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To think my mum should keep her disappointment to herself

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spiralstair · 23/05/2024 14:05

Just found out we're having a boy and we're very exited so told my mum and she sounded visibly disappointed saying I imagined you to have a daughter, she then went on to say there's something very special about having a daughter and a mum/daughter bond maybe you'll get one next time.
She now keeps saying every time the baby is mentioned how strange it feels that I'm having a boy and that she keeps picturing a girl.

Then the last straw is how she keeps looking at all the lovely dresses in the shops and has to drag herself away reminding herself it's a boy.
She's really taken the shine off this pregnancy and I'm starting to feel really angry and avoid the subject.
I have told her I'm exited to be having a boy, I'm wondering if she's trying to relive having me through my baby or why is she finding it so strange that my baby is a little boy.

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Aquamarine1029 · 23/05/2024 14:09

I'd be furious and incredibly hurt, in equal measure. Her behaviour is completely unacceptable and I would tell her so. I would tell her she's doing a fine job of ruining, what should be, the happiest time of your life. I would then distance myself for the foreseeable.

Mnetcurious · 23/05/2024 14:08

Yanbu. Tell her - “mum it’s making me really upset when you talk about me having a boy instead of a girl, looking at dresses and so on. Please can you stop.”