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New House Neighbours

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Myrkk · 22/05/2024 17:14

Sorry for the long post. I'm at a loss what to do.

We moved house a few months ago to our {we thought} forever house. From the moment we moved in it was lovely. Then 3nights after we moved in the neighbour came to complain we were parked in front of our house and it was causing her an issue. We have a cottage with parking under both windows, they have a 2bed cottage with, well no parking. She kept shouting "one cottage, one car" and started with "you have been told". My hubby had answered the door and was a little shocked and when I went through to defuse the situation she was super grumpy with me too and walked off shouting "one cottage, one car" like a little mantra. A couple of days later I heard him complaining about us to someone from the village (it's a tiny village) who thankfully said they've just moved in give them a break. A couple of weeks later one of their cats went missing and I found it hiding behind one of our sheds and couldn't get it out so called her to come around and get it. No thanks, except a post of face book later on.

Fast forward and her cats are fighting on our roof outside our bedroom window, stalking our elderly dog, using our veggie beds as a litter tray and worst of all, one of our dogs nearly caught one of them as they are so fearless. I used to lift them and pop them on the shed next to our wall, but they then thought it was ok to come into our house so I now spray them with water to get them to run off.

If I'm out speaking to the other neighbour who I go for coffees with occasionally, he'll shout Hi x and ignore me. I usually say hi and smile but have given up doing this over the last few weeks.

My Mum staying over involves her sleeping in the bedroom that overlooks their garden and he will stand an stare in the window at her moving around in the room.

Her hubby keeps putting our bins against our front door and today when I heard it I went out and said could you pop them against the side gate rather than slamming them off the front door which is what it sounded like he did. He moved them and then told me I was rude and he didn't slam them against the door, to which I replied you did last week. I also asked what we had done to get such rude behaviour from them to which he walked away.

I'm at a loss as I feel stressed in our garden, and I love my garden, and it is taking the shine off our new home. I've said to my hubbie maybe this won't be our forever home after all, but my Mum says we should stick our grounds until they move.

AIBU, I'm worried if they're doing this around the village we'll get a name so I'm being scrupulously friendly to everyone.

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frankentall · 22/05/2024 17:42

Still need a diagram as this bit isn't clear -

she finds it difficult to get her car into the space if we're parked in our car park space.

Mcvitieschoccybiscuit · 22/05/2024 17:40

Just ignore them- like really ignore them. Park your cars/ put your bins where you are allowed. If they move your bins put them back. Get a ring door bell. Go out and enjoy your garden and pretend they’re not there. I have a nightmare neighbour and found that when we first moved in I was being very accommodating of her odd ways. She never saw this as me being neighbourly, more went home and wondered what else she could do to try and cause bollocks. I just stopped talking to her in the end- they can’t upset you if you don’t listen.

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Myrkk · 22/05/2024 17:35

I'm end of a terrace of cottages. There is a car wide strip of tarmac outside the house which is owned by the house. We can do whatever we want on this strip of tarmac and we were sold the cottage as two car parking spaces. There is a further strip of bricks just wider than a car next to the road which is owned by the council. It is a very busy road and all cars park on the pavement or in the occasional layby (we don't have one of those) and all neighbours park on the tarmac outside their houses.
I've spoken to the guy who owened the house before us and he said she tried parking her car there and got shirty when he said she couldn't park on his property. So I'm thinking this is them trying to mark their territory with the newbs.

They have the same strips outside their house but she finds it difficult to get her car into the space if we're parked in our car park space. It has now escalated to you can't put your bins in that spot either as it causes her issues getting her car up the pavement (we have a dropped kerb at our bit), hence him moving our bins.

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Aquamarine1029 · 22/05/2024 17:33

You're giving these idiots far too much headspace. Kill them with kindness and allow them to continue to make fools out of themselves. Do what you want, park where you want and ignore ignore ignore. I assure you that everyone knows what these people are like.

WeeOrcadian · 22/05/2024 17:30

Mumsnet rules= diagram

Them's the rules OP

But they sound batshit

frankentall · 22/05/2024 17:26

Diagram needed. By cottage do you mean a terraced house in the South of England?

2dogsandabudgie · 22/05/2024 17:19

I'm a bit confused, is it 2 designated parking bays for your cottage or just parking on the road outside?

UntiltheGirl · 22/05/2024 17:18

I'm not clear on the parking situation. Is this street parking, or is there is a carparking area in front of the cottages?