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To orchestrate a play date to get this dad's number?

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JaneDough94 · 23/05/2024 16:05

My daughter is friendly with another girl at her school who is slightly older and in a different class. We (me and DD) bump into her and her dad most days on the school run and the girls get along really well.

I'd like to get to know him better but I'm far too shy to just say that, so would it be unreasonable to use a play date as a reason to get his number? 😂

He's a single father, mother isn't on the scene.

WDYT?

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IlooklikeNigella · 17/11/2024 21:47

Yippeeee... Everything crossed for you OP.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 17/11/2024 21:37

Fantastic update! Thanks for letting us know.

Teenagehorrorbag · 17/11/2024 16:58

Oh that's so lovely! Please keep us posted.

crackfoxy · 17/11/2024 08:34

Lovely update!

Alltheunreadbooks · 17/11/2024 08:13

JaneDough94 · 23/05/2024 16:05

My daughter is friendly with another girl at her school who is slightly older and in a different class. We (me and DD) bump into her and her dad most days on the school run and the girls get along really well.

I'd like to get to know him better but I'm far too shy to just say that, so would it be unreasonable to use a play date as a reason to get his number? 😂

He's a single father, mother isn't on the scene.

WDYT?

Edit- seen update.

Foxybyname · 17/11/2024 07:54

Aaw this is lovely OP. Hope this continues to bring you happiness - as you say it's exciting 🥰

SillySeal · 17/11/2024 07:44

Ahh what a lovely update! Hope it all goes well op

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JaneDough94 · 17/11/2024 07:40

Aw thank you all 🥰

I haven't felt like this about somebody for such a long time I'm smiling like an idiot all day long 😁

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Maria1979 · 17/11/2024 07:14

JaneDough94 · 17/11/2024 06:41

I thought I'd update this thread as there has been some developments since my last post. We are now seeing one another.

The short version is, when school resumed after the summer holidays we started talking properly and after being sure that I did in fact like him as more than a friend I told him how I feel. It turns out he is interested after all.

It's very early days so we are keeping it separate from the kids for now but.. exciting times 🙂

Yeyhh!! Happy for you! 😁

PoochiesPinkEars · 17/11/2024 07:06

OoooOOOooooo that's lovely!
Love your bottle op, very pleased for you, I hope it continues and brings you joy. 💐
Thanks for updating!

RedHelenB · 17/11/2024 07:01

Great update.

Onlyvisiting · 17/11/2024 06:59

Are they an age that you would both be supervising a playdate? Organising an out of school get together where you can get to know each other better organically is fine. Using subterfuge to get his number then using thst number to message him about non child related topics without any encouragement is inappropriate.

Weezypopsy · 17/11/2024 06:58

Amazing!

Nomorechipsforme · 17/11/2024 06:51

That is fantastic 🤩

Scarydinosaurs · 17/11/2024 06:48

what a lovely update!

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JaneDough94 · 17/11/2024 06:41

I thought I'd update this thread as there has been some developments since my last post. We are now seeing one another.

The short version is, when school resumed after the summer holidays we started talking properly and after being sure that I did in fact like him as more than a friend I told him how I feel. It turns out he is interested after all.

It's very early days so we are keeping it separate from the kids for now but.. exciting times 🙂

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Weezypopsy · 12/09/2024 08:02

Ah, that’s a shame. I agree though, a crush is still fun to have!

PoochiesPinkEars · 11/09/2024 08:46

I hope so, you sound lovely.

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JaneDough94 · 11/09/2024 08:46

PoochiesPinkEars · 11/09/2024 08:25

Awwwww, that's a pity. Love your attitude though op, talking the disappointment in your stride.
Still, it's nice to feel those butterflies and know they're still there... Maybe another lovely guy might spark some in the future. ☺️

Ah thank you!

I had forgotten what it feels like to have a crush 😂 It doesn't happen very often these days.

I'm sure somebody will come along when the time is right 🙂

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PoochiesPinkEars · 11/09/2024 08:25

Awwwww, that's a pity. Love your attitude though op, talking the disappointment in your stride.
Still, it's nice to feel those butterflies and know they're still there... Maybe another lovely guy might spark some in the future. ☺️

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JaneDough94 · 11/09/2024 07:48

Weezypopsy · 04/09/2024 07:55

Any progress on the orchestration, OP? Some summer play dates perhaps?

Hi!

Unfortunately it's a non starter.

We bumped into them during the holidays which resulted in spending an afternoon together. Me and the dad got on really well so I thought.

At the end of the day we both said we'd like to meet up again with the DC's so I did get his number and felt like a kid at Christmas.. but when I sent a text the following week to arrange something he didn't respond 🤦🏼‍♀️

I didn't make a pass at him or give off any "I fancy you" vibes that I'm aware of so I don't think I could have scared him off 😂 It was all very laid back, a child oriented day and they seemed to have a great time.

However..

I had my other DD with me on the day we spent with them and she has additional needs and can be a bit much (albeit lovely and super friendly). A friend of mine has gently suggested that some men might be put off by all of which that entails, so there's that.

It's equally as possible that his DC decided they didn't want to hang out with mine again.

Or perhaps I'm just utterly boring myself 😂

Who knows!

I haven't seen him since.

Meh, no harm done 🙂

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Weezypopsy · 04/09/2024 07:55

Any progress on the orchestration, OP? Some summer play dates perhaps?

TheBestEverMouse · 30/05/2024 23:27

I'd do it if I was you!

I've been befriended by people who decided they wanted to be my friend (I'm not up myself. They told me later and I was flattered!) They are now 2 of my closest friends because they were right, we would/did get on.

If the girls get on you're hardly ramming it down your DD's throat. Do it for befriending purposes and take it from there.

I also had few good friends at uni who I befriended because I fancied them. Once I got to know them they were not fanciable any more and they never found out I fancied them initially. We just became and stayed friends.

Mummaoffour1234 · 30/05/2024 23:15

JaneDough94 · 23/05/2024 16:05

My daughter is friendly with another girl at her school who is slightly older and in a different class. We (me and DD) bump into her and her dad most days on the school run and the girls get along really well.

I'd like to get to know him better but I'm far too shy to just say that, so would it be unreasonable to use a play date as a reason to get his number? 😂

He's a single father, mother isn't on the scene.

WDYT?

It feels icky to me, I wouldn’t like it if someone used my child to get a date. Maybe just ask him if he fancies a coffee after school drop off or something

Luckylu123 · 30/05/2024 12:41

Ok so what if this was a woman who seemed fun, so you thought you’d like to get to know her to be your friend. Ok to encourage a play date to get to know her and see where things go? .. I think so..

so if you’re hoping to befriend this man, and if it leads to more ok..? I guess as long as if you don’t fancy him you continue to be friendly and encourage your daughters friendship..?

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