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To just feel so sad that I can’t give my child the same education as another

227 replies

hunnsh · 22/05/2024 15:44

I will never have the money to send my dc to private school. For starters I’m a single parent but even when I was with her dad we would have massive struggled to pay fees.

Two of my ‘mum friends’ have chosen private school for their daughters, same age as my daughter and they are doing so much more than my child. They have weekly swimming and sports classes, the food is even miles better than at state, they have their own theatre, the classes are half the size of my daughter’s. I know you can still do well at a state school and my daughter does seem happy but I know already that her chances are lesser than these other two. They are both miles ahead in confidence and I can only put that down to how the classes are smaller and they are exposed to more activities etc. It makes me so sad for my daughter. I know there’s nothing that can be done but it seems so unfair? It’s like their futures are already marked out a little bit and all down to the fact they have been lucky to go somewhere everyday that is more focused on them. Just feel like it’s very unfair.

OP posts:
Womblingmerrily · 22/05/2024 15:48

Life is unfair in a myriad different ways.

Your daughter will have advantages and disadvantages, talents and difficulties.

It is your job as a parent to help her develop her talents and cope with her difficulties.

You are wasting time and energy with envy of others.

Bluevelvetsofa · 22/05/2024 15:47

Comparison is the thief of joy.