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To orchestrate a play date to get this dad's number?

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JaneDough94 · 23/05/2024 16:05

My daughter is friendly with another girl at her school who is slightly older and in a different class. We (me and DD) bump into her and her dad most days on the school run and the girls get along really well.

I'd like to get to know him better but I'm far too shy to just say that, so would it be unreasonable to use a play date as a reason to get his number? 😂

He's a single father, mother isn't on the scene.

WDYT?

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PoochiesPinkEars · 28/05/2024 10:13

CHEESEY13 · 28/05/2024 10:06

You know the saying "there's some damn desperate women out there!"

Please, don't be one of them. No-one can ge that hungry for a relationship.

Eh?
How she is desperate?

She's crossed paths with a guy as she goes about her life (so far so normal), likes him and thinks it would be nice to get to know him.

What about this scenario makes her 'desperate and hungry for a relationship'?

PoochiesPinkEars · 28/05/2024 10:09

JaneDough94 · 23/05/2024 18:13

Because asking him on a date would feel completely inappropriate as at this stage I don't even know if we have anything in common..

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Course not, but that's the point of the 'date' to get to know him a bit more. ☺️

Call it going for a coffee if that makes more sense.

Worst that can happen is he feels flattered but says no,
in between outcome is you both go for a chat, spend a nice hour talking and remain pally on the school run.
Best case, you get on like a house on fire and enjoy each others company more than once.

CHEESEY13 · 28/05/2024 10:06

You know the saying "there's some damn desperate women out there!"

Please, don't be one of them. No-one can ge that hungry for a relationship.

PoochiesPinkEars · 28/05/2024 10:05

OneTC · 23/05/2024 17:36

Just asking: not weird
Anything under false pretences: weird

This all the day long.

Go for it op! Properly. 😁

lemonmeringueno3 · 28/05/2024 10:03

I can't believe some of the comments you've had op!

Sleazy, creep, perv. Bloody hell. Your kids get along and you know he's single so I can't see any harm in arranging a play date so that you can chat to him a bit more to see if you're interested.

Either things will develop from there or they won't.

I can see how it could be awkward if things start and then fizzle out but that's a conversation surely, as you'll both want to protect your kids from any awkwardness.

Isn't this the sort of social interaction people used to navigate before 'dating' was an app and a meeting with a stranger.

Frangipanyoul8r · 28/05/2024 09:54

Cast your net a bit wider. Not because of your kids, but because if you do get together then break up it will be SO cringey bumping into him at school all the time.

Pinkcountrybumpkin · 28/05/2024 08:30

Actually, I think it’s a really sensible way of testing the water. It’s just a play date. You’ll find out if you actually have any rapport with the dad, the girls get a play date so they’re happy. No one loses anything. People have done much more underhand things to get a number!!! But be wise that you will have to see this man every day should anything happen or indeed not happen. Good luck.

Reallyneedsaholiday · 28/05/2024 06:54

Go for it, we just needs updates

Johnthesensible · 28/05/2024 02:43

Dating children's friends parents is a tricky one. Say he agrees to date, but it goes badly wrong. Do you bar your child from seeing the friend. You would see him every week day...

Put yourself in the future, imagine the worse case scenario of the relationship not working and think about how you feel. There are enough stalking cases as it is. It puts you in the front line seeing him 5 days a week. Concentrate on your child and hopefully another guy who is not a parent at the school may well come along.

Notamum12345577 · 27/05/2024 23:30

pinkdays · 23/05/2024 17:59

Whit? That's some leap FFS

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Well don’t forgot on MN all men are cheats 😁

Summerlovin24 · 27/05/2024 22:57

Go fo it. That's how u meet people. Doing ordinary things

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JaneDough94 · 27/05/2024 20:01

We didn't see them, I don't think she was at school on the last two days ☹️

A sign from the universe that I need to wind my neck in perhaps? 😂

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BirthdayRainbow · 27/05/2024 19:02

JaneDough94 · 23/05/2024 17:28

He's definitely a lone parent, everything his DD has said corroborates that. He was awarded sole custody. I'm absolutely certain the mother isn't on the scene.

I guess that doesn't rule out having a different girlfriend though..

Is it creepy, really? I won't bother then 😬

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Just be friendly as you would anyone else you meet in school. Let it be organic.

Oxforddictionary12 · 27/05/2024 16:21

Go for it Op! There's absolutley nothing wrong with sussing him out, especially as your children get on well. It would look more suspicious if your children weren't friends 😂 I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that he's not a tory!

EthicalBlend · 27/05/2024 16:06

I think it's a good idea to be friends, and even more than friends, with a parent whose daughter your daughter already likes. However, I think you should be honest right up front. I'm a man; if I even suspected someone was manipulating me in that way, that would be the last either you or yours would see of me and mine.

greenpolarbear · 27/05/2024 15:51

Of course it's not creepy, and seriously, people are that bothered about their potentially being problems between parents with a primary school friend? They'll barely remember each other existed in a few years.

Nettie1964 · 27/05/2024 13:41

People being a bit mean. Would you have the daughter over for a play date anyway? So invite her see how it goes. Unlike all the joy killers here I like to believe in happy endings. Just be careful, don't go full on couple. The kids don't need to be involved from the get go. If it doesn't work it doesn't work. I don't have any friends from primary school. Good luck

Nomorechipsforme · 27/05/2024 13:31

Go for it. The kids get on well. Let us know how you get on 👍

Dazedandconfusedma · 23/05/2024 22:30

Some of these answers are WILD!!

OP - go for it! Your responses give me full confidence you know what you’re doing. I hope that have a nice play date and that he’s great.

80smonster · 23/05/2024 22:22

Get in there! Don’t listen to the jealous haters on this thread. You aren’t faking anything since your DD’s are friends.

Terea · 23/05/2024 22:00

@JaneDough94 go for it. I did and it ended well. Until it didn’t (for other reasons along the line) but it was lovely while it lasted.

DanielGault · 23/05/2024 21:53

Didimum · 23/05/2024 21:52

Or is it faux naivety?

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At this stage, it's definitely not faux.

Didimum · 23/05/2024 21:52

DanielGault · 23/05/2024 21:50

You've lost me now.

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Or is it faux naivety?

DanielGault · 23/05/2024 21:50

Didimum · 23/05/2024 21:46

Ooh, I can help. She’s saying you fear your partner cheating on you with a single mother at your child’s school and therefore project your insecurities onto unrelated women. Does that clear it up?

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You've lost me now.

Didimum · 23/05/2024 21:46

DanielGault · 23/05/2024 21:40

Huh?

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Ooh, I can help. She’s saying you fear your partner cheating on you with a single mother at your child’s school and therefore project your insecurities onto unrelated women. Does that clear it up?

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