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For thinking it's ok for DC to watch TV before school

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thirdistheonewiththehairychest · 23/05/2024 08:31

If they're completely ready to walk out of the door.
We just got a TV in the lounge yesterday, and DH has gone a bit huffy about them watching it this morning.

Just want to check if I'm being unreasonable because DH has a tendency to be a bit of a party-pooper and I'm not sure if that is colouring my judgement and I'm unwisely pushing back against that.

Do your DC watch TV before school?

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ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife · 23/05/2024 09:42

Nctodayjan24 · 23/05/2024 09:39

I used to feel like that no I'm more of the everyone fed no one dead motto.

Mine are the world's slowest eaters so they get up watch tv with their breakfast. (Cardboard Cereal not eggs or greek yoghurt) while myself and dh gets ourselves showered and dressed for a full day work as well as pack lunches and bags and afterschool lunches. If we were sitting at the table discussing politics I would be going to work in my pyjamas.
No issue with turning it off.

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Sunshineclouds11 · 23/05/2024 09:40

We have TV on before school.

He's absolutely fine to leave it to get ready and no issues turning off to leave.

Nctodayjan24 · 23/05/2024 09:39

ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife · 23/05/2024 09:31

Sometimes I read threads on here and it makes me feel like a shitty parent with an utterly chaotic household.

And then I speak to people in the real world and I realise that a lot of people on here are either (I) anal as fuck, or (II) talking complete shite.

I used to feel like that no I'm more of the everyone fed no one dead motto.

Mine are the world's slowest eaters so they get up watch tv with their breakfast. (Cardboard Cereal not eggs or greek yoghurt) while myself and dh gets ourselves showered and dressed for a full day work as well as pack lunches and bags and afterschool lunches. If we were sitting at the table discussing politics I would be going to work in my pyjamas.
No issue with turning it off.

redskydarknight · 23/05/2024 09:38

InheritedClock · 23/05/2024 09:30

Why is that funny? I literally don’t know anyone who watches TV in the morning before school/work. Who has time?

Lucky you, knowing only people who don't have young children that get up at the crack of dawn.

LBOCS2 · 23/05/2024 09:34

Sometimes my youngest gets up and puts it on because she's awake earlier than the rest of us. Sometimes they watch bits and pieces on their devices. My eldest went through a phase of having a really long loo break in the morning which was a cover for playing Genshin Impact. They have never been a problem to get to turn it off but it definitely slows things down, so if you can keep it to once everyone's ready then it acts as a good incentive to be ready. I really can't get wound up about it.

thesmedsandthesmoos · 23/05/2024 09:33

Mine are allowed up to half an hour as part of the morning routine, but only once they're ready to go. They never make a fuss about switching it off. If they watch in the morning, then they aren't allowed the TV on after school, as I like to keep it to a minimum where possible! (although we're not at home much after school anyway due to after school clubs/sports etc)

ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife · 23/05/2024 09:31

Sometimes I read threads on here and it makes me feel like a shitty parent with an utterly chaotic household.

And then I speak to people in the real world and I realise that a lot of people on here are either (I) anal as fuck, or (II) talking complete shite.

RedCoffeeCup · 23/05/2024 09:30

I think the person supervising the morning routine gets to decide! So your DH can decide on the mornings when he is responsible for getting the kids ready and out the door, and it's your choice on the mornings when you're doing it.

InheritedClock · 23/05/2024 09:30

Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 23/05/2024 09:18

😂 this place.

Why is that funny? I literally don’t know anyone who watches TV in the morning before school/work. Who has time?

Marblessolveeverything · 23/05/2024 09:29

Not here, I have a very funny radio program on that they love. I just wouldn't want it intruding on our morning.

They get plenty of TV in the evening after homework, sports, play. I couldn't stand the morning nonsense anyway or cartoons at that hour.

Stylishcooncil · 23/05/2024 09:29

It would not have worked for my kids but they are autistic and putting the TV on in the morning forms an extra barrier to the overall transition from bed to school. For any child who wasn't negatively affected by it, I would say why not?

CannotbebotheredNope · 23/05/2024 09:27

At primary school ,yes once completely ready for school. Secondary school TV never on because teenagers generally got up later and had to leave earlier for school.

Mountainhowl · 23/05/2024 09:27

Mine do while eating breakfast, this will change when we get a table to eat at but for now while they have lap trays on the sofa they have the TV on for 15 mins or so

Roundroundthegarden · 23/05/2024 09:25

We don't. I think it sets their brains on the really bad start to the day. My ds stops eating or doing anything once the TV was on.

SleepingStandingUp · 23/05/2024 09:25

Yes they do. We watch CBeebies, and we know our timings by what's on. Of they're not on coats etc by Numberblocks I know we're running behind, but they're no quicker with the telly off and actually it's harder to get them to stop playing toys as they'll be halfway through a game when we need to go. As it is we turn telly off after a set show.

Viewfrommyhouse · 23/05/2024 09:24

I let ds watch something on his ipad in the morning. He comes downstairs fully dressed and teeth cleaned, so I don't see why not. As soon as he's told it's time to go, he gets his shoes on and off we go.

GigiAnnna · 23/05/2024 09:24

I do allow it but it goes off if I find they're gawping at the TV and taking 20 mins to put on a sock.

Invisablepanic · 23/05/2024 09:22

We've always had the rule, no screens before school. My kids do watch TV after school, play on devices so I'm not anti screens but I've never seen the point of introducing it.

DoNotScrapeMyDataBishes · 23/05/2024 09:22

We have the TV on in the morning - DH has a bit of a fondness for Boy Girl Dog Cat Mouse Cheese... the kids are indifferent to it.

Peaceandquiet9276 · 23/05/2024 09:20

SilentSilhouette · 23/05/2024 09:12

Really? I'd say the majority of kids don't have TV on before school!

Mine definitely don't. Even if they were all ready. I can guarantee that when I asked them to turn it off and leave one of them would want another minute or "just watch this bit".

They can watch TV whilst I cook dinner if they must.

Maybe as mine aren’t fussed when it’s turned off. From the replies on this thread, seems I’m wrong!

OmuraWhale · 23/05/2024 09:18

Mine don't, but I don't see this as a big deal either way.

Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 23/05/2024 09:18

InheritedClock · 23/05/2024 09:09

No. To be honest, I’m really surprised so many people do.

😂 this place.

bluetopazlove · 23/05/2024 09:12

Peaceandquiet9276 · 23/05/2024 09:01

Maybe time will tell but my 4 year old knows we have to leave for nursery school and makes no fuss when it’s turned off.

Edited

Probably because he knows it will there another time or there's always something else to watch .When I was a child if you missed it (play school) it was gone .

PuttingDownRoots · 23/05/2024 09:12

My 11yo doesn't need to leave until 8.45, often ready a similar time to her sister who leaves at 8am, so sometimes she does. There's an alarm that goes off at 8am, she knows it goes off then. Or she reads, or plays.

From September she will also leave at 8am, so won't have time.

Its only the last couple of years she's had time really... we live across the road from her current school!

SilentSilhouette · 23/05/2024 09:12

Peaceandquiet9276 · 23/05/2024 08:32

I’d think the majority of children have the TV on before school! We do and they don’t necessarily sit and watch it but it’s useful when I’m trying to do DD’s hair although that is for nursery not school.

Edited

Really? I'd say the majority of kids don't have TV on before school!

Mine definitely don't. Even if they were all ready. I can guarantee that when I asked them to turn it off and leave one of them would want another minute or "just watch this bit".

They can watch TV whilst I cook dinner if they must.