To send DS to nursery on a day I am not working?

Sure you did.

Reporting to MN for sock puppeting. Please carry on.

I didn't respond as though you addressed me. I commented on your batshit post.

Although I think we do need to acknowledge the fact that OP's son is 21 months not 18 months - OP have you considered asking your son to do the batch cooking in light of this hitherto unrevealed level of maturity?

Why are you responding as though I addressed you? Are you and @MurdockFromScotland the same person?

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No one is 'spewing bile' the OP ASKED for people's opinions. Literally started a thread to canvas opinions. Which she's getting.

Personally I feel really sorry about the idea of a baby being sent to nursery so their parent can batch cook and faff with baby clothes for 7 weeks because I think the relationship is more important than the chores.

I was invited to give an opinion, I've given it.

And then clarified that he was 21 months, multiple times.

" I am thinking of still sending DS1 to nursery for 4 days and having a day either to myself, or cleaning, getting baby clothes ready/ batch cooking.

I feel a bit bad though. But DS is 1.5yr old I won't get much anything done if he stays. Which is fine I love spending our days together doing things he likes."

This place is nuts. Op loves spending time with her baby - why would she send him away to clean and batch cook? Really?

She said 1.5 years in her initial post.

She doesn’t have an 18 month old, she has a 21 month old. She’s said this multiple times, including in the comment to which you’ve just responded. You’re clearly far too caught up spewing bile to actually read what you’re responding to.

I didn’t say you were absurd; I said the notion that your 18-month-old toddler has friends at nursery is absurd. It’s simply not true. Unfortunately, there are a lot of simple-minded people on MN (not referring to you specifically) who read this sort of claptrap, believe it to be true, then start perpetuating the myth that babies and toddlers NEED to go to nursery to make friends 🙄, that a home environment is inadequate, that there isn’t enough stimulation at home, blah, blah, blah.

"US researchers found that cortisol levels were higher in children in daycare compared with children at home and that 63% (n = 151) in daycare had raised cortisol levels, of whom they considered 40% were stressed. A meta-analysis concluded that: ‘children in daycare exhibit higher cortisol levels than children at home"

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0141076820903494#:~:text=US%20researchers%20found%20that%20cortisol,they%20considered%2040%25%20were%20stressed.

It's for your benefit, not his.

Are you serious? Your experience must have been unusual to say the least.

Dont feel bad he probably enjoys every minute . See it that if you take a day off him you are depriving him of his social life and experiences. Honestly.

I have been a SAHM since my eldest was born, and when he and his siblings turned 1, they did a day a week at childcare. Good for them, good for me to get stuff done etc! Go for it.

Don’t be absurd. What do you mean he tells you about them? He’s 18 months old. At that age, most of them are just starting to put two or 3 words together. They’re not coming home and having conversations about their best friends at nursery with mum.

I kept my DS in nursery for 4 days after DD was born. In part I was worried about them not having availability when I needed it later but also was just shattered with baby and it was middle of winter… but once baby settled, weather turned etc I dropped to a few days. And yes absolutely work on basis you will get nothing done on days it is the 3 of you!

Nope, I’m with you OP! I did this with my Daughter and for a few day a week whilst I was on Maternity leave. She loved her nursery and her friends, it would have been cruel of me to pull her from it, it was a win win, I got a rest and on top of housework, she she had a blast❤️

You sound utterly joyless!

I’m afraid I agree with this. At 18 months he won’t really have “friends” in a sense an older child would (they just parallel play rather than play together so don’t really benefit from being around other children. Each to their own, but I actually started my second maternity earlier to spend some 1 on 1 time with my eldest before the sibling was born and also took her out of childcare completely for the duration so she’s with us full time- it’s been lovely. I know I’m in a minority though and most people keep their kids in childcare. You only have little kids for 4/5 years, if you think you’ll regret it/feel bad about it, I would listed to your intuition. The big bonus here is also that we didn’t get all the nasty nursery bugs so I could keep my newborn safe.

Send him if you must, but stop fabricating these false myths. An 18-month-old toddler doesn’t have ‘friends.’ What a load of poppycock.

I'd send him and get stuff done,then when you are with him you can spend more quality time with him. X

I sent DD to nursery three days and only worked two days for four years. DP’s job is round the clock so everything fell on me and we agreed I needed that day.