and misguided vitriol.

My H is autistic and if I told him to do this he would do it, regardless of whether the circumstances on the day indicated it was now a bad idea. Because he’s quite black and white in his thinking.

Presumably you don't suggest potentially risky actions to him when in charge of your kids if he's unable to assess dangerous situations.

@RampantKrampus

Hid last 50 mile race we all ran across the finish together (him, me, 3yo and 5yo) and it made for some fantastic photos

Why do you and the kids need to be involved?

😂😂😂

I agree in principle but what a stupid post by the op to make this into another man hating thread rather than it being about an individual.

Reminds me of a clip of a woman's PhD graduation ceremony and her boyfriend thinks THAT is the moment to walk onto the stage and propose to her as her family and friends are cheering.
It gave me the rage listening to the "aah's". She looked stunned. Clearly only thinking of himself, and inveigling himself into her huge moment.

In the case completely moronic and unsafe. Hope the stewards did bollix him.

If it was a father running no one would be arguing that the mother who pushed the kids onto the racetrack might have black and white thinking and be unable to assess the risk of chucking some kids out onto a track full of adults running to a finish line.

I would say my kids are the best thing I’ve ever done but that doesn’t mean they have to be shoehorned in to my every achievement because I’m a mum. Well done to this woman for achieving her goal!

Disagree @RampantKrampus Even in races with long gaps between finishers, the order of finish is uncertain so people on the course will be in the line of and need to be dodged by other finishers. Annoying at best.

but why would she have agreed to that - it seems unlikely that she proposed the idea herself, and if she was seriously in line to win, she is unlikely to have wanted to risk that. This also sounds like something she was shoe-horned into agreeing to, by a husband who seems unable to allow her a little glory without trying to force her back to involving the kids

If their plan was for the DC to wait before the finish line and jog with her, that was a shit plan!

Depends on the race director and set up
though, doesn’t it.

The kind of races DH is doing there is often literal minutes between runners at the front of the field. At his last 50
miles we didn’t see another person for 10 minutes so definitely not an issue!

My H is autistic and if I told him to do this he would do it, regardless of whether the circumstances on the day indicated it was now a bad idea. Because he’s quite black and white in his thinking.

He would also then be pissed off if I swerved the kids, because he would interpret that as a criticism of him, which would feel very unfair to him as he had done the thing I told him too, and probably put a lot of effort into keeping the kids by the finish line for a long time, where it probably wasn’t easy to keep them entertained and compliant.

We don’t know these people. My first thought were ‘misogynistic dick’, but the pp that this was prearranged has made me think there is at least room for doubt.

@DonnaBanana

so what would you have done if you were her then?

stop running and pick them up or something?

yeah right, I don’t believe you!

NO ONE would do that in her shoes , NO ONE!

Ah give the bloke a chance. He probably agreed to help her out by childmining his kids for her for a couple of hours but what with the registration etc it was already 2hrs and 1 minute.