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Teenage reality hitting home

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Globules · 23/05/2024 07:09

My teenagers will be voting their first GE.

We had a chat last night about it, and the conclusion they've come to is that their age group is screwed.

Uni loans, house prices, single life.

DS actually held his head in his hands recognising that his £30k house deposit is pointless until his salary is at a ridiculously high level to service a mortgage.

DD pointed out all of the parties are being silent on policies around their age group.

Whilst they have every right to feel negative about it all, they're optimistic beans. I was listening to them talking and feeling so despondent that life ahead looks so tough for them.

I was married aged 22. Bought our first house aged 24 on just my basic teacher salary (he was self employed, so he was a dependent). They just don't have the same outlook, do they?

I really feel for our under 25s. Just me?

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Enterthewolves · 24/05/2024 19:33

MidnightMeltdown · 23/05/2024 16:07

But then there are people like my Dad who was a postman and bought a large 3 bed house in London in the 70s. Mortgage taken on his income only

@Samlewis96 this was a tiny blip in history though. If you go back further, working class people have never been able to buy houses. The few decades after the war were the exception rather than the norm.

Agree that the generational inequality is unfair though. This is why there should be more tax on wealth and assets, rather than income.

It wasn’t that much of a blip - homeownership was at its most affordable in the 1920s and remained more affordable than now until - well, now.

https://www.schroders.com/en-gb/uk/individual/insights/what-174-years-of-data-tell-us-about-house-price-affordability-in-the-uk/

What 175 years of data tell us about house price affordability in the UK

What we've learned from nearly 200 years of housing data - and is property really a better investment than a pension?

https://www.schroders.com/en-gb/uk/individual/insights/what-174-years-of-data-tell-us-about-house-price-affordability-in-the-uk/

Iwasafool · 24/05/2024 18:31

Globules · 23/05/2024 07:39

He's not a graduate.

He's a teenager working in a shop on £18k pa

His salary is unlikely to get to mortgage levels for a long time.

Edited

To be fair not many teenagers buy houses. I bought my first house in the midst of a house price boom in 1973, it had rising damp, wooden floors and window frames were rotten, needed rewiring, no central heating, kitchen was a sink and dirty cooker. My mother cried when she saw it and said we couldn't possibly take our toddler to live there.

Friend of the family rewired it for us with us just buying the wires/plugs etc. Mum did lend us the money to get the floor fixed, we ripped out the sink and cooker, installed a sink unit and built shelves from wood which we stained. Then there was a price crash and we sold it for a bit more than we paid but if you added in what we spent on it we sold at a loss. That's life when you are young. Bought our second house as interest rates were rising, we applied for one rate, got offered the mortgage at a higher rate and by the time we moved in it had gone up again. Month one in that house we were terrified of any more increases and we could barely live as it was.

Apparently we had it easy but it didn't feel like that at the time.

GingerPirate · 24/05/2024 18:20

SeulementUneFois · 24/05/2024 16:53

Very similar circumstances to you @GingerPirate, and agree 100%.

I see, JustOnceMore 😁
you are presumably also child free and our posts are very similar.
Noticed when I used the nick Patrickiscrazy.
Now I'm not saying we should marry tomorrow, however, it is appreciated 😂👍

SeulementUneFois · 24/05/2024 16:53

GingerPirate · 23/05/2024 10:08

No, I don't feel for teenagers.
Furthermore, I don't think they have the mental capacity to vote.
My generation had it damn difficult.
And before the hate starts, I'm 45,
born in a Communist country. No worries in life now, just thanks to sacrifices and careful planning.
Oh, and self discipline. Do they know what it means?

Very similar circumstances to you @GingerPirate, and agree 100%.

Bobbotgegrinch · 24/05/2024 15:15

@Globules DD pointed out all of the parties are being silent on policies around their age group.

Point out to her that this is largely because her age group don't vote. The very very best thing she can do to make politicians care about her age group is to convince all of her friends to as well. Even if they spoil their ballots, it'll still count as far as the parties are concerned.

If you want politicians to court your vote, there needs to be a vote to court.

Faketanisapain · 24/05/2024 12:12

Globules · 23/05/2024 07:09

My teenagers will be voting their first GE.

We had a chat last night about it, and the conclusion they've come to is that their age group is screwed.

Uni loans, house prices, single life.

DS actually held his head in his hands recognising that his £30k house deposit is pointless until his salary is at a ridiculously high level to service a mortgage.

DD pointed out all of the parties are being silent on policies around their age group.

Whilst they have every right to feel negative about it all, they're optimistic beans. I was listening to them talking and feeling so despondent that life ahead looks so tough for them.

I was married aged 22. Bought our first house aged 24 on just my basic teacher salary (he was self employed, so he was a dependent). They just don't have the same outlook, do they?

I really feel for our under 25s. Just me?

You could always be a guarantor on his mortgage?

If his goal is to buy a home maybe look at all the options available to him.

He’s done well saving 30k and he’s in employment.

Personally don’t think my DC will be in a position to buy til their 30’s as once they’ve finished Uni they’ll be in training posts for over 10 years minimum. However, we have looked at areas they could live and afford once they are settled.

Working towards realistic goals is what life is about unless you are a risk taker. Help and support him map out his plan.

Springchickenonion · 24/05/2024 12:06

Multi generational living is going to come back thick and fast I think

Samlewis96 · 24/05/2024 11:51

MidnightMeltdown · 23/05/2024 16:07

But then there are people like my Dad who was a postman and bought a large 3 bed house in London in the 70s. Mortgage taken on his income only

@Samlewis96 this was a tiny blip in history though. If you go back further, working class people have never been able to buy houses. The few decades after the war were the exception rather than the norm.

Agree that the generational inequality is unfair though. This is why there should be more tax on wealth and assets, rather than income.

Was it really? I bought a place in London 1992 with my ex and it was 33k . Both not earning very much. If I remember I was being paid £119 a week and him slightly less.

It was done on 3 times my income and 1times his.

If the banks hadn't started lending 4 , 5 , 6 times income then the house prices wouldn't have risen so much

RandomButtons · 23/05/2024 19:42

Globules · 23/05/2024 07:39

He's not a graduate.

He's a teenager working in a shop on £18k pa

His salary is unlikely to get to mortgage levels for a long time.

Edited

He’s a teenager with £30k in savings. Please stop and realise what a great start that is.

He has plenty of time to go to uni or find a professional qualification and earn enough money to get a mortgage. No one buys a house in their teens.

MidnightMeltdown · 23/05/2024 16:07

But then there are people like my Dad who was a postman and bought a large 3 bed house in London in the 70s. Mortgage taken on his income only

@Samlewis96 this was a tiny blip in history though. If you go back further, working class people have never been able to buy houses. The few decades after the war were the exception rather than the norm.

Agree that the generational inequality is unfair though. This is why there should be more tax on wealth and assets, rather than income.

YorkNew · 23/05/2024 15:49

OP your teen could be like my youngest DC in a few years time. He is 23, earns 39k and has 55k saved and is on a position to buy a flat in South East England.

PCController2 · 23/05/2024 15:41

Finding it hard to worry about the financial prospects of a 19 year old with 30k savings. He either has fabulous savings skills, or great family financial support!

Juliet194 · 23/05/2024 15:32

Kindly, I think your teenage son with 30k in the bank needs to give his head a little wobble. Things are tough for the younger generations, including mid 30s like me, no doubt, but it sounds like he has had a helping hand from somewhere with the 30k. That is a lot of money to have as a teenager.

He needs a plan. Does he live at home? Where is the 30k? Is he planning on looking at any other jobs with progression or training?

If I were him, I would open a fixed rate cash ISA (there are loads of good deals atm while interest rates are high) and put 16k in, then also open a lifetime cash ISA and put 4k in this year to get the maximum 1k bonus. I would put the remaining 10k into premium bonds for now, and transfer another 4k to the lifetime cash ISA next April to get another 1k bonus, and then another 4k again in April 2026.

If he did this, as well as saving £500 a month until April 2026, then he will have at least £44,000 by then. That's not a bad position for a 21 year old.

TheHornedOne · 23/05/2024 15:28

Thatcher started the problems by letting people buy the council houses.
The banks then made it far worse with BTL.

Having said that, when we bought our first house for £35k, our NHS salaries were £6k and £7k and interest rates were far higher than today and then went higher. We had no furniture except a bed at first and no parental help at all.

To rent that exact same house in 1990 cost £550 a month. Now it rents for £750. Rents are much cheaper now compared to incomes in large parts of the country.

Basically house prices have quadrupled since then but so have salaries in my part of the UK.

There is no single property market in the UK, often people have to move to a different part of the country to get on in life.

TitusMoan · 23/05/2024 15:16

Hereyoume · 23/05/2024 09:46

Well.

Housing is a problem which could be sorted tomorrow. The "crisis" has been caused all the stupid fucking moronic, myopic, dickheads who wanted everything regulated and insisted on "standards" for everything.

Twenty years ago you could rent a converted garage for a few hundred quid a month. Or a dodgy flat for a little bit more. If you wanted to splash out and get a "naice" apartment in the bay, you could. You had choice.

But NO! that wasn't good enough was it!

We HAD to "improve" things, no flat could ever be damp, or cold, or have sketchy door locks.

We insisted on making landlords lives so difficult that they left the business, taking all those properties with them.

I lived in some sketchy places in my time, places with questionable electrics and rough decor. But it was an address, a roof over my head, and it gave me a start. But stupid do-gooders have taken that away from our children.

The moronic dickheads would prefer that our current crop of young people are homeless or depressed instead. Much better to have a 20 year old who can't afford a home of their own than "allow" them to live in a cheap dodgy flat that would give them autonomy and a sense of momentum.

Edited

Spot the BTL landlord

Beezknees · 23/05/2024 15:10

Just under 25s? I'm 34 and can't afford to buy!

MissyB1 · 23/05/2024 14:57

ittakes2 · 23/05/2024 10:23

Its a shift in society concept that the majority own a home. We rent in our 50s - its common in lots of countries.

Yes but it's not necessarily cheaper (in the UK anyway) in fact it's often more expensive to rent. If we had very long term tenancies and /or some form of rent controls then it would work.

Hereyoume · 23/05/2024 13:59

disaggregate · 23/05/2024 10:02

The "crisis" has been caused all the stupid fucking moronic, myopic, dickheads who wanted everything regulated and insisted on "standards" for everything.

You're wrong. Lack of regulation has caused massive inequalities.

How exactly has lack of regulation made rents higher?

Mytholmroyd · 23/05/2024 12:53

I worked in a shop when I left school in the 70s - I was in management for a big chain but still couldn't afford to buy a terraced house until I got married. I lived at home until they transferred me to London where I couldn't afford anything other than renting a room in somebody's house as a lodger.

Lentilweaver · 23/05/2024 12:09

I agree it's tough. But then I point out that my grandmother was taken out of school and forced into a marriage with a stranger when she was 13. My mum was educated but not allowed to work.

And they realise they have it a lot better. Helps if you come from a tough cultural background.

Samlewis96 · 23/05/2024 12:01

CuloGrande · 23/05/2024 10:47

I appreciate i am completely missing the point here - but I am interested in how your son has saved almost double his annual wage at 19?

Maybe an inheritance or savings that we're done for him throughout childhood

KimberleyClark · 23/05/2024 11:21

It is hard but OTOH when I was teen/early 20s, in the early 80s no one expected to go straight from uni to owning their own home/being able to afford the same lifestyle as their parents.

aplthtoa · 23/05/2024 11:12

OP hasn't said anywhere he has saved for it, I assume it's been saved in his name, gifted or inherited.

whyhavetheygotsomany · 23/05/2024 10:52

Yes it's really shit for young people. I feel very sorry for them. They can work really hard and never afford a mortgage. I wouldn't be having kids now that's for sure

CuloGrande · 23/05/2024 10:47

I appreciate i am completely missing the point here - but I am interested in how your son has saved almost double his annual wage at 19?