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To send DS to nursery on a day I am not working?

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pontipinemum · 23/05/2024 11:09

Would it be really bad to send my son to nursery on one of the days I'm not working?

I normally work 3 days a week but since around Feb I had a project so I was doing 4. Luckily nursery could accommodate this. The project is due to end in early June. But the nursery is still booked for 4 days.

I'm due baby 2 in mid August (although prob July with health). I am thinking of still sending DS1 to nursery for 4 days and having a day either to myself, or cleaning, getting baby clothes ready/ batch cooking.

I feel a bit bad though. But DS is 1.5yr old I won't get much anything done if he stays. Which is fine I love spending our days together doing things he likes.

EDIT to add I don't get much done on the weekends either DH is a farmer and is super busy this time of year so most childcare is on me until things quite down again

YABU - Don't send him to nursery if you are not working
YANBU - Take the day off, it doesn't make you a bad mother

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SwingingPlantar · 23/05/2024 11:37

Sounds completely fine! You don’t want to lose his space and if you can afford it then great. People keep sending other children to nursery on maternity leave to spend time with the baby and keep the place and normality for the older child

PieceOfSunshine · 23/05/2024 11:34

Do it! I work 2 days a week and send my DS to nursery for 3 days. Love having a day to get stuff done round the house, go out to do fun stuff for me, or just chill out. I’m a much better mum for it on the other 4 days of the week!

Chaosx3x · 23/05/2024 11:20

Of course YANBU. It’s not a crime to want or need some time to yourself. And it doesn’t even sound like you will get much of it… sounds like you’ll be busy getting ready for baby!

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pontipinemum · 23/05/2024 11:18

Arlanymor · 23/05/2024 11:12

If he enjoys it and is happy and settled under the new four day regime

and you can afford it then I say go for it. There’s a lot of preparation to do with a new baby on the way, and you’ve referenced health issues, so if it gives you more time and space to prepare then I cannot see the harm. Presumably your DH/P would support this for you too?

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@Arlanymor it's nothing too hard to manage, I have gestational diabetes (I'm already on a lot of insulin) and after a failed induction ending EMCS last time they are saying the best option will most likely be planned CS 2 weeks before due date.

I went back to edit. DH is happy for me to do what I am happy with. He is a farmer and super busy this time of year. Great timing for having a baby 😂but with the weather the way it's been he is stressed and worked until 9pm last night because it wasn't raining. He does pull his weight he drops DS to nursery and when home always puts him to bed. In winter he is normally home by 5/6 pm. But this time of year I don't expect to see him too much

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albertoross · 23/05/2024 11:15

pontipinemum · 23/05/2024 11:10

Loves it. Has loads of friends and has a great time

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Then yanbu. It will be good for him

wanderyears · 23/05/2024 11:15

YANBU.

He enjoys it and is happy there.

You've got things to do before baby arrives which will be much easier without a little helper. Then the 3 days he's at home with you can be spent doing things you both enjoy.

Also take some time for yourself before baby arrives.

VestPantsandSocks · 23/05/2024 11:14

Go for it! You will still have 3 full days with him😊

Cantdoitagain1 · 23/05/2024 11:13

My children are older now but I remember worrying about this exact thing when they were babies and toddlers. I promise you, it will not harm him at all and I’m sure you could use a tiny break before you’re back on the newborn bandwagon. Do it.

Arlanymor · 23/05/2024 11:12

If he enjoys it and is happy and settled under the new four day regime

and you can afford it then I say go for it. There’s a lot of preparation to do with a new baby on the way, and you’ve referenced health issues, so if it gives you more time and space to prepare then I cannot see the harm. Presumably your DH/P would support this for you too?

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pontipinemum · 23/05/2024 11:10

albertoross · 23/05/2024 11:10

Does DS like going to nursery?

Loves it. Has loads of friends and has a great time

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albertoross · 23/05/2024 11:10

Does DS like going to nursery?

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