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To think that if you have a destination wedding, you should pay for your guests?

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rhubarbcrumblez · 23/05/2024 13:14

Been invited to a destination wedding that is looking to cost around 2k for flights and accommodation. Most guests I have spoken to have pulled out due to the cost and I am going to have to do the same. Bride is really upset.

AIBU to think that if you choose a destination wedding and expect a large group to come, you should pay for their travel and accommodation too?

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DaisyChain505 · 23/05/2024 13:16

YABU

Most people have a destination wedding knowing that some of their invited guests won’t want to come. It’s a way of weeding out unnecessary guests. If anyone close to me said they were having a destination wedding I’d be thrilled to go. Yes I would have to pay long in advance but I would see it as combining a holiday with lots of people I love and seeing them get married too.

PlantDoctor · 23/05/2024 13:16

They shouldn't pay, but equally can't expect everyone to attend. Perhaps they might pay for the close family/wedding party, depending on their circumstances.

Choice4567 · 23/05/2024 13:15

No I think that would never work.

However I don’t think the bride should be upset or surprised when people can’t come

Confortableorwhat · 23/05/2024 13:15

I think you have to either pay or expect that only the very closest people to you will come and even then may begrudge it.

What was the bride expecting?

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