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Nomorellama · 23/05/2024 16:41

work related.

i hate my job. Reason being is my manager is impossible. Manager is the an odd combination of incredibly aloof and micromanaging. Ie will ask you to do something and then tear it to shreds but if you ask for a steer to my more in line with their expectations you’re dismissed as do what you want.

the ask constantly changes, to the extent it’s like living on the twilight zone. I’ll be told my ideas were stupid only 10 days later to do exactly as I suggested but after much time wasted doing something else. My confidence is shot and I find myself panicking and crying.

here’s the thing, I’ve only been here 5 months. I was made redundant 6 months into my prior role and then left my role before after 1 year (left as was offered a huge pay rise).

if I start the job hunt now will I look a) like I can’t hold done a job and b) like a job hopper?

really worried about this, but I’m so miserable

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Sunnysummer24 · 23/05/2024 16:48

Start applying for new jobs. If new companies are worried about that then they won’t hire you and you’ve lost a little bit of your time. If they’re not then you get out of the hell hole.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 23/05/2024 16:47

As a hiring manager it’s pretty typical to see someone interviewing in their first year in a position. It’s very easily explained as ‘not a good fit’ during that timeframe (especially after a redundancy). If you have an otherwise good tenure at previous positions, it won’t be a problem.

Nomorellama · 23/05/2024 16:46

I definitely need to as it’s got to the stage I’m too afraid to ask a question out of fear of being called stupid. There isn’t a culture of self service so you’re reliant on other people to do anything which adds huge joins in processes and I’m not a jnr member of staff but I’m such a way where my manager rewrites emails for me, redoes things I’ve done and I’m left thinking I literally cannot do anything. I’ve never ever had this before and I’ve been in some 60k+ jobs

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TimeForTeaAndG · 23/05/2024 16:45

Don't wait until you are so burned out and sick of the place that you can't get the motivation to actually leave. It's been 6 months, think of it as an extended probationary period (which is for both sides to decide if the job/person fits).

Go. Go and find something better.

Doesanyoneknowwhattheyaredoing · 23/05/2024 16:43

You have reasons for leaving the roles so I would look especially given your manager - that will get worse and have a huge effect on your mental health

Greenguitar · 23/05/2024 16:43

If you’re not happy leave. Life’s too short. You can explain it away, just say the new job seemed very interesting and company’s values align better with yours or something if they ever ask.