So so sick of antisocial selfish people

YANBU. I agree, every bus and train any time of day has someone not using earphones as well as at bus stops, stations, in queues, in the supermarket or other shops, in the street, in any eaterie less formal than 2 Michelin stars, starched tablecloths and - alleluia - hushed tones. I tend to ask them whether they have earphones as long as they don't look as if they will murder me. Women tend to look embarrassed and turn off phone or put in earphones, some scream in my face to fuck off. Men will almost exclusively say something insulting and sexist like fuck off little bitch then get off or change carriage at the next station. Women tend to be young (16-30) whereas men tend to be in their 40s or 50s.

The other thing I find arseholey is puffing out huge clouds of stinking vape on captive breathers e.g. while waiting to cross the road at a crowded crossing, while waiting for bus or train in a big crowd squished into a small area, in a closeknit queue e.g. cashpoint, outside bakery. Or indoors in public spaces like lifts, toilets, stations.

Yes people have always been arseholes but the audio capacity of mobile phones and the invention of vapes have increased the frequency of selfish, unpleasant behaviour in public places where we often don't entirely 'choose' to be (public transport to work, supermarket, etc.)

For some very dense types the rise of Social Media has created the feeling that everyone is interested in viewing/witnessing/interacting with their boring mundane shit. I find it's the most dense or arrogant from one particular age range. If everyone on the bus could immediately 'unlike' the behaviour and remove device until exit of journey it might help.

I'm afraid I have lost my shit on two occasions with people who do this. Once with a man in a hotel restaurant at breakfast time, and once with a man on a train. The shock at having a short fat post-menopausal woman going batshit at them seemed to do the trick.

It's entitlement and self-absorption manifesting as Main Character Syndrome. Their life is a reality show and we are merely extras.

People have always done these things, it’s not new. Arseholes have always existed.

Vent away OP, I'm here to commiserate. Was on a bus a couple days ago sat next to a woman having a FaceTime conversation without headphones. She ignored my dirty looks. Then heard through the speakers the sounds of bus doors opening and closing (the beeping) so it was one asshole talking to another.

I contemplated blasting music out of my phone so that she couldn't hear, but then I'd be torturing everyone else

Right it sucks but you can't control other people Anker sound core noise cancelling headphones and an air purifier might help with your current issues.